How to Confront Someone

@SIMPLYD (86553)
Philippines
February 25, 2011 7:43pm CST
I read just this morning , from Courageous Faith, by Bill Hybels that when we confront someone, we should first make a careful non-accusatory explanation of the issue as we see it. We should avoid saying "you always" or "you never" . We should state the problem as carefully as you know how. Use "i feel" statement whenever possible. Pondering on it, i think it's really very true. I might try it , if and whenever i have to confront someone in the future. How about you guys, do you follow the above when you are to confront someone?
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@staria (2782)
• Philippines
26 Feb 11
I hate confrontations to be honest, but if chances call for it, I just try to be gentle for as long as I can. I don't like situations to worsen. And blessed are those who are humble.
@SIMPLYD (86553)
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
In all honesty too, i don't like to be confrontational. As much as i can, i avoid it. But sometimes, we have to do it because the issue might get out of proportion. So better arrest it while you still can.
@ybong007 (6658)
• Philippines
26 Feb 11
You're right, making accusations would put the other person on the defensive so instead of resolving the issue the other person will try everything to defend himself and in turn would even escalate into something ugly. So far, i can't recall confronting anybody because i hate confrontations. I would rather forget the issue and let things settle on its own.
@SIMPLYD (86553)
• Philippines
26 Feb 11
I do that too sometimes. But there are times though, the issue wouldn't die, so i have to confront it. Good thing, it always ends well.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
26 Feb 11
It is wise to consider both sides of a confrontation. Knowing how it could end and will end can help you to confront your situation. If we just go into a confrontation with anger, that is all we will get in return. the voice of reason has to have its say too. Choosing our words can make all of the difference in the world to the outcome of our confrontations.
@SIMPLYD (86553)
• Philippines
26 Feb 11
Very well said. That's very true. You deserve my best response mark.