Is it so wrong to hate someone because you are jealous of them

@tessa9 (1085)
Philippines
March 10, 2011 6:11am CST
I have to admit that I am pretty inferior. I was overweight when I was in junior high. I was not actually teased so bad. I was always the one who was so paranoid that people are laughing at me and that developed in to an eating disorder. I'm OK now. As I lost the weight, I also became more confident. But I think it is true what they say that "once a fat kid, always a fat kid." Although I am no longer overweight I'm still very insecure. Most of the people who don't know me says that I am either a snob or timid because I just don't feel comfortable talking to people. I just feel that they are judging me or something. When I see pretty girls in my school or work, I often feel jealous. I will either not eat that day or shop to distress. I know, I know I'm crazy. SO it is bad to hate someone because you are jealous of them?
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11 responses
• Indonesia
10 Mar 11
not good to hate someone because of jealousy. be jealous but there are reasonable limits. Your jealousy is caused by a deficiency in you. you should be able to dig up the deficiency to excess.
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@tessa9 (1085)
• Philippines
10 Mar 11
Yea I think hate is the wrong word. I dislike them. I guess so, I just don't like that they seem to be too freaking put together. Maybe they are not that flawless as I though.
@tessa9 (1085)
• Philippines
12 Mar 11
I know. It is wrong to hate the ones who do not do anything to me.
• Philippines
10 Mar 11
It is only a normal emotion but we should always think that this should not we feel everytime when we see more beautiful than ours, don't put down yourself instead think about what good qualities you have and enrich it.
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
12 Mar 11
Hi. tessa9. Yes, I think that it is very bad to hate someone just because you are jealous of them. You should not feel jealous at all. You have lost weight. You are on your way! There is no need for you to feel jealous of anyone. God made all of us special in our own way. I just think that you are dealing with some self-esteem issues. I hope that as you begin to think positive about yourself, you will feel so much more better then.
@jhaidro (877)
• Philippines
10 Mar 11
I think that it will do no good to have this feeling in you. I just think that it is an excess baggage to have this hatred with all these people. I think that you just have to let go of it and let your self be free. You do not need to read people's mind. Just let them be. If they want to judge, let them. You should not let it affect you. As long as you are not hurting anyone then you are just fine. It is not always about how you look. At times, it is better to feel good about yourself than make others see that you are good looking.
@tessa9 (1085)
• Philippines
10 Mar 11
I think that is the problem with me, I don't like myself. The worst thing for me is when I hear two girls laughing behind my back. I just can't seem to shake out the feeling that I had when I was in junior high.
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@tessa9 (1085)
• Philippines
11 Mar 11
I think that is easier said than done though. Thank you.
@jhaidro (877)
• Philippines
10 Mar 11
Well. I think that you should start by liking yourself a little more now. You should not hate others and you should not do this to yourself as well. The biggest fan to ourselves is also ourself.
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
14 Mar 11
I get pretty jealous of girls with fit body or girls who are taller than me . That is why i don't like reading magazines so much. It jut makes me mad.
@masang (295)
• Philippines
8 Apr 11
Start appreciating and loving yourself.But How? Always say to yourself: "I am God's masterpiece, therefore I am beautiful, I am unique and I am loved." Do it everyday.
@dreamy1 (3811)
• United States
11 Mar 11
Yes in my opinion it is. It's not about you. They could be laughing at what crazy thing they did. You are way too into yourself and your perceived shortcomings. Instead of focusing on you and you perceptions try to help other people and shift the focus on them not you. Volunteer at a soup kitchen or go visit sick kids in the hospital. Turn your negative feelings into something positive. Instead of hating others because of who they are and what they have try to better yourself. What are you seeing in them to make you envious? If you think they are pretty try to make yourself more like them so you can feel better about yourself if that's what you are after. You don't know what another person's life is like just looking on the outside. They may be pretty physically but they may have an incurable painful disease. Do you want to envy that? They may be pretty on the outside but their life may have been horrible. They may have been beaten, molested, raped, anything. Is that something to be envious of?
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
10 Mar 11
Jealousy and hate are both negative and do us no good at all. Start telling yourself that those pretty gorsl moght onòly be pretty on the outside - but is inside that counts surely? Tell your self that you are unique and try writing down all the positive things that you have and work on those so that they come cross when people see you. I am sure that you have a beautiful smile. Practice smiling and you will become prettier than any of those 'pretty' girls who are probably never smiling at all right?
@dreamnishu (1247)
• China
11 Mar 11
hello friend! yes you are right.but i can not control my self to hate them.it is not crazy dear we are human it is natural for us.it is also happen with me.that time i also do this like you.i am not different i am a human being so this is natural things. thanks a lot.
@sajeevking (5073)
• Mumbai, India
11 Mar 11
I am jealous of some people but i don't hate them i think you need to change your think a little bit and stop considering what other people think of you.I don't care what other think of me many of my neighbors always tell me that i am waste my time in search in for some online jobs but i know they are wrong but who cares telling them i don't need to explain them as i don't care what they think of me and i think you should don't mind either of what they say.Who are they to judge you but all i think is that is not there fault after all as its you who just think that they are laughing behind you and talking things about you you need to change a bit in order to overcome from this situation
• United States
11 Mar 11
Hate is a strong word for people you don't even know. Dislike is the word you should be using of course you can dislike someone. You dislike people for the wrong reasons though they have done nothing wrong to you, being jealous happens to everyone but you don't have to hate/dislike the person.