Is it wrong if I let my boyfriend for cheating me?

@rifnee (1713)
Indonesia
January 14, 2011 12:46am CST
I always say to my boyfriend, if he wants to cheat, tell me first. Introduce the candidate affair .. If I say "yes" then please, but if I say "no" then he's right to vote. I certainly ripe with distinguished consideration before answering, I'm like this because I realized I was not a perfect woman, because it is not no human being is perfect. And since I do not like when I was in lying to, honestly ... Not hard, right? But my friend always be opposed, they say that I am the stupidest woman, etc.. They said, the guy is not going to waste this opportunity, it's the same thing if I'm not 100% love my boyfriend ... But I think I'm a loyal type and I never fool around to commit. So far we are fine .. What do you think? Am I crazy?
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11 responses
@flagella08 (5065)
• Philippines
14 Jan 11
yes you are crazy. im sorry but that was your question so i just answered it. no woman i her right mind would allow her lover to cheat. why not tame your man? do some things that he can miss in you. if those wont work, then it will never be. Leave and find a man who will love you and no matter what you do an dbecome. Best of luck!
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@rifnee (1713)
• Indonesia
15 Jan 11
it's ok, because I want to know what you think of me, this is as evaluation materials for me to want to always be the best.
@skpknr (5)
• Kuwait
14 Jan 11
hi, I think, in way you are taking permission to cheat your boyfriend by allowing him to cheat you
@rifnee (1713)
• Indonesia
15 Jan 11
I understand it, this is a lesson for me to be better, I really appreciate your advice, I have not found a supportive response here. Maybe I was wrong to do so.
@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
15 Jan 11
rifnee, Let me just say that you are NOT stupid but naive to lay such a condition. I hope you will realize that most betrayals are never discovered till the last and fateful moment. If not, how do you think the effects could be so devastating for the betrayed party? In addition, I must remind you additionally that Love is freewill. True love cannot be forced upon by threat, violence, demand, anger, abuse, terror, fear, guilt or habit. If it does, the relationship will no doubt be intense and unfulfillable. And you know what? This is but the very rudimentary understanding in Love - that we all must see the logic, in which Love is a choice and the choice made to stay in a relationship must be attributed to the individual's freewill. If not, misery will follow suit consequentially. Therefore, it is your partner's choice is the desire to be 'in' or 'out' because Love is an inside thing, than an outside job. Take care and hope you see the point here.
• Philippines
17 Jan 11
Well why would you want him to cheat with you. I mean you said why but come on. Everybody's not perfect, we all got flaws. We are not God to be perfect. But yet that is not enough reason for us to cheated with and be treated like that. Well its just my opinion. Everybody deserves a nice committed long lasting relationship.
@gengeni (3308)
• Indonesia
18 Jan 11
You watch too much movies! or the most watched soap opera? maybe it sounds seem very sincere, very unfortunately, by the way, is it true you'll be able to make do? talk is easy, but do not undergo as easy as it seems ... so, we suggest you first think human heart is selfish, do not seem sincere. so do not tempt your heart, my advice, because there would be as simple as it seems.
• Indonesia
15 Jan 11
probably will give a chance again. Because someone said that baseball will never be better off without a second chance. Everyone has one, as well as companions.
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
15 Jan 11
Do you expect to be cheated on? I don't want to assume but I've known a couple of other women just like you and their reason is because they don't trust any man to be faithful. You open yourself up to so much trouble by allowing that kind of thing. Instead you should ask that they end the relationship with you if they are sure they will be cheating. That way they can be moving on and not wasting your time.
@emine08 (1551)
• Indonesia
14 Jan 11
i think it is normal if you do like that. he is just your boyfriend not your husband. i think you are crazy if you let your husband cheating you and you give permission to do it. it is really really crazy. maybe the apocalypse will come soon
• Canada
15 Jan 11
Sorry but yes. By allowing him to chet you are showing that maybe your relationship isn't that strong. If you loved him it would hurt you to know he's with another woman.
• Indonesia
15 Jan 11
Lol, really, only this time I find a woman like this, yea you are the one, maybe you could have said that your relationship is fine. But remember, the original face of a man is when he is behind us. Maybe now you're being betrayed by the uterus without you knowing. Honestly, this is very funny.
@Messyrax (147)
14 Jan 11
crazy you are! if he loves you he should have eyes for you and desire for you only. so the fact that he cheats on you means he dont love you. secondly you allowing you to cheat on you,, thats pure madness,, thats the worst crime you can ever commit in a relationship. the way you say you are not perfect means you have a low esteem of yourself!! thats bad be proud of yourself girl and wake up,,unless you mean that you still cheat on him,,,and i dont know if you both have affairs how you can call what you have a relationship. give him an ultimatum....choose to cheat and you lose me or you be faithful and we live together