Who are these people?
By kris182_2000
@kris182_2000 (5444)
Canada
March 7, 2011 9:34am CST
I often get friend requests, often from brand new users.
It's kind of hard to approve friend requests when they decide to get you when they have no discussions, no way to figure out what type of person they are.
I know that there have been several discussions regarding friend requests in the past, but I think a fresh perspective is needed.
I try to only accept requests from people who have meaningful discussions, there's no sense in adding a friend to my list if all they're going to do is start discussions that will get deleted.
I now have so many inactive friends on my list, but have been surprised to find a few of them returning, or seeing discussions by others who have returned after long periods of inactivity.
For that reason, I don't really want to remove any friends from my list, if they come back and they're not on my list anymore, I'd feel a bit embarrassed about it.
I'm at a loss though, I'd like to clean up my list, but I don't want inactive friends coming back only for me to request them as friends again.
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9 responses
@Matpunk85 (1066)
• Italy
7 Mar 11
ehm...I accept everyone, I don't have many requests but I never tought about. I have to check the next friend request.
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@soumya005 (170)
• India
7 Mar 11
Yes It's true.. I there are few who just send friend request to every one, they are not here to discuss any thing.. They just enjoy looking at the number of friends in the friend list.. They don't even interact with his friends..
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@daeckardt (6237)
• United States
7 Mar 11
I recently went through my friend list (after one of these discussions you mentioned) and I cut out about two pages worth. If they didn't have any discussions or responses and haven't logged in for over a year, I didn't keep them. There was one who hadn't logged in for over a year that I did keep because we used to have long discussions back and forth. I think that if they have been inactive for over a year that chances are that they wouldn't mind having you ask them to be a friend again if they by some chance become active again. I know I was inactive for a long time myself, but it wouldn't have bothered me if people had deleted me because I was not active. I almost never look at my friends list so I wouldn't know the difference. I guess it depends on if your inactive friends were someone you had communicated with frequently or was just someone who wanted to add you because they liked one of your discussions.
@LISAANDELYSIA (285)
• China
8 Mar 11
deny their firend requests?not once did i do that because i dont think that's helpful.you know i meant to ask the same one by starting a discussion too as you,i too got some requests like that,but i guess there's no harm approving them so why not,no matter they are old or new for here.
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
8 Mar 11
I have not deleted friends who are inscribe but I have deleted those whose discussions are not inclined to my own interests. I can't relate to friends who talk about something that doesn't excite me or the discussions they started are just too complicated for my limited knowledge.
I wish for the inscribe friends to be active though so I can participate in their discussions. I never denied any newbies who added me as friend. I think it's a good opportunity to get to know them through their discussions. It is only when I've known them do I decide to discard them or keep them on my list! I sound cruel, but that's how I do it here. 
@darlingshi (11)
• China
8 Mar 11
Hello. I do not agree with your opinion.Friends are those who we can argue with without losing our temper and those who we can count on when in trouble. While others become friends of you and at the same time you are the friend to them. While you are complaining about their inactivity, please look carefully on yourself and questioning that had I did the same thing sometime?
@zralte (4178)
• India
7 Mar 11
I have had deleted friends, but not because of their inactivity, rather because they were annoying me so much. That, added with their discussions which made no sense and always hunting referrals, that sort of thing.
Before accepting any Friends Request, I usually check their profile to see their latest activity. If I don't like what I see, I reject the request. That's very rare though. Only 2/3 times when I was sure that the FR was made just to send me ref link or something like that.
@Bluebelleangel (428)
• Philippines
7 Mar 11
Hi Kris182,
I agree with you regarding accepting of friend requests from new members who hasn't even started any discussions or even taken part in any other discussions from other members. I love to read mostly good ideas from people in mylot and I also appreciate new ideas but when it comes to accepting friends, I always choose those who have good ideals and have good outlook in life. I don't usually read much of some non-sense though I believe here in mylot they are just a few.
I have not been active myself for quite some time. I was so busy with a lot of things and other priorities but I open up mylot once in a while. It's a great stress reliever for me so I wouldn't stop coming back to mylot and like you, I got several friend requests from new members and I believe it's just right to not just accept them unless they have meaningful discussions under their name/profile.
Have a great day!
@visavis (5934)
• Philippines
7 Mar 11
Every request I've recieved for being a friend I accepted and if I have seen new here in mylot who participated in discussion I see to it to request as a friend. I never removed or delete anybody from my friend list... see you around
