how close with parents

@tod266 (85)
Thailand
March 14, 2011 9:00am CST
i leave my parents when i was 6 years old to study. just visit them some time, we have not much communication. now i marriage and they are old. how can i fell close to them ??
6 responses
@Rosa26 (2620)
• United States
20 Jul 11
well my friend, I just can tell you that all of us that have our parents alive are lucky, so try to redeem the time because the time, is running and will never come back, call them, invite them to your house or surprise them visiting, but redeem the time with them because the family is the most valuable treasure that we have, look at you in the future, and ask yourself, is that the kind of relatioship that i want with my children when they grow up? call them a call is not an expensive tool but have a lot of value. Good luck.
@tod266 (85)
• Thailand
20 Jul 11
thank your very much friend :D the best thing i can do is just call them..but still not much talk .. not easy to visit them often because of work and we are bit far from them..but good , some time my dad still come to me because his work is here.. blessing ..
• Philippines
20 Jul 11
Oh, that's quite a setback. Nevertheless, you should always make time to see them because they're still family.
@chuyins123 (2118)
• Philippines
14 Mar 11
Invest time with them. Get as much time spent with them knowing them. Loving is knowing. Talk to them more often and let them know that you love them. I am pretty close to my mom, not because I have always been with her. But she's I've always been there for her. Sometimes I just call home, and allow her to pour down her emotions, I just give her the listening ear for her. Communication would be great tool for love. God bless you my friend! God bless your family! Have a happy life!
@tod266 (85)
• Thailand
20 Jul 11
That good for you to close to your mom, i would like to spent time with them but am far from them, it take about 6 hours drive to their house. but i call them some time and visit them but not often.. God bless you too. !
• Philippines
20 Jul 11
I grew up with my parents that's why I am close to my mom even when I spend almost the last ten years away from them. College days till I got here in the City to find a job. Well, relationship stays despite the distance and time you've spent together. RElationship is the only thing that would last after everything else is gone.
• Philippines
15 Mar 11
You should go back and visit them. Or maybe go out with them on a trip or vacation or whatever. These are the people who brought you up so you should form a much stronger bond with them.
@tod266 (85)
• Thailand
20 Jul 11
yes i back to visit them but not often because of work and they are a bit far from me.. just waiting if they are more old and they stay with me so that time can spent more time.. because they like to stay in village more than in city..
• Philippines
15 Mar 11
invest your time with them since they are already old. Be with them most of the time. Be physically, mentally and emotionally present. Plan for some picnic trips or vacation. I mean It is never too late to bond with them. cook foods that they like. Go to church with them. Every little thing how big or small that is. It counts.
@tod266 (85)
• Thailand
20 Jul 11
you right ! i hope if they getting older than now they will come to stay with me but now it hard to bring them to live in city because they like to stay in village and big land ..
@NIECIE21 (365)
• United States
14 Mar 11
It is just like any other relationship, you have to invest time in to it. You didnt become close to your spouse by not talking or visiting. Its just like that. I would try to just visit them a little more often and calling them more than you are. You maybe suprised, they may be wanting a closer relationship with you but are thinking since you dont make the effort then you dont care. Good luck!
@tod266 (85)
• Thailand
20 Jul 11
Thank you, i hope so i can talk to them more.. but i am a bit quite not much talk that maybe my problem too.. now busy on work at office and home .. but some time dad come to visit me because of his work here..
@shia88 (4582)
• Malaysia
14 Mar 11
Hi, It seem you have left your home when you are still very young,during that time,do your parents come to visit you. I can understand your situation since you left home at young age,of course,less communication carry on between yours and it definitely affect your relationship with your parents. Now you have married and have own family,you can always pay them a visit during your off-day or take some break from your work to give them a suprise to visit your parents, I believe they will be very happy to see you back home. It is just a matter of whether you want to take the initiative to get closer with your parents or not,you still not too late to get closer to them. SPend more time with them as you can,treasure the moments you spent with them. Or you can suggest a simple holiday trip together with your parents and family. It will be a nice gathering for everyone.
@tod266 (85)
• Thailand
20 Jul 11
Thank you very much, you understand very well.. yeah ! i visit them but not often just once in 1-2 years because of work and a bit far..