How to deal with long distance relationship?

@edsss17 (4398)
Philippines
March 14, 2011 11:01am CST
Honestly, as of the moment.. I am currently in a relationship.. long distance relationship to be exact.. He's away staying with his parents and I am too with my parents. For me, its really hard.. especially when you need that someone at the very moment but you can't because he's far.. You guys? Have you tried a long distance relationship? How did you deal with it? Was it successful?
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@remo86 (252)
• Egypt
15 Mar 11
I had once relationship of these type..At first i was saying i can handle it and it will work ..But after well , i found myself looking to my friends and their relationships,i got that i'm missing alot in these way..So in end i discovered that it can't work ..and broke up
@edsss17 (4398)
• Philippines
15 Mar 11
Hello remo, Oh that's sad.. Not everything will work in this kind of relationship. But I hope ours will. We trust each other and I hope things will go well. Thank you for sharing your story! :) Cheers!
@remo86 (252)
• Egypt
15 Mar 11
I hope girl that yours is much much better then mine ...So good luck for you
@edsss17 (4398)
• Philippines
15 Mar 11
Thanks for the goodluck girl.. I appreciate it so much! :)
@mobhomeir (7565)
• Philippines
15 Mar 11
Before we go further on your discussion my friend. Could you please elaborate well what kind of relationship you mean? If you're both girlfriend-boyfriend relationship then it is but natural since you're not married yet. If you're living together or married already then it is not good. As if the guy still hiding on his mother's dress. I don't know the whole score..I thought long distance you mean was you both living or working one of you abroad... Cheers. Mobhomeir here..
@edsss17 (4398)
• Philippines
15 Mar 11
Hello, Its just girlfriend-boyfriend relationship at the moment my friend. :)
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@mobhomeir (7565)
• Philippines
15 Mar 11
Oh I see..well, honestly I was once a victim of long distance love affair. We've been on our relationship for 13 years and all went to nothing. Just be cautious, expect the unexpected because if there are those people about to be wedded never really happened how much more with you both that are still at the stage of bf/gf relationship for may be a couple of years yet.. Cheer up.. Mobhomeir here..
@edsss17 (4398)
• Philippines
15 Mar 11
Hello, I know that! I already expect the unexpected..Thank you for reminding me! And I'm sad to hear your story.. Don't worry there are still a lot out there.. Feel free to pick the right one! :) CHeers!
@dreamy1 (3815)
• United States
14 Mar 11
I've been in a long distance relationship for the last seven years. We lived together for two of those years but now we live in different places again. It's a little easier for me because my job allows me to travel for free so I can fly to see him when I want. A long distance relationship can work if both people want it to work. I don't talk to him every day on the phone but we text and IM.
@edsss17 (4398)
• Philippines
14 Mar 11
Hello dreamy, That's what we do. Facebook, text and IM. at least we can talk somehow than never right? It makes the loneliness lesser! Thanks for sharing about your relationship!
• China
22 Mar 11
my boyfriend and I knew each other in the high school. we were together when we wre in Senior 2. After the college entrance examination, I was admitted by a university far away from my hometown (nearly 24 hours by train), while he was in our hometown. Now we will graduate and fortunately, we are still together and i will move to my hometown after graduation. There were quarrels and misunderstandings full of these 4 years, but what I want to say is that as long as you two love each other, nothing can stop you. Even if it is a long distance relationship, you two can conquer.
@edsss17 (4398)
• Philippines
22 Mar 11
Hi even, You said it very well and I agree with you!
@mtrguanlao (5527)
• Philippines
15 Mar 11
Awwww,so you have a boyfriend bunso,I thought you don't have one 'cause I always see you online in some other sites,lol! Meaning,you have no time for relationships,lol! Me and my hubby is a good example of a succesful long distance relationship edsss but of course it's a different thing when you are just bf and gf. I believe if you both really love each other despite the fact that you are away from each other,it could work. Trust should be your foundation in long distance relationship. Some may say that your bf might have some monkey business doing because you're not there but if you do trust him,no jealousy will arise. It's hard though bunso,I know you two are still not in a deeper relationship so you both have lots of trials and problems to encounter. I'll just have to say goodluck to both of you! See yah!
@edsss17 (4398)
• Philippines
15 Mar 11
Hello inay, WAHAHAHA! I have inay! Thank you for the message! We trust each other :D I trust him, he trust me.. I don't care if he have other monkey business out there as long as he have always the time to talk to me. He calls me he text me! :) LOL! Your response inay makes me laugh! :) Thanks po! See ya!
• Philippines
15 Mar 11
Lol,at least I made you laugh bunso,hehe! Good to hear that both of you are in love,awuuu awuuuu!!! See yah!
• Philippines
7 Sep 11
i don't exactly know if me and my boyfriend's relationship fit in the long distance category. my boyfriend is studying in a university one hour away from me. so we only get to see each other once a week. it's not really long distance but i still miss him for 6 days that i am not able to see him. i think the only keys to sustaining a long distance relationship are trust, love and of course, loyalty.
@edsss17 (4398)
• Philippines
7 Sep 11
Indeed! :)
@sashakiddo (1104)
• United States
26 Mar 11
I was in a long distance relationship for 4 months. It was really hard but at the same time it had its benefits. We would talk on skype so we could see each other's face like we were sitting right in front of each other. It wasn't the same but it was fine. The good thing was, if we ever got into an argument and I was sick of it, I could just hang up and call him when I wanted to talk to him. hehe Since I was always argumentative, we nearly broke up several times. But if you aren't possessive like me, you should be fine. My relationship was a bumpy ride, but it was a test of our love. If you can handle being away from your partner, then it seems like a healthy relationship.
@edsss17 (4398)
• Philippines
5 Sep 11
Well yes! :) If we can pass this kind of test, then probably its healthy!
@nj_1022 (251)
15 Mar 11
Long distance relationship is hard to maintain. Two of you should really exert effort to show love and you must have fulltrust with one another.
@edsss17 (4398)
• Philippines
16 Mar 11
Hello.. I agree with you.. Thanks!
@shia88 (4582)
• Malaysia
15 Mar 11
Hi, Having a long distance relationship is not easy, both parties must trust each other and because they can't date each other in person,so only via phone and computer,they can communicate with each other,listen to each other's voices. Of course, you guys can visit each other one day,and that will be the most happiest day to meet up again. SO far, I never experience a long distance relationship before and I really can't comment much on how I am going to handle it well. But one thing for sure, be it how far is the distance,communication is very important.
@edsss17 (4398)
• Philippines
16 Mar 11
Hello, so true! Thanks!
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
15 Mar 11
Really only few relationship can survive in a long distance appear, so I hope you are included in the FEW... it depends on how both of you handle it. Since you said difficult I think you can make a change or a better adjustment... see you around
@edsss17 (4398)
• Philippines
16 Mar 11
Yes, its really difficult.. But it still depends how the both of us will handle this! Thank you@
• India
15 Mar 11
Gurl, the same goes with me.. I have been in a long distance relationship past 5 years. I know how difficult it is.. But staying connected through phone and webcam and giving each others spaces is damn important to keep it going well... Good luck
@edsss17 (4398)
• Philippines
16 Mar 11
So true! :) Thanks for the good luck!
@miketagz (7496)
• Philippines
15 Mar 11
Its like my cousin had a boyfriend in US and still loving each other even they deal with long distance relationship. Hope someday will meet each other personally because its almost 4 years for now. Good luck for them...
@edsss17 (4398)
• Philippines
15 Mar 11
Hello, Yes, good luck to their relationship too!
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
15 Mar 11
Really only few relationship can survive in a long distance appear, so I hope you are included in the FEW... it depends on how both of you handle it. Since you said difficult I think you can make a change or a better adjustment... see you around