What a wife???!!!!

Philippines
February 1, 2011 10:19pm CST
This morning when I was about to swipe my ID at work I found it missing on my jacket. I text my wife if she got something in my jackets pocket because my id is missing and it would cause too much waste of time getting a new one... She got angry to my text, she said she picked my jacket on the table then hanged it on the wall that then she also said that If I dont want her to touch my things I better put all my things In a Bolt or bring it to my parents house. My wife always get angry to very easilly. I cant understant the mind set of that woman. I dont drink alcohol, i dont smoke, i dont go to bars, i dont play money games, i work then go home and i dont flirt with other women, Sometimes I think maybe I should go home drunk, late, and get another woman and bet to cockfights.. Is your wife like mine???
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17 responses
@chitchat (179)
• United States
2 Feb 11
As a wife, I have never acted like that towards my husband. She seems to have gotten really defensive by your simple question which is suspicious. If she didn't take anything from your jacket, then it should have been an easy "no". Good luck with everything.
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@sigriol (39)
2 Feb 11
Maybe she was just having a bad morning! Maybe she misunderstood your text? I suggest you sit down with her sometime and discuss this problem with her when you guys are not fighting. Tell her that you think she is becoming upset to easily and ask her to work on it, at the same time you can promise to work on some of your faults (everybody has some). It seems this is getting pretty serious if you are thinking about being with another woman.
• Philippines
2 Feb 11
Maybe youre right, maybe she have a bad morning!!! You know she always starts our urguments. Thats why Im thinking of what can I do to change her...
2 Feb 11
The only thing you can do is talk to her, even though it will make her mad, it will probably make her think when she calms down. It could also be useful to visit a relationship specialist, me and my husband did that once.
@khalida (1130)
• India
4 Feb 11
well yeah! communication is the key. probably she will get amgry when you tell her but remember not to get angry or shout back. when she calms down, she will surely remember how sweet you were to her
• United States
2 Feb 11
Your mentality is absolutely absurd. Just because you don't do those things doesn't mean your wife is obligated to pick up after you as if you're a child. I'm sure you are perfectly capable of hanging up your own jacket and keeping track of your own things. You are a grown man, just because you're married doesn't mean you no longer have to take care of your responsibilities at home, like picking up after yourself and putting your things away.
• Philippines
2 Feb 11
I dont think so, I did not tell that I dont keep my things at the right place!!! I put my jacket on that table because my helmet is there, my gloves are there, my safety gears are there, my cellphone is there, my motorcycle is there in other words most of the things i need to go to work is there. One more thing she gets mad even being late for 30 mins going home after work.... Now does my mentallity absurd.....
• United States
2 Feb 11
Unless that is a special table that you both agreed would be designated for your motorcycle equipment, then yes, you are still absurd and childish. Just because "that's where I put everything!" does not mean that's where it belongs. Especially your jacket that obviously belongs on the coat hook. And especially in the light that you ride a motorcycle to and from work, it is COMPLETELY understandable that she would get paranoid when you're late from work. She's worried about you.
@khalida (1130)
• India
2 Feb 11
Lol oh my god. I think gloom cookie and your wife would be great friends and talk a hell lot of stuff about you. sure, it is one thing that you have a problem with your wife and a totally other one when you talk about her in a discussion in mylot. Probably that is why gloom cookie is telling all that she is telling Your wife would surely get mad at this one!
@nj_1022 (251)
2 Feb 11
What a wife you have? A lot of women are looking for a husband like you with no vices at all. But as for me, I am not the kind of wife like yours. I have the tendency to overpower my husband at times but I always make it a point to take care of all his needs.
• Philippines
2 Feb 11
I really cant understand my wife shes very good at other things like carring for our children, preparing my foods in the morning, cleaning the house.... The only thing I really dont like in her is she really really get upset very quickly... Bytheway our zodiac are not compatible, Im libra, shes pieces...If she make mistakes I dont get mad But If im wrong she gets very very upset most of the times.....
@khalida (1130)
• India
2 Feb 11
wow! that can be frustrating sometimes? But guess what, if it has been a while you are married and yet to figure out about your wife, ITS GREAT. if you knew all about her and there is no more mystery left, it would be kinda boring you know!? This way, you still get to experiment and explore.
@dong88 (794)
• China
2 Feb 11
Oh,this is normal.Now women are very easy to anger.As a husband,try to be patient and tolerant.Bless you!
• Philippines
2 Feb 11
Thanks!!! The truth, If Im not patient, we"ll already be separated...
@khalida (1130)
• India
2 Feb 11
Oh oh! probablu cause you are so patient, she is getting very angry!? have you tried to act the other way round!??
@lady1993 (13049)
• Philippines
2 Feb 11
Well, that is quite over the top. But I thin you are a good husband, continue it and don't try to change that. Maybe she's just stressed out after ding household chores..some people are just ill tempered so the best thing to do is be calm and understand them.
• Philippines
2 Feb 11
Thank you!!!!
@louievill (15511)
• Philippines
2 Feb 11
I have one question, how old is she? You know women tend to change when they are nearing middle age because of hormonal changes, may or may not happen and there are no exact patterns. Was she like this before? Or did she just suddenly change? Try also considering on getting a medical opinion, good luck pal.
• Philippines
2 Feb 11
oooh she still 29 yrs old, im 32.
@SIMPLYD (72944)
• Philippines
12 May 11
She misunderstood your text as her being nosey on your things, that's why she got angry. Try to understand your wife, because being a housewife could really get into the nerve specially if all your efforts of doing things in the house gets unappreciated. Perhaps, your wife needs some loving attention from you Try to start appreciating the things she does, not merely look at them and say nothing at all that can boost her ego. She needs your vocal appreciation also.
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
maybe you need to be more patient with your wife...just deal with her mood swings...and try to talk about her being angry all the time...communication is the key to having a great married life...
@gra2011 (35)
• Philippines
5 Mar 11
Im not doing that to my hubby I treat him not only a husband but a freind. As a couple there is always a respect with each other. No dont change your attitude many women dreaming a husband like you maybe the problem is your wife she must control her attitude. Anyway my hubby tha same with you after work he go home and spend his time with me and to other child. I think you must prolong your patience and try to talk with your wife to minimize or control her attitude for the sake of your children. Goodluck..
• Philippines
3 Feb 11
im a wife also. is she always like that? maybe she is stress or got a period, or maybe its the way you texted her. You know her better than anyone here, so you know why she reacted like that. Talk to her and ask why?... sometimes husband doesn't pay attention to his woman as like they were dating before. Maybe she needs your attention that much.
@ybong007 (6659)
• Philippines
3 Feb 11
Is that the kind of woman you wake up to every morning? if yes then it's about time you do the things you should have done. You're missing life buddy.
@checapricorn (16072)
• United States
3 Feb 11
Is she always like this? Maybe it was just one of those days you know! Anyway, I don't nag to my husband but there are days in a month when I know I am not normal, hahahha! and he knows that! Anyway, don't do whatever bad things you are thinking right now, Just talk to her and tell her that you appreciate it when she will not get angry easily, everything can be solved with proper communication!
• Philippines
2 Feb 11
Hello, Welcome to myLot! You're lucky to have that kind of wife. Its a sign of great concern on you. Dont wait until she ignores you. Though wife in general term connotes attending to children's needs, husbands needs, houses' needs, financial lapses etc. name it under the roof , a "wife" can interconnected it. No man could marry a bad woman to become his wife. Make your wife as your partner. Having no vices doesnt mean a guarantee for a better living in all aspects of married life. Try to develop a third eye on your self or an over seeing so that you can able to see the side of your wife and children if you have and thru this you cant just see only yourself. Most of the time wife turn into angry as a sort of mechanism on things that they cant utter and understand and even complain.
• Malaysia
2 Feb 11
A wife is someone for use to care about. She will be my life companion, not only for child raising, but also make our life meaningful. Life will be miserable without our love ones. On the other hand, a wife holds a great responsibility to the society to educate offspring. This will definitely benefits the society, and enlighten others to do the same. Hence, it will fill the world with limitless possibilities and love.
@Lizabett (59)
• Australia
2 Feb 11
Maybe she's responding to your tone. If you think she's haveing a go at you its probably because you feel guilty about whatever it is. And the whole "she always starts the fights" thing. Fights happen between two people. You most likely started it in her view. Tone is everything in a relationship. A text doesn't convey tone at all. The text you sent her she could have read as acusitory and thus responed as she did. Or she was repeating something she'd said before and you took no notice and decided she was angry. Did you ask her? Cos if you havn't actually spoken there are such things as therapy or even divorce.
@khalida (1130)
• India
2 Feb 11
ha ha ha whoa! you must be one of those sweetest husband who treats his wife like a princess!? well, probably she takes things as offence quite easily than being short tempered cause she is sensitive!? have you discussed this with your wife!??