How long can you be away from your young children?

@ruthsm (222)
Thailand
January 30, 2011 7:46am CST
I am taking master degree in another country soon. That means I will be away from home for 2 whole months. My eldest son is entering college and so I'm fine with that. But I still have 2 young daughters (11 and 9). I really wanted them to go with me but my husband said that I will be distracted from my intensive classes which I also agree with him. This will be the first time I will be away that long, and I'm a bit worried and a bit guilty already.
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6 responses
30 Jan 11
I know it seems along time but if the kids are going to be with there dad then they should be fine and if you come back having took a degree it should be well worth it.
@ruthsm (222)
• Thailand
31 Jan 11
Yes, I'm glad that their dad is an able father who can look after them. The longest I was away was 10 days, and my children enjoyed how their dad treated them with fast food deliveries, LOL. But this time I make sure that I have someone to take care of the food. Thank you, for your encouragement. It's good to hear what others think about this topic. Yes, it will be worth it. Blessings!
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
30 Jan 11
I understand how you feel. My kids are 8, 5 and 3. The longest I've been away from them is 2 days when we went away for a weekend and they stayed with their grandparents. That wasn't too hard because I totally trusted them with my parents. My parents are incredible with them. But I still missed them a lot. You are going for a good reason though. Getting a master degree will improve your life and your kids lives too. It will be hard, but worth it in the end and they are old enough to understand that. I'm sure it will go by really fast. If you have a laptop you should look into getting webcams and using a video chat thing like skype so you can see them and talk to them when you have time. Good luck!
@ruthsm (222)
• Thailand
31 Jan 11
Yes,ravinskye, you're right. It will be very hard but worth it. That's what my husband was trying to tell me. I can always see them online via FB or Skype. I'm thankful that we have these technology to bring families together ever from far away. Thank you for your encouraging comment.
@chavezrmc (6095)
• Philippines
30 Jan 11
Well wether your kids are young or grown up its always not easy to leave them. But if your husband is there and you know that he can take care of them then better that you trust him so you will have to do what you want to do. If your aim is its also for the family's future then go for it. Leave somebody with your hubby a person that can assist him, maybe your mother or his. good luck
@ruthsm (222)
• Thailand
30 Jan 11
Thank you very much! I have these thoughts already but still, it's good to hear from someone else. I'm encouraged. One more question if you don't mind: How long do you think is reasonable for parents to be away from their children?
@magrylouyu (1627)
• United States
30 Jan 11
It's never easy having to leave your children. Even if it's for a short amount of time. The longest I have been away from any of my children was 18 months ago when my mom took my 2 older daughters for 2 weeks after having my 3rd and last daughter. It was hard, but it was so quite and pieceful. Although I really did miss the hectic household I always have. I wouldnt feel quitly about it because I would think you would have a hard time staying focused on your study. Just think of how happy your daughters will be when you walk through that door. As long as their being well taken care of I'm sure you have nothing to worry about. Good luck
@ruthsm (222)
• Thailand
31 Jan 11
Thank you, magrylouyu. This is a very encouraging comment. It's good to hear from another mom. Blessings!
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
6 Apr 11
Hi. ruthsm. I have never been away from home this long from my kids. If your husband is a great father to your kids, then you don't have to worry about how they will hold up once you are gone. I have thought about leaving my kids with their father or with someone else for a long time, and I just can't bring myself to do it. I will just wait until they are older enough so that I can go on a trip for a long time.
@Kalyni2011 (3496)
• India
12 Apr 11
Welcome to mylot You must give top priority to studies, two months will fly so soon, i know you will miss your daughter, all moms do, but don't stress your self your hubby is there to take care, keep in touch with them via cell phone and emails lol Thanks for sharing Happy posting, cheers. Namastey. Kalyani