is jealousy the result of too much love?

Philippines
November 18, 2006 9:12pm CST
or too much insecurity? what do you think?
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• Philippines
22 Jan 07
there many kind jealousy..to friend, parents, ans so many others. sometimes it is because of insecurities. there is no love when there is no jealousy? am i right..jealousy is sometimes cause by selfishness..
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• Philippines
22 Jan 07
selfishness because you'd want to have all the attention? thanks for responding. your comment is well appreciated.
@pusiket (1759)
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
It is the result of not having trust at all.
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
really? so if you get just a teeny, weeny bit jealous, does it already mean that you don't trust your partner at all?
@joshen (47)
• Philippines
21 Jan 07
love can always come up with jealousy,your not in love if you dont get jealous,but too much jealousy only shows insecurities.
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• Philippines
22 Jan 07
they must go hand-in-hand, then, huh? like bacon and eggs? lol!
• Philippines
21 Jan 07
For me jealousy and love comes hand in hand, it becomes unhealthy when it is too much that you tend to hold on a thing that cannot think for himself.
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• Philippines
22 Jan 07
yeah, it's okay to be jealous so long as it doesn't get out of hand. thanks for responding.
• India
21 Jan 07
Healthy jealousy is fine I guess. When we are possessive about someone we tend to get jealous when the attention of the other person gets distributed. I used to be jealous of every single girl my boyfriend used to talk to,and I think it was because I loved him a lot.But at the same time I had other insecurities too because our relation was a long distance one and on top of it we had never seen each other.So it was very natural for me to get jealous. Since we couldn't meet and all we shared a bond over net and by talking over phone.But if he gives the same attention to someone else like talking to them over phone and net too just like he talks to me then in what way will I feel that I am his girlfriend or I am a special person in his life.It used to make me think I am just like any other friend of his.
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• Philippines
22 Jan 07
very well said. thanks for responding. i guess it's pretty normal to be jealous, then, huh? as long as it doesn't get obsessive or whatever, what do you think?
• Philippines
21 Jan 07
i would like to believe that jealousy is both insecurity and too much love. i am kinda jealous person. the cause of which is having to love too much.it won't even cross my mind seeing my man with other girl i will be a lot jealous. and insecure thinking that he do that because i might be a little too unpretty.
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@mridig (202)
• India
8 Jan 07
Jealousy typically refers to the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that occur when a person believes a valued relationship is being threatened by a rival. The word jealousy stems from the French jalousie, formed from jaloux (jealous), and further from Low Latin zelosus (full of zeal), and from the Greek word for "ardour, zeal" (with a root connoting "to boil, ferment"; or "yeast"). Jealousy is a familiar experience in human relationships. It has been reported in every culture and in many forms where researchers have looked. [1] [2] [3] It has been observed in infants as young as 5-6 months old and in adults over 65 years old. [4] [5] [6] [7] It has been an enduring topic of interest for scientists, artists, and theologians. Psychologists have proposed several models of the processes underlying jealousy and have identified individual differences that influence the expression of jealousy. Sociologists have demonstrated that cultural beliefs and values play an important role in determining what triggers jealousy and what constitutes socially acceptable expressions of jealousy. Biologists have identified factors that may unconsciously influence the expression of jealousy. Artists have explored the theme of jealousy in photographs, paintings, movies, songs, plays, poems, and books. Theologians have offered religious views of jealousy based on the scriptures of their respective faiths. Despite its familiarity, however, people define jealousy in different ways. Some even mislabel it as being protective of something or someone, when the fact is, it's really simply possessive jealousy itself; and many feel they don't possess effective strategies for coping with this form of jealousy. [8]
• Philippines
8 Jan 07
thanks for such a detailed description of the term, jealousy. i'd like to know what you, personally, think, though. your last line states that people define jealousy in different ways. care to share your views?
@daryljane (3439)
• Philippines
24 May 07
jealousy - jealousy of insecurity?
actually, not all jealousy is insecurity..there are times that youre jealouse because youre given the reason to be jealous, there are times that youre not confident at where you really stand, thats why youre jealous, there are also times that youre insecure thats why youre jealous..there are actually a lot of types of jealousy...and it boils down to one..too much love! lolz!
• Philippines
23 May 07
well for me..jealousy is not bad when you use it properly. you can be jealous if your partner is showing up motives that will hurt you like flirting with other girls/guys even when you're around. just be careful coz jealousy can ruin your relationship. :)
@edujccz (929)
• Philippines
17 May 07
My idea is contrary, jealosusy is not the result of too much in love but the product of hate, it means that jealousy will boils down from a relationship after an act which is an acceptable to you or you hate what the person is doing, but in the other way around , if you love what he is doing, normally you dont get jealous. just a joke and i want you to smile.......
@EvanHunter (4030)
• United States
17 May 07
jealousy tends to come from our negative emotions not the positive ones. for sure I would have to say its insecurity and it usually has to do with some past issue that we havent worked out.
@magica (3710)
• Bulgaria
30 Apr 07
Both! But "too much love" sometimes is equal to "too much obsession", "i want to have my partner, to own him, to dominate, to control"... And this is not love.
@diansinta (7554)
• Indonesia
30 Apr 07
it goes to "pride" too.
• Philippines
25 Feb 07
Too much of something is bad. You can never justify because it is too much love, because if you love the person then you should trust him, on the other hand it could be insecuirty and not having much confidence. But from time to time, it is kind of sweet that your partner gets jealous.
@manong05 (5030)
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
jealousy as long as it is controlled and within the bounds of reason is perfectly alright. The problem is when the one who is jealous becomes obssessed and commit acts that already borders on insanity that surely destroys relationship.
@blueman (16516)
• India
19 Nov 06
maybe or maynot be.