How do u know who are your true friends

United States
February 11, 2011 6:45pm CST
I'm very hard to trust anyone ive been threw a lot in my years. I trusted so much my friends that they back stabbed me and slept with my boyfriend i had back in the years. I learned a good lesson dont trust no one and the funny thing it was every friend i had. Weird is it but i went threw a lot and suffered for what they did to me so i ask everyone how do u know who are ur true friends.
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@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
12 Feb 11
For me it is hard to trust even if you have a good friend but true friends is the one who is good to you even if you are failed and not.
• United States
13 Feb 11
that is so true ebuscat
@Kirinx (1693)
• United States
12 Feb 11
You dont really know who your true friends are so in my opinion you have to limit the amount of trust that you have with them.Give them alittle bit of trust and the rest your friends will have to earn. Trust should be earned not given :)
@Kirinx (1693)
• United States
12 Feb 11
I also wanted to add if your bf didnt have enough self control to reject other females then he is no good in my opinion.
• United States
12 Feb 11
I do like you do and keep my friends away from my man. That is the one rule I will never have a problem with. I have a few girl friends and they can come around very rarely and I will never leave to go to bed or anything with them in the house. I tell my man I trust him I just don't trust anyone around him. I have one friend who knows him for years before she ever met me. She will call me ove rto her house if he is in her house. He is friends with both her kids. But,she always says she will never do anything to make me think she wants him. He calls her for advice and everything and I am 100 percent fine with it. I think some woman can be trashy and those friends can't be here when I am ready for bed.
• United States
12 Feb 11
I am nt sure if I answered your question lol. I think if I can trust one around my man I can see them as a true friend.
• Philippines
12 Feb 11
i know who are my real and true friend. my real and true friends are those who are rooted in the word of God and has an intimate relationship with God. I know they also commit mistake and as i am since they and i are still in the flesh. every time they made a mistake or when they can offend me or make things bad about, i'll just forgive them because i love them as Jesus love me in spite of who i am.
• United States
13 Feb 11
that is so true also
@megamatt (14331)
• United States
13 Feb 11
I think that there are a lot of things that go into being a true friend. I think that really true friends are honest with you, no matter what. Whether it is the good kind of honesty or being brutally honest, so you can get an opinion from them when something is wrong. They never really take your friendship for granted. They are someone that you can stand by, no matter what. Really when you think about it, there is little to no doubt. Sure there will be disagreements, but the test of a true friendship is if it can survive that. There is really no chance of betrayal, that you can trust your secrets to them and there will be no fear of a fallout leading to something bad. When you think about it, there are very few true friends in this world.
12 Feb 11
I could tell who my true friends are if ever there was a problem they are always there to help me out. They are not the kind of people who are only there if the going is good. They stick with you through thick and thin. They are not there for their personal gain but for the feeling of a brotherly relationship.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
12 Feb 11
True friends would do anything for each other. True friends would always be there for each other too. If you need to ask if someone is a true friend to you or not, the chances are they may not be a true friend at all.
• United States
12 Feb 11
yes i do know who my true friends are.,. and i have quite a few. your "friends" that you thought were real werent real friends, because thats not what true friends do to each other. look, if they did that to do you, then forget about them because there just liers/backstabber's/ and they dont need someone like you to be friends with. i mean why be friends with them...,. what i do. is depending the situation i'll forgive them once if they do something the second time, they lose my trust and have to regain it the 3rd time is goodbye forever.
@kramsgir (146)
• Philippines
12 Feb 11
I would agree that finding a true friend is as hard as searching for happiness. You can't get it without putting effort and time. I have a best friend for five years now and he hasn't changed a bit, as well as i am. Spending time together, getting to know him/her better and get to the point wherein you're not just acquainted with each other but also having a connection with that person. Later on, when you knew him that well, trust will be developed. A true friend would stick to you when everyone else leaves you alone when they don't need or get something from you. A true friend is there during your worst nightmare in life arises and when you fall down on your knees, he'll help you to stand up again and face life stronger than before.
• Philippines
12 Feb 11
True friends are there when you need them most.They tap you when they feel you've been a little bad and happy for you when you have achieved something good.They don't have to be physically present all the time and be there by your side.Trust them with some but not everything.
@lady1993 (16834)
• Philippines
12 Feb 11
I am not so open too- I don't trust easily. Usually, I observe my friends for a while- for a few months before I can really put my trust in them. I have had bad experiences with some of my close friends too- some of them aren't even my friends anymore. But most of them stuck with me and are true friends, they don't talk behind my back and are honest with me.
@chayapathys (2113)
• India
12 Feb 11
It appears that you are a female and your girl fiends have cheated.Frienship also exists between males and males and females and females in which case trust matters in their dealings.I recollect an episode.A man asked his friend" How could you dupe me who is your trusted friend?.The other man replied"Yes. Because you are my trusted friend I duped.How can I dupe a man who not a friend..?
@o2bnocn (2895)
• United States
12 Feb 11
When you know you can tell them anything and they won't make fun of you. When they listen to your problems, offer you advice without criticizing you. When they never make you feel awkward or ashamed of anything you have ever did. When you know that they have your best interests in their minds. A friend that talks bad about you, makes you feel funny or awkward, hurts you, tells you mean things is not a good friend. When a friend tells you something to make you feel bad they are not a good friend. If a friend says something to you to make you almost stop doing something that is good then they are not a good friend. I have recently heard one of my dearest and longest friends tell me something that I did not like hearing from her. I told her good news and all she had to say was bad news about my good news. To make a long story short, she almost split my boyfriend and I up. She knows what she said was wrong and that she was saying all of this out of spite. I don't know that I can ever truly forgive her for what she has said. I even asked her to please stop talking about it. She didn't and kept talking about it and saying mean and hurtful things. I was needing someone to talk to at that time and she was being selfish, jealous, and stubborn. After talking to her I had to really think about a few things and had to really think about important things. I ended up deleting her out of my phone and then putting her phone number back in my phone. I felt as if I needed a break from her because of everything she said. I didn't break up with my boyfriend but we did start having problems after I had the conversation with her. I actually told my boyfriend everything that she said. It made him mad but he helped me through it and talked to me about all of it, he also made me realize a few things that are good about him. I almost deleted off of my facebook but I didn't. I didn't want to completley give up my relationship with her. So now I have to watch what I tell her which is not good. I don't consider her a true friend anymore. It is hard to admit this because I have known her for years and years. So I have come to the conclusion that I am not that good of friends with her anymore. The sad part is that I used to consider her my best friend. Since all of this has happened I have caught her in a few lies. Another sad thing is that she was trying to put my boyfriend down, when he is trying to do something good. She wanted to make me believe that he is lying, which he isn't. She doesn't even know my boyfriend so for her to say all that about thim is crazy. I have another friend that I consider her my best friend. She is always there for me. I can tell her anything. She always listens to me and gives me good advice. She also never makes me feel bad, and she never says anything bad about my boyfriend. Plus she understands my problems and tries to give me good advice on all of them. I try to do the same for her. Good luck on finding true friends! Remember true friends will always have your back!