Does your introvert nature bother your family members?

India
January 23, 2011 1:34pm CST
Hello people. Well i am a guy who hardly talks to anyone. I am a reserved person infact and i generally do not talk much to my parents. But when it comes to my friends, i am the only person who is talking all the time. My parents see that and they often complain why i dont talk to them like i do with my friends? Well that does not mean that i dont like talking to them, but somehow i dont feel much comfortable talking to them. Do you face the same prob? What should i do to change my nature? Suggestions please.
3 responses
@margeryann (1845)
• United States
25 Jan 11
It is harder to talk to parents sometimes for some people because it is harder to talk about things that you feel comfortable to talk to to your friends because some parents might not like to hear what you talk about to your friends and some people are afraid that their parents might not want them to talk to them about things that they feel comfortable to talk to to their friends about. They are afraid that their parents with be judgmental on what they have to say. If that is the case you can start talking to them about things that they do like fishing for example or ask them on how they are doing on something they do and maybe you can talk more because something they say you might have had that happen to you or shows they get into or whatever. I don't know all parents are different. Some parents like you to talk to them about everything even things that you do that they wouldn't do because they like for you to be comfortable in you telling them everything and some parents get mad that you are doing something that they don't want you to do so it all depends on the parents and even if they are the parents that don't want to hear there kids talk about some things sometimes you might have more things in common to talk about then you think. It takes some creative thinking sometimes.
• India
25 Jan 11
Ya right mam. Thanks for advicing. :)
@vastari (331)
• Ireland
23 Jan 11
I don't have a problem with it. When I get home, I generally stay in my room, and keep to myself. but when I'm with my friends I tend to speak a lot more than with my family. It doesn't seem to bother my family that much, but I try to make the effort to talk a lot at family meals. Just talke about stuff that isn't important, like a new film that came out or something. That might help, and it might be easier to talk about.
• India
24 Jan 11
Yeah talking about new films can help, but my family isnt much into this stuff. But i got your point. I should talk more about things that i know and can share with my family.
• Philippines
24 Jan 11
Actually it's my extroverted type that kinda bothers them. Whenever I'm drunk I do a lot of stuff, stupid stuff and my brother is usually the one who fixes it up for me. There was a time when I was just drinking with brothers outside and there was a chic walking. I was drunk and was interested to know the chic. Of course, when you're drunk you can do whatever you like without procrastinating. I stood up and walked towards the chic. I introduced myself and pointed her to our table. I didn't realize I was already grabbing her arm with me, not to mention that I also didn't realize her saying no to me. My brother came up and talked to the girl calmly, apologizing for my behaviour. Then after the girl went away, he grabbed me on the back of the neck telling me how rude I was.