Does your husband fly often for business trip?

@mermaidivy (15415)
United States
March 15, 2011 9:26am CST
My husband is flying for his business trip... again... so baby and I will be home alone. Although he only flies for 1 week or less each time, it feels like forever, the weeks are very long when he is not home. I understand that he has to do it for work but I just feel sad that he has to go away so often. And I feel stressful sometimes taking care of our 6 months old only especially when he is being cranky. My family doesn't live around here and I don't have friends so it makes it hard for me. So how about you?
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@schulzie (4064)
• United States
15 Mar 11
My husband used to travel at least 1 week every month, sometimes 2 weeks every month. He did this for 7 years. And we have 4 children. He would travel from the United States to South America, Central America, and Mexico. It sucked whenever he left and you are right, the weeks seemed very long. When he got back home he was tired and there was a ton of laundry to do every time. You have to just get used to it. There really is no way around it. And we had moved across the country and I still have no family around here. It is tough but you have to be strong and hang in there. Thank goodness he doesn't travel for work any more. I will not lie, I do not miss those days at all. Have a great day and happy myLotting!!!
@mermaidivy (15415)
• United States
15 Mar 11
Yea...
• United States
16 Mar 11
Oh I am sorry to hear your husband will be leaving on another business trip leaving you and baby at home alone. I am also sorry to hear that you do not have family or friends around you at such a much needed time. I am not currently married but I do live with my boyfriend for 5 years and most times I have been lucky to travel with him. One time I was not able to and it nearly tore me apart because I like you did not really have anyone trustworthy to vent with. I want to remind you that although not a solution, come on myLot as much as you can and vent your feelings, I did find at the time that it helped me a great deal. Try walking around weather permitting with the baby so you can get out of the house and pre-occupy the mind from thinking too much. You are very young and you will need offline interaction with people around you. I am sorry if I am not comforting but know that you husband return will be much happy day.
@shia88 (4582)
• Malaysia
16 Mar 11
Hi Hardworkinggurl, I am agreed with your point, when I feel bored, I will online and login to MyLot and start respond to discussions and at same time, I have chance to make new friends around the world. Even now,facebook is pretty trendy and we can simply keep in touch with our old mates around the world. I myself also new to my husband's hometown and I have no friends here. Of course, I do feel bored sometimes,although I am at home taking care of my son full-time. But sometimes, I really need my own free time to do things. Sometimes, I do think whether I should go out to work and leave my son to daycare centre,so that I wil have chance to interact with others, but then I feel unsafe to leave my son at daycare centre. That is good that you are staying together with your boyfriend. Do enjoy your life now before settling down.
@mermaidivy (15415)
• United States
16 Mar 11
Yeah mylot is one of the things I will do whether he is on business trip or not. When there are lots of interesting discussions, it is good, otherwise, I don't feel like sitting and searching for discussions. I do a little bit of facebook but I'm not one of those active users, I only post pictures sometime but I don't comment on my friend's page very much.
• India
16 Mar 11
Oh! I can really sympathise with you, specially with a small baby, you really need all the help you can get. Also its very very tiring (both mentally and physically) to take care of a baby, 24hrs a day all by yourself. Its but natural that you will yearn for adult company…somebody to talk to and distress yourself. My hubby too goes out for official trips and its really really lonely without him… the worst part is that when you cant really talk about everything happening around you…you get to only talk over the phone and that’s also just the basics… We cant really do anything in these matters…anyway, we are here for you
@mermaidivy (15415)
• United States
16 Mar 11
yes yes yes... I talk to my mom a lot on the phone, I just wish they were here with me... I do need help and missing my parents and my sister makes is worst... I had a very very hard time when I knew he has to fly frequently since he got his new position.
@Cherish14 (2695)
• Philippines
16 Mar 11
hi there. awww i understand how you feel. it is the same with me and my sister. my sister husband works in the US and can only come home once a year and that is only for 3 weeks. and they have a baby too. so i know it is harder compared to my situation. my boyfriend works in the US too and also comes home to me once a year. i find it really really hard despite the constant communication, how much more for my sister and you because you have babies. but you are better because at least it is only for a week or less compared to us we have one year hehehe
@mermaidivy (15415)
• United States
16 Mar 11
I can't imagine if we had to stay apart from each other for a year or for more than 1 month... it would be bad.
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
16 Mar 11
Thank God not, I don't know how to handle cause I don't like being alone when I'm in a relationship. It would be unfortunate if he change jobs, but for now he has this trip with co-workers every 3 years and it's getting closer, it's for fun and last time he went he wasn't here for 3 days, it is a little bit sad.
@mermaidivy (15415)
• United States
16 Mar 11
Yes, it is sad when yor partner has to go away for trips...
@shia88 (4582)
• Malaysia
16 Mar 11
Hi, I can understand your feeling,being left alone at home with your kid while your husband is away for overseas business trip. Although it is just for short period of time,but you sure will miss your husband alot and your kid sure will miss his daddy too. Being alone at home taking care of your kid can be stressful especially when the kid gets crancky. And you hardly have your own "me" time since most of your time is spending with your kid at home. Are you staying at this place recently? Try to mingle around with your neighbours, at least, you have some friends to talk when you feel bored. Bring your kid to a park or playground for a walk once a week, at there, you will meet with other mommies and have chance to get know more friends. Actually I don;t have any friends at my husband's town and I do feel lonely sometimes, But I am lucky because my husband never go for any overseas business trip.So at night time, we have chance to have dinner together and Sunday is also our family day. My own family is not staying in the same country,but we do keep in touch always. Nowadays with an advanced technology, you can always chat online with your friends or family members when you are free.That is what I am doing when I feel bored. Do take good care of yourself....
@mermaidivy (15415)
• United States
16 Mar 11
The only time I can do some own stuff is when he is sleeping, and own stuff means housework so... needless to say it is boring. I like spending time witrh my son, I'm not complaining at all but you know it can get me lose my mind sometimes if he doesn't cooperate. I go online a lot; I could go out but going out means spending money... so I kind of stay home more these days, don't want to spend some money that I don't have to spend.
@sweet_pea (3326)
• Philippines
16 Mar 11
My husband's work often requires him to travel to different parts of our country. I really don't like it because, I really want him to come home to us on a daily basis. I don't like the feeling of having him travel a lot because you don't know when accidents happen. I'm always worried about his safety. But there is really not much I can do but pray for his safety. He loves what he is doing and he is good at what he does. I don't want to take that happiness away from him. Once a year, he schedules a family trip for us where he let us visit places that he had been to.
@mermaidivy (15415)
• United States
16 Mar 11
That's the other thing that I worry as well, he has to fly and what if... you know...
• Italy
15 Mar 11
I'm not married but my father is a research and developement and he's always traveled a lot. If I understood the right way your husband usually stays away for no more than a week; you're very lucky because my dad sometimes is abroad for months. I remember that when I was five years old he went to India for three months; I missed him a lot! The only thing that makes me feel better about this is that I know he likes his job. Hey remember, you're not alone: you have your kid near by you...I'm sure he's aa cutie! ;)
@mermaidivy (15415)
• United States
16 Mar 11
my husband is in research and developement as well, it requires him to do business travel to meet the people in the company or meetings. When he is away, I sleep in my son's room so I feel less lonely, and my doggie is with me as well.
• Philippines
15 Mar 11
So far, my partner has not gone to a business trip and by next month it is the first time that he will be going to one. They will be staying there for a few good months. I'm quite sad when I learned about it and I am not sure how I really feel. I wish him good luck though. In your case though, I just can't imagine what you're going through every time he needs to move around for business trips and you are left at home while waiting for his return. I guess, waiting is really one of the worst part in any relationship. As long as you get to talk to him every other day if not every day and keep an open line between you two, then maybe you won't miss him that much. Good luck!
@mermaidivy (15415)
• United States
15 Mar 11
few months? Why don't you go with him? My husband said if he had to go for trips for months, we would be going together. Yes, the first few times when he went for trips, I was really depressed because of being alone at home.
@dodo19 (33678)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
15 Mar 11
At least, you are able to stay home. I'm lucky that my husband does go away on business trips very often. He has been on a few, but they weren't very long business trips at all. So, I kind of lucky in that way.
@mermaidivy (15415)
• United States
15 Mar 11
So you're happy that he has to fly?
@smileonstar (4013)
• United States
15 Mar 11
Hello, you are lucky to stay home and take care of the baby. I have two children (3 years old and 6 years old), and I have to go to work as well.. full time. well, my husband used to do that before but now he works local and it is a little easy for me. I understand your feeling but he just try his best to support you and the baby. I hope you make him happy everytime you see him. No one wants to leave you home alone with the baby... but sometimes job is require him to go. If you dont want to get bored and tired or stress... take the baby out to walk or do something that will make you happy while he is away. Or make a little list to do with that baby or other moms. how that sound? I dont have anyone to help me either... all of my family live in different country and I take care both of them since they were born. We are a housewife, Mother and a Wife... we have to deal with these ... so I wish you all the best.
@mermaidivy (15415)
• United States
15 Mar 11
I understand he has to do that for work and nothing we can do about it. I'm glad that I don't have to work, otherwise, it would be so bad. I try to keep myself occupied so I don't think about it. Thank you for sharing.
@sacmom (14315)
• United States
29 Apr 13
No, my husband hardly flew at all. In the 10 years he worked at his last job, he only had to fly 1 time (twice if you count the trip back home LOL). The rest of the time was by road, so he was home every night.
@cherigucchi (4866)
• Philippines
5 Apr 13
My husband travel most of the time which is usually business related. At first when we were newly wed, I was uncomfortable being left alone but somehow I got used to it already. The longest trip he had was only a month so basically he had only short trips. I do not mind it anymore because I already have 3 kids to attend to.