what to do when you feel you are "out of place?"
By chiyochan
@chiyosan (30184)
Philippines
March 19, 2011 4:52am CST
When you are invited to a party, or was in a party or gathering with your boyfriend/husband or wife... how do you deal the feeling that you do not know much in the place? how do you react to people who seem to question your presence?
How do we deal with people who makes us feel uncomfortable in gatherings, or party or events that we are invited to attend?
What if you do not have a lot of people you know in the said place? Thanks!!
4 responses
@jeanneyvonne (5501)
• Philippines
28 Mar 11
I guess the only thing that I can do when I'm forced to attend such events is to carefully wander away from the event. Most especially if I don't know a single soul in the said event. I really don't like to be rude to the host or the people who attended but sometimes I feel that It's not my obligation to make contact or mingle if I really don't have to. Polite conversation and small talk is okay for me but I don't like to linger longer than what I had to be. It would just ruin the experience. Better go away than die of utter boredom.
If people question my presence, I would be honest. I was invited or I was ask by a person to accompany him or her. No point in lying when it's the truth. If people would want to make my experience uncomfortable, it's basically their problem. My problem is getting out of that event if it proved too boring or too predictable for me.
@Maikel631 (18)
• Morocco
22 Mar 11
It's really irritating. You feel like you're just being there, without any reason. You start to question yourself, why did I even get here? Mostly you try to clamp on the person who invited you, but if that doesn't help, then sometimes its better to just go.
If you still want to make something of it, then I would just try to get a conversation going with people, because otherwise, you ain't doing a thing. And then it's really boring and uncomfortable to be there.
@ckyera (17332)
• Philippines
19 Mar 11
hi there!
i really hate such feeling and being in such situation. what i just usually do is to stay with someone who brings me in that party or i just focus my attention to other things like eating? lol! just kidding!
i try to look for someone whom i can talk to or if i can't find anyone maybe i can just go home. lol! better to sleep than to waste my time in such kind of party, it will just be a big boredom for me.
@junrapmian (2169)
• Philippines
21 Mar 11
I guess, those gatherings are for you to make friends so you should not feel out-of place. You must learn to get along with the others, anyway,all of you there are guests and it is time that you know them by making some little chats with them.
