Is There Any Love Between Us?

China
March 16, 2011 5:54am CST
We have been lovers for one and a half years, and he said a lot of sweet words to me and promosed me every good thing. At that time , I can not tell if he is just joking with me or not.Nowdays we quarreled with each other for many times even a meaningless thing.We never gave in to each other, but in my mind , he sweared to me that he will never quarrel with me unless he won't love me any more . I have wondered it some times but he always tell me that he will loveme forever . After so many times argueing I cann't believe that there is true love between us.I wonder that if there is true love even we undergo so much hard times?
8 responses
@nikramos (701)
• Philippines
17 Mar 11
just have faith in the relationship and in the person you are in a relationship with. push your boundaries and see where your patience and understanding will lead you to. if it has become too hurting for you, after all the things you've done, then i guess its about time to leave and save yourself from further hurt. your true love will get you through a lot of rough times but if its too much to bear, just let go. i wish things will be better for you and your partner.
• China
17 Mar 11
hi,i just break out with my girlfriend,i remember when i first fell with her,i truely love her deeply,even now,i still sometimes think of her,one thing i can be sure is that he of course love you,but love is not everything,because i recall that when i was in love,i had pomised many things,even as myself didn't know if it would come true,but i love her!so i said to her never cared what would happen.But then,i find out saying love doesn't mean everything,there are many meaningful things far beyond love,for example,your personalities,maybe he loves you,but when you have been together for quite a long time,he finds out that your personalities are quite different,the way he think of living,making money,even showing love,are not the same whit you think,so,you may quarrel,you may hurt each other,but what i want to say is these are not the meaning he dosen't love you anymore,these are because your different peronalities deciding there are some problems between you.love is not like a quiet surface of a lake,it's not peaceful,love equals with trouble,it needs to be overcome by lovers!Difference always inhabits in love,the most important aspect is you should learn to think for each other,if you can do this,he can do this too,i think you will overcome this difficult circumstance!
@whengcat (1458)
• Philippines
17 Mar 11
Arguing from time to time is normal. But if you think that it's not anymore then take some time to talk it over before the situation gets worst...Any problem can be resolve in a nice way. Be more open but don't nag. A heart-to-heart talk would be nice. By doing that, you'll understand each others' feelings and maybe come up with some compromise....Goodluck!
@Jiabsa (512)
• India
17 Mar 11
Argument and quarrel are common in every couple's life. Men always have superiority complex. They don't like to lie under the foot of women. To lead a happy family life, women have to suffer a lot. Suffering is a number one quality of a typical wife. If your love is true, you can recognize him and don't go for an argument. Sometimes the truth is in your part - forgive it. Forgiveness is a plus point of an ideal wife.
@m2heart (80)
• Philippines
16 Mar 11
Hello Darlingshi :) In a relationship couple really undergo hard times together. It is not always happiness, enjoyment, excitement, surprises etc. that is important in a relationship. If you experienced quarrel that simply means that you have to surpass things which measure how true and deep your love for each other.
@khalida (1130)
• India
16 Mar 11
well first thing that gets into my mind is the fact that both of you do not give in when you fight right. you feel disturbed after so many quarrels and you do not feel good about it. don't you think he might just be thinking the same thing? communication is the key. tell him how upset you fell about you both quarreling and tel him you are scared if there is no love at all? when he reacts to this, in a positive or negative way, you will know what is in his mind. also tell him, how you would love it if both of you quarreled less. another important thing is, let go your ego, make sure a fight ends the very same day. sit and sort it out. all the best
@tiffnkeat (1679)
• Singapore
16 Mar 11
This happens to most couples. As much as we profess our love to each other, sometimes the weariness of the world tensed us up and we can easily irritated, especially with loved ones whom we expect should know how to treat us better. Love is not a feeling that is all rosy. Love is sometimes a test in times of challenge. To swear he will never quarrel is one thing (and although he may mean it when he said it), but you should not expect it to be true as life throws us off-guard. When he is in better mood, express yourself to him on how you feel in times of quarrel and how the two of you can draw closer in those challenging times.
@toniganzon (53259)
• Philippines
16 Mar 11
It's really sad to hear that love might have decreased over the year. Sometimes when we love too much we tend to expect more and demand more and when such is not met, we tend to question whether the love that was promised still exist. Fighting is healthy in a relationship because it makes the couple grow stronger. If the fighting is too much though we might lose our self respect and eventually the love that ee have for each other. Please try to tell him how you feel and let him know about your worries. Have a heart to heart talk with him and open up everything that's bothering you. He might have the same concern.