Soft spot for Someone

@Lance26 (957)
Philippines
January 20, 2011 10:19pm CST
Have you ever experienced this feeling towards someone whom you barely knew? As if there is something that connects you two but cannot explain what is it? I have this classmate way back high school, a girl, shy type, chubby cute, doesn't mingle to us and often alone in her seat. She's not snob or has the attitude that you may not want to befriend her, she's just silently watching over in the corner. Many times I asked her why not joining the other girls, all I got was her cute smile for an answer. Everytime we do a group work, I always make her as one of my members. I wanted to make her feel that she wasn't an outcast and we can be her friends. To make the story short, we became comfortable to each other, sharing assignments, study together, going out etc. upto the point we were mistaken as lovers. We didn't love each other the romantic way, she's sister to me and I know she felt the same way. We lost our communication after High School, I just knew she and her family had moved to another province. I searched her on FB, sadly no names matched hers. She probably married now and using her husband's surname or she doesn't have account yet like my old friends. I wonder, what happened to her. Sigh!
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5 responses
• United States
21 Jan 11
I hear exactly what you are saying. I have friends like that who you just join up with and cannot really explain it. But it's not a romantic thing. i also have searched facebook for some of these friends with no luck at all! I hope you find her - she's gotta be out there somewhere!!
@Lance26 (957)
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
I'm still hopeful we'll meet again someday. We have this Alumini Homecoming this february I hope she'll be there and my other old friends and schoolmates. This is gonna be fun.
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• United States
21 Jan 11
That would be awesome !! I hope you see her there or at least find someone who knows her and can give you some contact information!!
@Lance26 (957)
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
Thanks! I know this will make a way to reunite with old friends.
@Sanitary (3969)
• Singapore
22 Jan 11
YEs, i experienced that before, while schooling. There's this quiet shy boy always sitting in one corner, waiting to be invited for anything from outings to group studies. He don't have the initiative to ask and that's how i noticed him. After some time, i was mistaken to fall for him because i'm always taking the initiative to him. However, that's not the case, i don't like him, i just want him to open up, and make friends.
@Lance26 (957)
• Philippines
23 Jan 11
Many times, me and my long lost friend mistaken us as lovers. We used to it, we just don't mind what other people might say about us, instead our friendship grew more stronger.
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@Marmot (595)
• United States
22 Jan 11
I have a similar experience with you, but in my story, I am the silently one. The girl always invited me to join her and her friends, and finally we become very best friends. But after high school, I went for college far away from my hometown and barely lost contact with her. Fortunately, I got her FB after I finished my bachelor and now we can communicate with each other. But I can feel that the feeling between us can never come back as a so closed friend through these years of blank. Sign...
@Lance26 (957)
• Philippines
22 Jan 11
That's nice. You found your way how to communicate to her again although as you said the closeness between you is not as good as before. Give her a time, she must be in the adjusting stage or maybe in the years you didn't see eachother something had happened to her. Ask her to go out or take her in the place you used to go. That's what I plan to do when I meet this long lost friend of mine again.
@blueblink (246)
• Philippines
22 Jan 11
Maybe she/he has a resemblance or likeness with someone very special in your past. I have a friend and he always smile whenever he saw our OJT because she is very similar with her girlfriend before. Similar in the sense the the girl and her X girlfriend can be considered as Sisters.
@Lance26 (957)
• Philippines
22 Jan 11
What I feel for her is not about love between opposite gender, she's a sister to me that I always wanted to protect, cheer-up, support her in any way I could. Although admittedly, she possess that best smile I ever seen in my life.
@koikei (207)
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
greetings! she could have been your soulmate? don't worry, if you have that strong of a connection, sooner or later, you will find each other again. this reminds me of a barry manilow song... hehe
@Lance26 (957)
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
Somewhere down the road. Is that it? Soulmate? It could be. Yes hopefully we'll meet again if she shows up in our Alumni homecoming.