how do people think?

@tiina05 (2319)
Philippines
February 3, 2011 11:05pm CST
hello everyone, I have this experience a while ago with my boyfriend when we enter at "Mcdo" and their are few students looking to us(kinda irritating) their look makes me think. Ahmm, Of course someone will look at us right? but what are those girls thinking about us? .this students is something that I cant understand. It is like judging me or my boyfriend. when they look at us they laugh? What do you think? did you also experience it? what did you do?
14 responses
• India
4 Feb 11
Well, at least you will know it when people are paying attention to you. Sometimes you can see vacant look in one's eye. This means he is not paying attention to you though he's looking at you. Human mind works in a very complicated way. From your position it is absolutely impossible to guess what others are thinking about you. But if they did not give you empty looks, then it can be concluded that they definitely had something in their mind. May be they were thinking about the kind of relationship you and your boyfriend have. Since they are still students, this relationship must be quite amusing to them. May be they were judging if you two look good together. Everybody has his own opinions about things and you really can't do anything about it.
@tiina05 (2319)
• Philippines
4 Feb 11
hello thanks for your response, Yes, you are right that everyone has its own opinion. By the way Me and my boyfriend are also just a student like them so that are age is not far enough. Your explanation seem so clear that I can understand clearly. But one must respect others right even though we are on the same age. I don't like to act rude in front of many people so i just do is to ignore them. thanks for your opinion.
• China
4 Feb 11
I think they think how beautiful couple are both you. They feel good to see you both maybe. Or maybe they think somethings bad about you people. It doesn't a matter i think. You just should ignore them. I also have experienced such a matter and i always ignore them. So my suggestion to you please ignore them.
@tiina05 (2319)
• Philippines
4 Feb 11
hello thanks for you response, Well, that is really good if that what they think that we are a beautiful couple but what if not? right?. I felt that they making fun of us because they are laughing when they stares at us and then someone will stare again to us It really make me feel mad that time but yes I should Ignore them. That is the better idea. thanks for your opinion,
@se7enthbird (8328)
• Philippines
4 Feb 11
i dont really care if they look. i dont like to stress myself on what people think when they look at me for i will never know what that is. so why do you have to wonder on what do they have in their minds. my wife once told me that we all have eyes so we all have the right to take a look. and we also have the right to look away. har har har.
@tiina05 (2319)
• Philippines
4 Feb 11
hello thanks for your response, yes, you are right but it's really irritating that those student having fun to us. It seems that it is wrong at all because maybe they are judging us for nothing but yeah you are right maybe I should not to stress myself for those student. thanks for you opinion again.
@beamer88 (4268)
• Philippines
4 Feb 11
I haven't experienced being looked at but I'm guilty of having done that back in college. I know it's impolite to stare but sometimes I think you just can't help it especially if there's something unusual about the couple. But don't always think that people look at you because they find something odd or funny. You may have reminded them of someone or some incident that was funny to them and that's probably why they laughed. Or maybe they're just plain jealous that you're boyfriend looks dashing (which I'm sure both of you are :)
@tiina05 (2319)
• Philippines
4 Feb 11
hello thanks for your response, LoL thank you. Yes, you are right I also mean it when I saw someone or something really attractive it makes me stares for a while but this experience is unusual. It is like they are making fun to us even we dont know them?. Nothing I just feel annoyed that time so what we do is instead of fighting we look for other fast food chain which we can be free from those students. thanks really appreciated.
@SIMPLYD (80362)
• Philippines
4 Feb 11
Sometimes, it's hard to presume that they were laughing at the both of you. Perhaps somebody who is also coming in from your direction is their friend and they are laughing at her. In such a case, do not do anything. just don't mind them. As long as they don't harm the both of you just let it go. All of you are in a public use and it so shameful if you start a quarrel. Right? I have experienced that too, but it turned out it wasn't us they were laughing at, but the ones at our back coming in too. This we gathered, when we looked at our backs and saw those coming in as their friends.
@tiina05 (2319)
• Philippines
4 Feb 11
hello thanks for your response, hey! thanks for sharing your experience. yeah, right we are in the public place so I have to show some manners. yes, I dont do anything just to stare at them too while they're staring and laughing at me. It just makes me feel irritated that every single things that we do, They look and laugh.. what's the problem? gosh! really annoying. but thanks for your opinion really appreciated.
@paresh007 (155)
• India
4 Feb 11
I think it is a human tendency to look at beautiful people and may be you will be react the same that the group did...talking about laughing may they are talking about some joke...may be not or they are laughing on you....they don't like you both as couple.....who cares! but this make you belief that you are not ignorant at lol... :)
@tiina05 (2319)
• Philippines
4 Feb 11
hello thanks for your response, Well, I think so, but I wont laugh as what they are acted. Maybe they are not telling a joke because every time they laugh one of them look at to me and to my boyfriends which is very irritating. And I dont know what to do? And yeah, who really cares if we are couples. right? LOL but thanks for your opinion. have a nice day.
@amelly (1556)
• Malaysia
5 Feb 11
well..people like to stare..sometimes i do glance at others to look at the clothes..or it will just be a glance..u don;t have to worry..i guess it is pretty normal for teens to look at others especially when you're walking with ur boyfriend or girlfriend...
@elena1969 (154)
4 Feb 11
Pff don't even bother when a student laughs.They are just depressed from all the things,all the 'problems' they have and they just want to laugh at something,doesn't matter if it's funny or not.For example if you have a skirt,they might think hey this is the same skirt that some pop star woere when she was... and they laugh for a while,that way they attract each other,just don't bother..
@beano777 (37)
• United States
4 Feb 11
everybody tginks differend. you just cant worry about it
• Philippines
4 Feb 11
You should think that you've been a student and you've done that stuff before. You know kids/ students nowadays, they can be so annoying but don't mind them. They are just getting your attention and you should not worry about them.
@hlgmdt (301)
• Philippines
4 Feb 11
I understand how and what you feel. I have experienced similar situation. I think it's like an automatic response of people towards stimuli. For instance, when we are in a restaurant, we can't help but notice the diners who are coming in, although we don't have any reason at all. But of course, there are some people who are a bit judgmental and can notice even the tiniest detail. In psychology, there is a concept called 'spotlight effect', where we feel that people are looking at us or all eyes are drawn to us so we tend to become very conscious when walking or when entering a room full of people. I suggest that you just ignore when people look or stare at you, except of course when their stares are suspicious.
• India
4 Feb 11
well that depends on how you take people and what you think about them. Sometimes the way you think about others may not be real of them.
• India
4 Feb 11
I am from India. I am saying this because the answers of your questions vary from locality and the environment in which someone is raised. When this type of thing happened with me. I just don't care what they think but if i love someone and want to be with her, then it doesn't matter what others think. And they are just students who don't have any job. So they are free to analyse and observe whatever happening in their locality, whether you are with your boyfriend.
• Philippines
4 Feb 11
hello tiina! it's quite normal, especially teenagers to stare at people the way they do. I mean, it does not diminish the creepy feeling we get when these people stare at us. Even when staring is considered rude, there are still people who do that regularly. I can truly say that when a group of people look at you and then laugh, it seems that they're laughing at us. Oftentimes though, it's not about you they're laughing about. Either they're jealous of you for being such a handsome couple or something reminded them of the two of you which made them laugh. It would not bode well for you if you will mind them however. Just let them and better still, try to catch their attention and smile at them. That way, they would get self-conscious and would stop staring at you probably.