Why do you stare at people?

@lady1993 (19748)
Philippines
January 28, 2011 3:34am CST
I stare at people sometimes.. Do you? Why? I stare at people for many reasons: either he's cute, he or she looks familiar, h or she's also staring at me, etc.. Why do yu stare at people..Is staring bad?
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15 responses
• Romania
7 Feb 11
I believe that staring at people is not the right word for me, more like observing them. I study people behavior, i'm very curios about how they act, their mimics and gestures, facial expressions and choice of words, when i'm close enough to hear. Usually i do it with people engaged in a conversation or very concentrated in their thoughts. I don't like to embarrass anyone, but sometimes i pretend that i'm a fly, that nobody can see me back and i loose myself in the act of observation. I found many interesting things about people behavior this way, and my readings on the body language of the persons i come in contact became very good. So, yeah, it's better if they don't see you, but i believe observing people to be very useful.
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@lady1993 (19748)
• Philippines
10 Jun 11
Yes, it can be useful at times... and you can even learn some things from it. If you observe the right people- I am not that observant though..but my mom is..
19 May 11
I stare at people for the same reasons as you. Also, I stare because I have O.C.D. and sometimes feel that I HAVE to look, then look again, then look again. I have angered a few people doing this.
@lady1993 (19748)
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
Oh, OCD.. I'm sorry. Some people just don't understand your situation since you can't really control what you do...
@sais06 (1288)
• Philippines
2 Feb 11
There are many reasons why we stare at people. I stare at people if I'm interested with that person or something caught my attention to him/her. But I'd rather say it's rude. I'll only stare at people if they stare back at me, that means they are also interested in me and that could mean new friends. It also depends on the way you stare at them. Just be aware because you might look like being a stalker.
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@lady1993 (19748)
• Philippines
10 Jun 11
Haha.. yeah, that's why people shouldn't stare that long, or else they'll look like a stalker. Thanks for your response sais06.
@angel107 (311)
• Germany
28 Jan 11
I stare at people to because they look good or bad but I do not do it really long because it is rude and I dont want to get caught staring. And when I caught someone staring at me, I stare back and smile.
@lady1993 (19748)
• Philippines
28 Jan 11
I never smile at people who stare at me..I don't even like people to stare at me, it makes me uncomfortable.. I don't stare that long too and I'm cautious in staring, so I won't get caught.
@angel107 (311)
• Germany
28 Jan 11
You have to smile at time so they will know that you caught them staring at you and then they feel embarrassed and would look away quickly.
@angel107 (311)
• Germany
28 Jan 11
*at them
• Philippines
18 Feb 11
I am definitely guilty of this one. Well, I sometimes stare at people mainly because they look familiar to me. I have this photographic memory of some sort. I tend to remember strangers' faces all the time and when I bump into them, I stare. People say staring is rude but I don't think it is when you're just staring and not ogling. Those are completely different things. Some find staring rude when you're actually drooling or making creepy faces while staring for too long. If ever someone stared at me like that, I would surely throw a fit. Staring may be generally rude but as long as you don't physically hurt or emotionally traumatize anyone, I guess it's legal. :)
@Kirinx (1693)
• United States
27 Apr 11
cool im excellent at remembering faces as well even if i havent seen the person for years.
@lady1993 (19748)
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
Yeah, ogling is definitely another thing.. I remember strangers faces too, especially if I see them more than 3 times already. I agree, staring can't really harm others unless you stare like a stalker..
• Singapore
7 Jun 11
I don't think the word staring is the appropriate word if you're looking at the person cause you think he's cute. It's more like you're looking in admiration haha and i always to that with to the pretty girls but i try not to be too obvious and i glance at her from time to time. If not it's just weird
@lady1993 (19748)
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
Yeah, well, staring may not be the appropriate word- but it's an easy word to understand. But yeah, glance will apply- but some people just stare, it's scary..welcome to mylot seanteixeria92.
@Kirinx (1693)
• United States
27 Apr 11
Well staring isnt really bad but it can be really annoying.I dont usually stare at someone unless i think I know them, i like something they are wearing, or I like the way he/she looks. Its better just to have quick looks at a person and look away.
@lady1993 (19748)
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
Yes, staring is bad and annoying for the person being stared at.. which is why I don't stare that much and just glance for a few milliseconds.. so I won't get caught.
• Philippines
27 Apr 11
Yes i do stare at people sometimes. My attention is mostly caught when someone is goodlooking or the opposite of it. If someone is doing something funny, something wrong or anything that is attention catchy, i would also stare. If the person stares back at me, i would look away, staring is not bad - if the person doesn't know you're staring ;)
@lady1993 (19748)
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
Yeah, if you don't get caught. These days I just keep staring at little kids or babies since they are just so cute and they play around a lot and it makes me smile observing them.
@sweet_pea (3326)
• Philippines
27 Apr 11
I try not to stare at people but sometimes there are just some people that I cannot take my eyes from. Specially those good looking people that you just so admire. I don’t really stare at them but I always give a glance every 2 seconds so as not to become too obvious. To some people, starting could be an act of rudeness. Since you will be making people uncomfortable with your scrutiny. People think that they are sort of a lens in a microscope when they are being stared at.
@lady1993 (19748)
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
Yeah, staring is rude- so we should just not get caught doing it. I don't like being started at too- which is why I don't stare at people that much... unless, as you've said, they're just so god-looking.
@EdnaReyes (2628)
• Philippines
2 Feb 11
Well, I stared at people if something is peculiar in his face, his looks or his aura. I stare at people who;s not behaving well and right (as if saying hey, you're acting rude)I stare at people when I'm thinking deeply and his face is my point of return into reality!
@lady1993 (19748)
• Philippines
10 Jun 11
So, you have otehr reasons why you stare at people.. My mom does that too- to tell a person to behave or act properly. I don't do that though, since I don't want t start a fight.
• Philippines
1 Feb 11
i dont stare people...it makes me feel so uncomfortable...i dont know if staring people is bad...but i guess its not...maybe you wer just curious about them...
@lady1993 (19748)
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
Yeah, some people think staring at other people is bad.. but still some people do it too. Yeah, there are lots of reasons why I stare, but I don't even stare that long, just a few seconds..
@ph1los (20)
• Lithuania
31 Jan 11
Well staring as a manner is rather mmmmm... missunderstood in the curent world. Some say it is impolite to stare.They are partialy right, but as a fully functionable human beeing you have the right to do so! If you haven't noticed (or maybe I did'nt) that staring is often hard to control as it happens unnexpecetdly.Lets call staring a brain reaction to the outside world, you try to look and remember the object you are looking at by getting a closer look, or I myself sometimes get carried away and imagine what could happen to the object that I'm looking at, and I usualy do it too long so I do not notice how a simple glimpse turns into a longer look. In coclusion don't be afraid to look becouse that what for you got eyes.
@lady1993 (19748)
• Philippines
10 Jun 11
Yeah, as long as you aren't doing harm to that person you're staring at or he or she won't catch you.. we do have the right to stare. As long as we don't stare at stuff we shouldn't...
@Theresaaiza (10484)
• Australia
31 Jan 11
Rude as it may seem, I sometimes stare at people. Sometimes it is even an uncontrolled gesture. I usually stare when I find something amusing, fascinating, admirable, or just plain funny about a person. I try not to stare too long though as I might get a good slapping. lol
@lady1993 (19748)
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
I'm the same as you too. There are really lots of reasons why people stare at others.. It's not really illegal, unless you get caught. Thanks for your response Theresaaiza.
@Skade24 (750)
• Romania
30 Jan 11
Hello to you! Well i guess is normal, that we all stare at other people, in most of the time we do it unintentionally. Maybe we know that person from somewhere, and staring at that person helps us remind from where we know that person. Maybe we start at the person because he or she is staring at us and maybe we want to know the reason for that. And if we stare at the person because is cute, well here we all know the reason.:)
@lady1993 (19748)
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
yeah, sometimes I also stare unintentionally. But mostly because of what they are wearing or doing..
• Philippines
29 Jan 11
hi there. probably i stare at a person with the same reasons as yours. but i do not want to get caught staring at them because they might think too much of it. sometimes when people gets caught somebody staring at them, they thought he/she is interested of them though it's actually the opposite. LOL. yeah the previous responders are quite right, it's because it's just rude to stare at somebody for a long time. one exception for me is when a person looked familiar to me, i tend to look at him or her for a long time. just to examine the person if i really knew him/her. see you around!
@lady1993 (19748)
• Philippines
21 Apr 11
Yeah, some people really think too much about everything. So i am very careful too. I tend to stare every now and then to people who look familiar to me too.. until they approach me.