What is the best way to get over trust issues in a long distance relationship?
By mary2710
@mary2710 (20)
United States
March 13, 2011 4:30pm CST
I'm just curious if anyone has been in a long distance relationship and how they delt with the trust issues that come up being apart for long periods of time. For me personally it seems to be one sided. I'm the one having trouble trusting and he trusts me completely. I thought maybe someone might have some tips for getting over it.
4 responses
@chuyins123 (2112)
• Philippines
14 Mar 11
I have been in a long distance relationship for two years now. I could say you were the same with my girlfriend, I trust her completely but she doesn't seem to trust me the same way. One day when she prodded me for a break up, I asked her why, she said she wants to let go of me, because she keeps worrying about me and she keeps thinking about what I am doing, who I'm hangin around and everything. But I just asked her, do you really want us apart? Because I don't want a break up. Then she cried, and said I still want you, I just want a life. I told her then, "if you want us to last long, you need to trust me, because it's a major ingredient in a relationship" aside from trust, LDR requires understanding too. Understanding your partner, understanding the circumstances, understanding that includes but encompass shunning doubts. Keep in mind always that your partner is more important than your doubts, than your fears and your worries. Know that relationship is more important than anything else, "when you die, relationships don't."
@mary2710 (20)
• United States
15 Mar 11
That is a good point. I agree understanding is important too. I think it would help me trust him more if he could understand more about why I am this way and be more understanding about it. I'm sure it will all work out for the best. It is nice to know I'm not the only one who has this problem though.
@chuyins123 (2112)
• Philippines
15 Mar 11
Yeah, but most of all always remember LOVE. Amidst the troubles, challenges and storms always remember the BASE is LOVE.
@ally12 (1202)
• Philippines
26 Mar 11
Its a mutual commitment and agreement. Trust is not something given for free, we have to work hard for it to be given to us, and we have to take care of it. And so if we think that our partner deserves our trust then we must give it to them wholeheartedly with no doubts. I believe women knew it when their partners deserve their trust. I think thats what we call women instinct.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
20 Mar 11
I had a long distance relationship and it was soooo romantic, you know like a movie cause we cry, we say goodbye, a fight never last long because we are going to miss each other so we try to make up fast, it's really cute...but!!! The trusting issue! Oh yes, I was insecure in the begining. I think we don't know someone but I'm sorry dear, I am the type of girl that tests. I test them in many ways. I'm not a psycologist but I'm good in defining a person's mind by their actions and what they say.
When I have the feeling I trust. I think trusting is also a decision, we have to once and for all realize okay this guy can be trusted and then stick to it, even when they don't call from distance in the same time as usual or they are different, I think we have to stick with the trusting once and for all.
Begin a relationship in doubt and test, get to know the guy, after trusting better never go back. But we have to know why to trust.
@ernest220105 (179)
• Indonesia
13 Mar 11
distance and time apart is a tough problem for people who fall in love which can arise suspicion and jealousy. But it can be overcome when mutual trust each other, here there is no other choice but to believe. and each must keep ourselves to remain faithful and have no intention to affair.