is it alright to have a crush?

@Sheeny (173)
Philippines
March 9, 2011 9:07pm CST
my friend is in a relationship right now but then her problem is she has a crush and she was thinking that it is wrong. my advise to her is that it is alright to have a crush to someone but still you should know how to control you feeling because you are still in a relationship and your boyfriend love you so much.
7 responses
• United States
20 Mar 11
I think it's okay to have a crush as long as you don't act on it while involved with another. Truth is, everyone has crushes!! Maybe you like to way he smiles at you or the way she laughs at jokes that your girlfriend or wife might think are stupid. That's okay. Just don't let that crush affect your present relationship or than it becomes more than a crush... it becomes a problem!
@m2heart (80)
• Philippines
16 Mar 11
Hi sheeny :) I agree with you. There's nothing wrong of having a crush to someone but she should really know her limit. She has a boyfriend and it is not nice to let her feelings to her crush eat her. Sometimes that causes break ups to couples who couldn't actually see the worth of their love.
• China
12 Mar 11
I think even she is in a crush the most important thing she should remember is she has a good boyfriend who loves her very much.Now that with this in mind , she will not do anything out of rule and keep a good relationship with others.
@tiina05 (2319)
• Philippines
11 Mar 11
hello, Actually, It is alright if she has a crush but anyway the problem is she has to control her feelings because it is okay to have a crush but don't do things that will break her boyfriends feeling? because she is not sure of what her feelings really is what if it is just faking her. good luck to her
@raineyes (561)
• United States
10 Mar 11
I think it's okay to have a little crush. Crushes are just usually passing fancies. If she is obsessed or really likes this other person, then no, it isn't okay or fair to her boyfriend who you say loves her. But a passing crush won't hurt anyone if she chooses to be responsible and not act upon it in any way.
@nikramos (701)
• Philippines
10 Mar 11
like how old is your friend? the last time i remember having a crush on someone was back in high school. point is, if friend is someone from the younger generation then maybe having a crush is fine as having a relationship at a young age can be just puppy love. if as an adult the friend admires someone (maybe for being really nice or smart), then there is still nothing wrong with it unless it goes over plain admiration.i admire some men for some characteristics and sometimes i even tell my partner if i find someone cute or nice or friendly but thats just about it. as a friend you can talk to her about it. maybe she needs someone who can help her assess factors why she's having this "crush" on someone else.
• United States
10 Mar 11
Although currently I am in a loving relationship, I somehow cannot see me having a crush on anyone outside of my partner. If the crush is something like innocent flirtation, perhaps that would be fine. However, because she is in a relationship, she needs to make sure she can control her feelings and in fact it is wrong of her to have this crush because you say her boyfriend loves her. So I do not believe she should be entertaining a crush while being with someone who loves her. She can reevaluate her current partner and fair and honest with herself and determine if she wants to remain there.