Going out again with my ex --- after 10 years!
January 19, 2011 2:15am CST
So my first boyfriend and I are going out again. Well I don't know how to classify what we're doing, if we're just hanging out like buddies, or dating. We were together for just less than a year last 2001. But we've been very good friends ever since. We've been close since we were 9 years old. We got together after high school but broke up because we wanted different things. We weren't cool with the break up at that time but I think friendship prevailed so we talked things over and were good friends again. Don't get me wrong. We hang out a lot especially because we have the same circle of friends. We go out to eat, movies, etc. I was even his confidante when he was with his girlfriend before. Our friends always tease us, because we're still close. But I never though of it as something romantic. We're friends. Period. But lately, we've been talking nonstop again. Up to the wee hours in the morning. Even while he's at work. He even told me to inform him when I'll be back in Manila. And when he's here in the province, he would always ask me out, to dinner or to have coffee or to just hang out wherever. I don't want to sound assuming. And I don't want to put malice in what he's doing. Mainly because we were like this before. Although there was a lag because of work and school. But now, things are as I described. So I don't know... I don't want to ask because I don't want to get embarrassed when he tells me this is nothing. And IF EVER he's trying to get back with me, I don't know if that's what I want. Things didn't work out the first time because we wanted completely different things in life. It's different when you're just friends with someone and things are like that.... Hmmm... Just sharing. Have a good day my dear myLotters.
20 Jan 11
I got so "kilig" when I read this. haha. Anyway, I think you should just let things be and unless he tells you what he feels about you then that is the time that you should really think about it. For now, just enjoy the friendship and the closeness. As much as I am a fan of your love team, I know rushing things don't usually make things any smoother. God Bless you my dear friend! Just tell me when you are home and we will go on a chick hunting spree. hehe.
20 Jan 11
OMG kabarkadudet this is a secret! hahaha! Becca is the only other person who knows about this. Haha! But it's not like I'm beginning to like him in a romantic way again... My problem is how to deal with it if ever it comes to the point that we're beginning to act like a couple again. You see, I only see him as a friend. A best friend maybe. I know it's too soon to tell, and that I shouldn't really close my doors. But if and only if that happens, I'm afraid to lose a very good friend... Because i don't want to get romantically involved with him again. At least for now that's how i feel. he's different "na". we're two very different persons whom i think would work only as friends. Not as a couple. Please don't think im too assuming. haha! Anyway, thanks kabarkadudet. yours is always the best response. haha!
21 Jan 11
I totally can relate to your story.. My love story is just like that. My boyfriend/ fiance now is my ex-boyfriend when we were back in highschool(around 11 years ago) and we got back together around 4 years ago. Now we're planning on getting married. Just like you, after we broke up, we still remained friends, even if his girlfriend didn't approve of our friendship back then. Hehehe. He confided in me things, and even when his gf got pregnant, we still remained friends. They never got married (thank goodness for that!!) and the girl left him eventually... We also started talking non-stop, he went to my place almost everyday, and he didn't even ask me to get back together. It just happened, though we tried to take things slow.. I do believe if it's meant to be then it will happen. Just enjoy what you have right now, and if it's really for you, then all will fall into the right place.
19 Jan 11
I think that you both deserve a second chance, I mean if things didn't work out for you the first time it was maybe God has made plans for both of you, you were not mature at that time and now that the time is right then you can atleast take thins gradually,Id say that you dont assume anything, yeah action speaks louder than words but reality bites, words best describes how we feel right, so just take time with each other and maybe things will work out for you...
• United States
19 Jan 11
We don't have to say never when we end a relationship. We just don't know that it won't come back to us in a different way. Second chances at relationships can be better than before. We just never know what time will do to a relationship and how we will feel.