Courtesy exaggerated hide or betray characters?
By didi13
@didi13 (2926)
Romania
March 3, 2011 6:57am CST
Many times exaggerated kindness hides a particular purpose. It's sad that it is too little kindness unselfish today, and we got used to it. Even if we have encounter an exaggerated copy of disinterested kindness,we were paranoid and we have try to find 'the mace knot. "That's because, out of habit, we have began to generalize. It is possible that exaggerated courtesy to betray a hidden purpose of the kind in question?
2 responses
@polaris77 (2040)
• Bacau, Romania
3 Mar 11
I'm sure there are still people in the world who behave kindly with others simply because this is how they are inside,kind and gentle,and they have no hidden interest or purpose.Unfortunately,nowadays it's very difficult even for these people to be trusted by others because we live in a sick world,which is dominated by suspicion.Sometimes these people are considered naive by others who may profit from their kindness.Of course,there are also people whose courtesy is false and hides evil purposes and I think they are very dangerous and should be avoided,and they eventually show their true ugly character,so it's normal to be cautios when you deal with people which appear to be very kind until you realize if their kidness is true or fake.
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@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
3 Mar 11
I agree with you, kindness is a sign of good education, respect and tolerance.It's nice to be acquired by man as in his evolution, designed to enhance social relationships, to create a climate of calm,secure, free of tension, it's nice to be nice and healthy, but as in anything else, in moderation.
A man who is friendly with anyone, anywhere, , anyhow becomes suspect, because there are situations where kindness expire, and requires little attitude.Who continues to be helpful in a situation of this may be a poor person without personality, who tries to be accepted by everyone, or a wicked person, and then of course we must be cautious, and, if necessary even let us beware of such persons.Thanks.
@hbsbucks (40)
• United States
3 Mar 11
While I am not certain I entirely understand; your question has nonetheless intrigued me, thus I've decided to comment.
I have been accused of exaggerated kindness in the past. That is, a seemingly unnatural display of kindness for the given situation. Being suspect of a hidden agenda for simply treating another human being with respect can be unnerving to say the least!
How utterly tragic it is that our has come to tolerate, even expect such selfishness from one another. That even basic kindness, which should be the bases of human interaction, is now looked upon as a possible warning to mask unfriendly motives.
A very thought provoking discussion! Certainly it is possible that someone could employ such a tactic to gain the affinity of another for selfish gain, but I believe it to be equally likely that a person could demonstrate genuine courtesy and respect for all of humanity.
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@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
3 Mar 11
You understand well what I meant. And I refuse to believe that there are no people to offer selfless help. Unfortunately, too much kindness, can hide an interest (not always but usually). There are people who desire to achieve financial motives, trying to earn your trust telling you what you hear, is very helpful and always helping you (or at least giving it helps to understand).Honeyed words, which give proof of his solicitude, and is always on your side, listening and giving you your always right, all these are likely to win your trust very quickly. Time they are to discover the true purpose of its attitude varies depending on interest. If one is to get something quick, you discover as quickly. If you want something you get over time (a function and you want your protection and help your career, or whatever, this is a simple example of the thousands possible),then find it harder.
In the world today, there is little kindness and every man of good heart and nice, can be taken as a fool ...or are classed with respect as "old style ".Thanks.
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