How will you know if your Girlfriend/Boyfriend is unfaithful?

Philippines
January 12, 2011 11:46pm CST
I have a best friend and she ask me this questions if how will I know if my boyfriend is unfaithful. I told her that girls have a strong intuition when it comes to sensing that their current lover is doing something behind their back. I also had a couple of experiences way back 2 years ago. I caught my boyfriend sending text messages to another girl that he want the two of them to meet up. And there are times when I text him if where he is I have to wait for around 10 minutes for him to reply. And of course, he doesn't treat me the way he treats me when we are together. So can you share some of your experiences guys if your girlfriend or boyfriend is doing some things behind your back. thanks
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@SIMPLYD (74777)
• Philippines
13 Jan 11
Yes, those are the real signs that your boyfriend is into something fishy or being unfaithful. You can actually feel if he is not interested in you anymore. He has a lot of excuses when you ask him to meet you. The visits to you becomes frequent. He always keep his cellphone away from you or it's now always on his pocket. He seemed to be preoccupied though, you are talking to him. He is in attentive to your discussions. Most of all, you can feel it in one way or another. Call it a woman's intuition.
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• Philippines
14 Jan 11
Thanks for the reply. Yes, girl's have strong intuition if their boyfriend is doing something behind their back. And if he always makes excuses well maybe that is the time for us to slow down a bit in the relationship and try to evaluate things if we still have to move on or stay and regret it in the end.
• Philippines
13 Jan 11
Greetings! I agree with what you've said. I also had a boyfriend before. I also caught him because of a text message. Well, before that, I just notice that whenever I text him, it takes too long for him to respond. Then whenever I call him, he doesn't answer it. I was just thinking that he's busy. I gave him my full trust which made me blind. I trusted him that no matter what he do, I understand it but I don't know that he already cheating on me. If your boyfriend has no time for you. If he has a lot of excuses unlike before that he has always time. Excuses, late responses, no more sweetness, and many more. You would just feel it if he's cheating on you but to make sure that's he's unfaithful, do something. What I did is I discovered it by myself. I went to their house to surprise him but I was surprise not to see him. He told me that he's on his house but he isn't there. I also asked her cousins and friends what is he doing then I figured it out. I WAS THE THIRD PARTY! NOT THE OTHER GIRL AND IT REALLY HURTS. :( i was so bitter but then past is past. I'm okay now. So girls, don't gave your full trust. Too much trust can make you blind. :) happy mylotting! :)
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@pogi253 (1587)
• Philippines
13 Jan 11
Deceitful boyfriend test is one of the ways to know that your boyfriend is cheating on you. But, the test alone cannot recognize if your boyfriend is really unfaithful. His attributes, attitudes and behaviors can also be a big aspect to look at. A combination of these two will help you successfully study what is going on with him and to your relationship as a whole. Some signs that your boyfriend is cheating on you: Reduced Intimacy and touching coldness, One big sign that your boyfriend is dishonest is when he has lots of reasons why he can't spend time with you, He make use of the computer frequently especially late at night but he's not chatting with you, His typical routine unexpectedly changes without compelling reason or cause, He is now more aware on his physical appearance and his haircut.
• United States
11 Nov 15
You've listed some really good signs. But I think your intuition is the best guide of all. I would just like to add that some relationships just aren't meant to last. I feel like if someone is cheating, the relationship is really already over.
13 Jan 11
Hi! For me, its really how the person treat that person... Girls can easily feel if a guy wants that girl. But some guys acted like they like the girl but they really don't. Its really the trust and the foundation of your relationship. You really can't judge a person without proof or by the way you feel. Try to talk to your partner about this, about how you feel and they way they will react will be important on your decision on whether to stay on that relationship or not.. Good Luck on your relationship and God Bless!
@Andyvil (793)
• Philippines
13 Jan 11
I think the only way for you to find out if your partner is cheating on you is to spy on them. Although there are some signs you could see like always telling you that they are busy. It could also be that they suddenly change how they act around you. Things that you usually do rarely happen. It could also be that she/he is no longer interested in spending time with you and always tries to find an issue between the two of you. Well as I mentioned earlier, the only way to really know weather your partner is cheating is to spy on them.