An affair with friend's Boyfriend

@xien2xien (1383)
Philippines
March 9, 2011 7:04pm CST
What if you fall in love with your friend's boyfriend or your friends girlfriend what will you do?
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8 responses
• Philippines
13 Mar 11
first of all, if you are a true friend...you know that your friend's partner is a total off limits...you should control yourself once you find yourself falling for your friend's partner...my friend fell for my boyfriend before and i was so mad...just think of the consequences...you are putting your friendship on the line and also their relationship...are you that brave to ruin both?
15 Mar 11
it doesnt matter.. as long as you are happy.. but you have to take full responsibility of the consequences that might happen..
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
you're right...but think of the consequences first...and think if you can handle it...it really does hurt if you're cheated by your partner...with your friend
@sweet_pea (3326)
• Philippines
10 Mar 11
I will just keep the feelings to myself. There is no use throwing a good friendship for a man. Finding true friends are hard to find these days. When the time comes that they'd separate and you are still available and have still feelings for that person. I think you can give it a try. But while they are currently on a relationship. Better to back off and just be a good friend.
@xien2xien (1383)
• Philippines
14 Mar 11
if you experience this kind of situation, are you willing to wait for him to be free? what if he never gets free? what if they get married and you still love the guy or the girl which is sadly your friends partner?
@sweet_pea (3326)
• Philippines
15 Mar 11
Oh dear if that happens to me, I wouldn't really be a martyr and just wait around the corner. Life is too short to waste! I would have loved him from a far but I wouldn't deprive myself of seeing others. Who knows I might meet someone who will also love me back.
• Bulgaria
10 Mar 11
i would never even think of having anythinng in common with that person since I had experienced my best friend having an affair with my EX boyfriend and still it was so hurtful,I would never cause such pain to anyone I call my friend.I would always prefer to suffer myself because of my feelings than to ruin both a relationship and a friendship.
@xien2xien (1383)
• Philippines
14 Mar 11
it must have been very painful for you, but try to look it at this way, maybe he's not the right guy for you and at last you saw the real color of your friend that will remind you never to trust her again
• China
16 Mar 11
I don't want to fall in love with my friens boyfriend. Because i don't want to hurt my friends. But if i can't stop myself to fall in love with him then that i will not expose. As it's not right. I will sacrifice my love for my friends. Good day friend!
@m2heart (80)
• Philippines
16 Mar 11
Hello xien2xien :) If you are really a good friend and you felt something on your friends boyfriend then I'll choose to stay away from them. Not to hate my friend but to move on on my feelings. I should think on my friends feelings. It is not right to stab a friend. Humans are created to think which is right or wrong.
@gengeni (3308)
• Indonesia
10 Mar 11
Opinion: in poor condition Handling the situation:: keep as much as possible. Not met / contacts as possible, if a friend asks just say lazy met or is there a problem or something. Divert attention to another activity. And trying to express your heart through the expression of heart that will not interfere with anyone else, for example: personal writing or something. A friend is the closest person could be after your family, do not ever try to betray a friend, because the same friend you're trying to torture it.
• United States
10 Mar 11
Oh that would be taboo or me, I grew up always thinking that my friends boyfriend and or ex was someone we did not entertain. I understand that for some the heart beats and sometimes uncontrollable love occurs. But not for me, knowing that it is someone who a friend is dating my heart would not be thinking in this direction. So if you are asking what would I do, well since it would not happen to me and if it did I would not take it further.
@toniganzon (41120)
• Philippines
10 Mar 11
I am a person who believe that the reason why God placed the brain on the upper part of the body higher than the heart was for the brain to see reasons and decide what is best. There are times when we can't control our emotion at all especially if we are so in love. But we can always pause, meditate or think hard and see some reasons in the situation. In the case at hand, she is your friend, so a friend is someone that you trust and care about. So i would rather lose a love than lose a friend. What if we reverse the situation? I would definitely be hurt knowing that my friend betrayed me. So i would never try to steal my friend's boyfriend as i don't want her to do the same for me. I am a person who can control falling in love with somebody specially when that person belongs to somebody else already.