love

Philippines
March 8, 2011 12:41am CST
Just wanna ask you guys: Which would you prefer to love someone who does not love you or to be loved by someone whom you do not love?
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10 responses
• Philippines
8 Mar 11
It's always best to fight for the person you truly love up to a certain point. But if your love ends up unrequited in the long run, better find someone who loves you and who you think has the possibility of being loved by you. Love should always be two-way and of there's no chance that it is possible in your situation, better move on.
• Philippines
8 Mar 11
Yes, truly moving on is the very best thing to do...Can i ask?Have you ever been in love top someone then that someone never loved you the way you want him/her to do?
• Philippines
12 Mar 11
I almost got to that point where I was so madly in love with him and after a few years of being together, after all the heartaches and the lies and the fights, I started losing trust and even love towards him. I told him that and I think he realized his shortcomings that's why he started becoming sweet again like he used to be. He used to be a romantic kind of guy when we first met and he always surprised me. I trusted him but he broke my trust and gave him another chance. Right now, I cans ee that he is trying to win my love back and it feels way better than before.
• United States
16 Mar 11
You are asking a question I used to struggle with in my younger years. Good ones! Well, let's see, I have been in quite a few relationships and have experienced loving someone that in the end, obviously didn't love me in return. When I think back, what was I thinking, there were things that I loved the thought of with that person. The look of that person, their personality, the clothes they wore, the way they interacted with me all had an impact on how I came to love the person more than paying attention to our actual; should I say "chemistry" together. I also recall going through a phase in life. Changes I was going through had something to do with my choice of that kind of relationship. I remember having fun, nothing too serious but now I think about it, of course it couldn't be. I have been in a relationship where I was loved by someone more than I would ever imagine loving them back. It was friendship that turned into that person doing things for me that was important, taking it upon himself to put way more in the relationship than what I have done. I notice these actions led me to feel, obligated, a bit.So I stayed but eventually it didn't work out because people need to feel loved equally and fulfilling and that was not happening. Now, Im happily ever after and it's none of this and that going on. Where he lack, I pick-up, where I lack he pick-up. We work towards things together. Neither of us our faster or slower than the other and that makes a big difference in how any relationship goes.
• Philippines
16 Mar 11
a quite long story.that's nice at least in ourselves we've proven that we can love. at least we've shown that we really love but they ,loving us not the way we want it to be is sometimes or most of the times very disappointing but we need to respect them. The way they feel and the way the show their love. The best thing that happen is that we love.
@weasel81 (2496)
• Australia
13 Mar 11
im there in that situation currently. he loves me but i'm not sure on my feelings for him, but they are not the same at this stage. i've been hurt and it's taking me a while to trust again, he's everything a mother would want for her daughter as well. i do enjoy spending time with him.
• Philippines
14 Mar 11
hello. i understand your situation. but we cannot rely entirely on feelings. we need to have a good and much reliable barometer to continue loving and being loved honestly and wholeheartedly. Nevertheless, i still hope things would go the way you wanted it to be.
@tammy27 (1241)
• Philippines
10 Mar 11
to be loved by someone whom i don't love.. :)im just not the type of person who pushes myself to someone who doesn't even want me. lol
• Philippines
10 Mar 11
hmmm yes, we cannot force someone to love us.
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
10 Mar 11
i will stick with someone who will love me, eventually with his effort i can love him back, it's harder to force someone to love you back than to force yourself to love someone who truly loves and cares for you
• Philippines
10 Mar 11
that would be a nice move xien. are you inlove now?:)
• New Zealand
9 Mar 11
he,, love should never be conditinal and demanding.. Love is that when you let your partner free and just wait what happens. and remember 99% percent whom we love, they dont love us and who love us we dont love them.. this is human tendecny
• Philippines
10 Mar 11
I agree maam, love should be unconditional but human as we are we have the tendency not to love the way it should be. however we did our way of loving someone. perhaps we need someone who is love Himself to guide us to love.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
16 Mar 11
Personally either one would be hard, and I think it would be Best hopefully from the beginning to decide to break it off and want to move onto something else before bringing any kids into the picture for sure. To Love someone and not be loved back is not a pretty picture but unfortunately it often happens. Maybe because you got pregnant and married for the sake of the child but to be unhappy in life from there. Honestly I am Glad I Love the one I am with, and know he loves me. We have our differences and such from time to time but to Love in a Relationship and to be there for each other is where it is at for sure.
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
8 Mar 11
I think I'd choose the one who loved me. I have had experience of one sided love and that hurts like crazy. I'd rather be with someone who loved me coz who knows later on i might have some feelings for him as well =)
• Philippines
10 Mar 11
sad to know you had that experience maam. however life must go on. at least we you have proven to yourself that you are capable of loving someone the way you want it to be.
8 Mar 11
Hello If you love someone does not mean he will love you too , but someone who love today or tomorrow you feel for him ....Love is a feeling , whom you love if he not feel your love then do not be upset...LOVE THOSE WHO LOVE U , NOT THOSE WHOM YOU LOVE
• Philippines
8 Mar 11
That would be nice maam. Perhaps our first reaction to the question is that we want to love someone who love us in return isn't it? But can we find such perfect reciprocity?
@CmesaMTG (21)
• United States
29 Mar 11
Good question. Wow well I think that if you love someone that does not love you then it will only be a matter of time before you start to get sick of giving. Now if you are loved by someone that you do not love, then there may be a slight chance that the person will either get sick of you not loving them back. so I feel that this would be a no win situation for both people involved.