Holding On
By rebelde834
@rebelde834 (43)
February 26, 2011 1:48am CST
When to let go and when to hold on.
It's really hard to let go of the person you've really love.
Especially when you've been together for so long.
I have a friend who shares with me her experiences with her boyfriend.
They've been together for 6 years now and she's asking me some
opinion about her relationship. You see their relationship is always
unstable. One minute their as happy as a newly wed and the next
their fighting like there's no tomorrow. So she asked me if the pain and
the suffering would be worth it despite that sometimes she feels like
shes not her old self, that she's changing her ways and even her personality
just to please her boyfriend.
I couldn't come up with any opinion with a realization that I myself
was sometimes acting like her boyfriend.
What can you suggest about this.
3 responses
@sterra1995 (74)
• United States
27 Feb 11
Hi rebelde834, Tell your friend she is the only one that can make up her mind about her relationship. There will be a time when she is done. If she is not happy now she will never be happy with him. Most people will get married thinking it will get better it wont. Both of my sister went throw that. If it's not working out and there not happy get out of it. You should never have to change and feel unhappy to please someone. Tell her good luck.
@rebelde834 (43)
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28 Feb 11
Wow.. That is a very good advice sterra1995.
Don't worry I'll let her read your comment.
Thanks for the wonderful advice.
@QeeGood (1213)
• Sweden
26 Feb 11
I've learnt to let go as when I was holding on to people they wanted me to let them go. I let go and move on. I treasure my memories in my heart and mind.
I let everyone feel free of me. People can let me know when they want me in their life.
@rebelde834 (43)
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27 Feb 11
That's the hard part. When you want to hold on while your partner wants you to let go. But i guess you've made the right choice. Letting go and learning from
the past. Treasuring all the good memories.
@tessa9 (1085)
• Philippines
26 Feb 11
The length of the relationship is not in any way should be a factor for a person to stay or not. Some or even most people may disagree with this. I personally know people who stayed in relationships even if they were not happy because 'they have been with the person for so long'. If you are not happy, then why would you stay? Sometimes this actually keep people from doing what they want because they feel that they have invested a lot of time and themselves to the relationship and they don't want everything to go to waste. That being said you should not give up on a relationship just because your unhappy. it really depends on the situation. But changing yourself to please your boyfriend is not good. You should always be your self.
@rebelde834 (43)
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27 Feb 11
Thanks for the suggestion. I do agree that the length of the relationship
shouldn't be a reason for you not to leave when your unhappy. I guess
its very hard, but in the end it'll be worth it.
I'll let my friend see your comment. Thanks.
