have you experience?

@tiina05 (2317)
Philippines
February 28, 2011 11:36pm CST
hello everyone, I just want to know if some of you experience that , your friends is like insulting your family?. I did experience that, because one of my friend born with a silver spoon in mouth and she never experience getting really hard to earn money unlike my parents I am not that rich and she always telling to my friends that I am just trying too hard to belong to them. It hurts me. what should I do? thanks ..
4 responses
@staria (2780)
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
Friendship is very important and IMO friendship should be real and nurturing. If a friend cannot accept you for what you are, how can you call him/her as your friend? If you feel that s/he is still worth your friendship, communicate with him/her. Tell your friend how you feel and s/he should be able to understand.
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
2 Mar 11
Hi Dear Staria! I fully agree with your views! But do you think that communication to convince is required in friendship? I think it comes naturally, how a true friend can hurt another friend? Thanks !
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@tiina05 (2317)
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
hello thanks for your response, Yes, you are right we must accept each other and understand what we are though we dont have the same way of living. I will first try to communicate and tell what I have feel and try to understand her first but I should learn from this, that I should choose what my real friends. thank you so much
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@staria (2780)
• Philippines
2 Mar 11
Hi AKRao24, yes I understand your point too. But there are people who's really not aware about their actions. Or that is not aware that they are already affecting/hurting other people. So her friend can be one of those. Just giving her friend the benefit of the doubt.
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
1 Mar 11
Hi Dear Tiina! Please don't get offended I say that she is not your true friend then! From you narration it seems your friend is boasting her richness in front of others and she is again making others feel that though you don't belong to their class or status she is simply keeping a friendship with you, just because she is too generous to do so! I really don't see any intimacy, concern or caring towards you or your family! In fact in friendship these things hardly have any role. I have got many childhood friends of mine, some are doing at par with me, some are doing better than me and some are doing bit lesser than me in their lives! But then still all are my friends and they come to my help any time I need not only in terms of money or physical need , but also when I require some emotional support! Thus a true friend would never behave like your so called friend is behaving! She in fact is insulting you and your family! All men are not born equally! Your parents are working hard for you and your family and you should by all means stand beside them and support them in all possible manner, instead of paying any attention to such people! For them life is a jolly game to play while for others it is a day to day hardship! In conclusion what all I would say is- If had I been there in your place , then I would have definitely be careful about such characters and I would have ignored such people, who are doing hard to my beloved family! All the best! Take care! Thanks!
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
2 Mar 11
I think you really need not worry about such people! The Almighty has his plans and by his grace you are going to have your true friend when the time comes, till that time I think it would be better for you to stay away from such egoistic persons! Thanks ! May God Belss You!
@tiina05 (2317)
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
hello thanks for your response, It hurts me when I am hearing to some of you saying that they are not my real friends yes maybe because it happened to me many times and that is why I only got few friends. I never think that they are just boasting but now maybe I kinda realize that. I am really happy to you that you find your real friends but me I am really having a hard time , I dont know why? Is maybe because I am not a good friend to them? that is why whenever I needed someone I only go to the internet and say what I feel there. A big "THANKS" for your advice because I now understand what are they doing to me and ignore those people who doing hard to my family. I learned.. thanks a lot.
• Saint Lucia
6 Mar 11
If my friends say such things to me or about me i would break all ties with them and anyone affiliated with them.Because a friend dont do such things to hurt each other's feelings. Friends should be like family,have your back no matter what.Although sometimes we encourage them by acting like them.
@beamer88 (4259)
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
First of all, the mere fact that your friend is telling those stuff about you and your family makes her an untrue friend. I mean, real friends don't say things like that. If I were you, I should severe all contacts with that person, end the friendship once and for all.
@tiina05 (2317)
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
hello thanks for your response, yes, maybe that is the better thing I must do. right? end the friendship because I know they dont have the right to say that to my family perhaps I really don't belong to their group. Though seems everything is fine I feel that I am little , pity to myself and family. The fact that I have to face is that they are not the real friends I got. thank you.
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
2 Mar 11
Hi Dear Beamer! I fully agree with your views, true friends always are ready to sacrifice any thing for their friends! I think poor Tiina is taken for a ride by her so called friend! There is no point one should talk about the family earnings at first place! Thanks !