When can you say that you have a friend?
By jhaidro
@jhaidro (877)
Philippines
February 2, 2011 2:10am CST
It is different now. It seems like you have a lot of them but you only have a few really.
Back in high school, I know a lot of people but I only considered 2 as my friends. Of course as i go to school and walk around I would talk to many but our thing then ends as our conversation stops. Its basically the same in college, as we meet more people we just make a lot of acquaintance and thats it.
With technology now, and given a lot of networking sites, we make a huge community of friends. When you see someone's profile that interests you, you then make the effort of inviting him or her as a friend, when he or she accepts the invitation, you are now friends. What an accomplishment you would think maybe because the two of you are finally friends but are you really friends?
It is always a good thing to have as many friends as possible but having true and real friends is a gift.
I just hope that as we log out and shut down our computers, and we go out, there will be no changes as we see them.
3 responses
@dreamnishu (1247)
• China
2 Feb 11
Yes you are right.i know so many people from my school life.i can considered 5 people as my best friend.no one help you with out any reason.everyone here,think at first their self.my friends are help me lot.i love them very much.i can call them real friend.
@jhaidro (877)
• Philippines
2 Feb 11
You really do feel a sense of relief every time someone lends a hand when you needed it.
There comes a point thou that you keep on looking but see nothing. You keep calling but nobody answers. You fall and nobody picks you up. Then you ask yourself where were they when I needed them. I think that this should not be the case always. For sure your friends would be there if they can. They would want to be there even. Its just that there will come a time when you just have to do things on your own. People, even how close they are still are living separate lives.
@ice1187 (31)
• Philippines
2 Feb 11
I could relate to your story somehow but for my experience, i have a lot of friends during my entire school years. But the significant days were my high school and college friends. For my high school friends, we've been friends since 2nd yr high school and up to now we still meet, but we couldn't avoid some problems that may arise during your interaction since life is a constant change so it's either me or my friend was the one who changed so there goes conflict. And honestly, up to now also,one of my high school friend and me are not in good terms, we see each other together with other friends but we do not talk neither approach simply by hi nor bye.. For my college friends also, we usually hang out when there is time. Keeping the company with them has a huge difference since we graduated due to a lot of changes, I am now working, they are working; walking in different paths in search for a better tomorrow, so if we have the chance to be together, we grab it. But then again since we don't talk and keep in touch that much: secrets , problems, happiness and everything else wasn't shared at all so there is still the gap because i sometimes say to myself that she/ he has changed but then I am wrong since the time we spent together is not enough to fulfill the time we weren't together.
It is so nice to have a lot of friends. true friends indeed. it makes life easier and lighter when you have someone whom you can talked and approached with anytime no matter what the circumstances may be.. =D
@jhaidro (877)
• Philippines
2 Feb 11
It really does feel good to have friends especially if you spend most of your time with him or her.
We make friends with other people to somehow comfort us because most of the friends we have has certain similarities with us. They are like our reflection that is why we really are comfortable with them because we have a lot in common. However, even with our similarities with them, it does not necessarily mean that we think completely the same. Even with our best friend, we will have something that we will not agree about. I see this as a very normal thing since we and our friends are still very different people that is why disagreements are not so far away. With this, I believe that the quality of being open minded comes in handy. We just need to accept things even we don't totally agree with it. Thats the beauty of friendship.
You share a lot in common but learn new things at the same time.
@EdnaReyes (2622)
• Philippines
2 Feb 11
This is same as saying friendship comes and ends inside the computer. How sad and how terrible things to think about! Yes, technology has positive and negative effects but as we control our own life, let's not be controlled by them. Friendship in flesh and in virtual world could be the same as long as we know what's the really meaning of FRIENDSHIP!
@jhaidro (877)
• Philippines
2 Feb 11
True. Anybody can be a good friend to anybody. It will be beautiful to see that people stay together no matter what. It is an amazing feeling to know that someone stays with you when you feel like having no one. I just don't want to be in the situation where in someone would say that i just became you friend because you asked me too.
Virtual or real, I just hope that friends do what they do. And in my opinion what they should do is to care for the other. ALWAYS.
