she was stinking.

India
March 20, 2011 1:36pm CST
yoday i was travelling in train and there was big rush in train.i was standing near to door and holding a high handle and there was a girl standing next to me she was also holding handle.and she was having bad odour.i tried to change my place but train was full i tried to tolerate her but she was stinking so badly thati didnt able to tolerate her for long time so i told her that she is stinking and u wont believe what she said. she told me if you dont like go to hell. i was shocked.and there was no reaction on her face she was standing same way as she before.and i felt ashamed and came down from train on next stop.wasnt that weird? have anyone of you went through the situation like this. where you felt really untolrated?
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24 responses
@umabharti (3976)
• India
20 Mar 11
hi,,people should have some commonsense and knw how to mingle in public places and what to be used to be comfortable while travelign.I pity for u.I think she doesnt hae any idea about wht she is causing to others.Unless she herself knw the problem no one can do .Running awy is the best way.
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• India
21 Mar 11
ya even i was feeling pity on myself at that time as i cant do anything i just have to wait for the next stand so that i can cameout of the train.and thats exactly what i did.
@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
20 Mar 11
Good for you ,you were able to tell her that straight to her face. I never had any chance of doing so. I just hold my nose of covered with handkerchief (that i never forget to have in my bag,in case like that) Or take out my cologne and dab on my neck just to cover the bad odor and will try my way to get out or moved away from the person. People who has the odor can't smell it,they're used to their stinks.
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• India
20 Mar 11
i m also humanbeing even i tried everything what you could have done on my place but it went over my patience so i told her face to face.
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@cream97 (29169)
• United States
20 Mar 11
Hi. divyangshukla. Well you were being honest with her and it is not your fault that she has bad body odor. You are more bolder than me. I could never come out and tell a stranger about them being stink. I would feel so ashamed. I will try to avoid being around them if possible. If I can't, I will just hold my nose tightly. I have never been in a situation as this before. I am sorry that you were though.
• India
20 Mar 11
baby im also not that much bold even i tried i should not tell her directly i tried to see any vacent place near by but train was full and tried to hold my nose also but i felt its bater to tell her rather then fooling myself.but that didnt work for me.and she reacted asif she also knowing that she was stinking.
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@cream97 (29169)
• United States
20 Mar 11
I can understand where you are coming from. Sometimes when you don't mean to be bold you will have to be, to let a person know how you really do feel. Well, it was better for you to tell her than someone else. Someone else would have been very rude about it. Heck, they may even bring her out and shame her in front of everyone. At least you have not done her like this. You have done the opposite of someone else that just would not give a hoot!
• India
20 Mar 11
you got the point cream if i have started acting like putting handkerchief on nose or doing some ugly gesture then everyone might have came to know what was happening and she might felt shame so i told her just for let her know so she can use some deo or perfume if she had but she took me in wrong way so what i should do later.i did what i felt.
• Philippines
21 Mar 11
I laugh my assout with your story. You sure is too brave to tell her.If I was you I could have just shut my mouth and endure the smell. Mybe she reacted like that because she couldnt smell herself anymore because she got immune to it hehe ps. my keyboard sucks today.
@flapiz (4151)
• Australia
21 Mar 11
Hahaha.. Immunity to bad smell is scientifically called in psychology as "Sensory Adaptation." It sounds really funny though when you call it that way :)
• Philippines
21 Mar 11
great input flapiz ...coincidentally I'm a psych major though. lol:D
@Rainegurl (2158)
• Philippines
21 Mar 11
I wish I have your guts. When confronted with the same situation, I would probably just hold my breath until I turn blue I think and I hope that you were able to help her. You may have been her bearer of bad news but I hope from then on she was able to realize that she needs to pay more attention to her hygiene. Have a nice day!
@flapiz (4151)
• Australia
21 Mar 11
Hahaha.. i will also hold my breath. i am too freaking polite to tell someone they stink. except my sister. LOl.
• India
21 Mar 11
hi flapiz simple question to you can u hold your breath for 1/2 hour? even i tried to hold my breath and even covered my nose using handkerchief but that was a 10 min comfort for me. anyways i wish no one gets the situation like this.
@staria (2782)
• Philippines
21 Mar 11
I am impress by your guts to tell it to her straight out. Gosh, wish I can do that too! anyway, I havent encountered such. I usually go away from people that stinks and that's it.
• India
21 Mar 11
hi staria good for you that you havent met the situation like this and wish you never have to face like this as this is really feel ashamed.
@staria (2782)
• Philippines
22 Mar 11
yeah, sometimes it is really hard to be upfront and confront other people. but if its my friend, i would do that so that my friend wouldnt face humiliation from other people
@ptower76 (1619)
• United States
20 Mar 11
One man's treasure is another man's garbage. Perhaps to you she stunk but to the next man she smelled sweet. There are some male dominated cultures where women wear offensive scents to discourage attention by outside males. Perhaps that was the case in your situation. Whatever the reason, I would have moved away but not confronted her. After all, in my opinion, she has the right to smell any way she wants just as I have the right to avoid smelling it. Question to you. Did confronting her relieve the offense to your olfactory system? If not, what was the point of the confrontation?
• India
20 Mar 11
you are right but what if everyone was having problem with her smell but nobody had guts to tell her in that case what you think one should tell her or not.and if im not wrong there is always difference between scent or perfume smell and odor smell. im not saying what i did was right or wrong i just said i did what i felt i should do.
@Cherish14 (2695)
• Philippines
21 Mar 11
hi there, maybe she didn't like the way you approached her hehehehe but still she shouldn't respond like that too. she was probably immune to her odor so she didn't really care. but i hate that because that is just gross my brother's baby sitter has body odor too, but when we told her, she was sorry and tried to even avoid us so we don't smell her and then the next day, she was okay already. she didn't stink because she said she bought a deodorant already and that is good. unlike that girl, she shouldn't be acting like that
• India
21 Mar 11
thats good for you that in your case your baby sitter undstand and felt shame in my case she instead of getting shamed she reacted like she used to hear like this everyday.
@reco13 (605)
• Philippines
21 Mar 11
:) Bad for you. You felt the shame she was supposed to feel. Sometimes, those instances when I encounter, I simply ignore since I can adjust, like transferring to another part of the train or just go out. I will not tell anything to the girl since nothing will change even if I will tell her. She will just be placed in shameful situation.
• India
21 Mar 11
hi reco you are right i felt like i did wrong by telling her i should have just walk down out of train.but the next stop was too far and after told her i went off the train.
• United States
20 Mar 11
I went off a few times in pblic because of someone stinking near me. This man took off his boots on the bus behind me once and i told is azz off. I told him he had no right to funk up the bus like that and to put back on his fraking shoes. by this time the bus was already too funky to stand. I was like an hour from my stop or would have got off.
• India
21 Mar 11
wow i found someone here who really undstood what i wanna say by this discussion i have not said that m i right wat i did but i just wanna know have anyone else have gone through the conditon like this.and all the reply im gettin on my discussion is about i have done right or wrong.
@kanchan10 (2663)
• Kolkata, India
1 Apr 11
it is almost happens every now and then whenever i travel by packed bus or train in the summer.the stench of sweat is some times so bad that i had to come down get some auto to reach my working place. but i didn't have complained in a fear to have treated likewise. i have found a way to avoid these situations,just cover the nostrils with handkerchief
@whatrow (793)
• United States
29 Mar 11
I understand how you feel. I once had to sit on a train from New York to Jacksonville, Fla. next to a woman who smelled horrible. I didn't say anything because I didn't want to hurt her. I believe we have to accept people as they are. If somebody smells, maybe it is because she is sick. Or, maybe she has some other serious problem. She is miserable enough as it is. Calling her attention to your discomfort is not going to change the situation and will only make things worse for her. I am sure she will take care of herself as soon as she can.
@agrim94 (3811)
• India
24 Mar 11
Hi Divyang, I understand what you mean. I have to travel many a times in Metro train in Delhi and in rush hours it is very crowded and if you take it from pragati maidan during International trade fair you would be lucky to take a breath, it is so crowded. On numerous occasions i have been next to someone who smelled totally of alcholo or beedi , i felt like vometting but i cudnt get out of train as next one would be same too.
@inu1711 (5288)
• Romania
22 Mar 11
I can imagine how bad it was! Here, at the office, we have a cleaning lady that always stinks. We have some security rules here and she can't clean the offices after the office hours, so she need to come for vacuuming early in the morning, when we are already at work. When she comes, we all get out of the office, with the excuse that she need space to do her job well. The moment she exits the office we widely open all the windows to clear the air.
• United States
21 Mar 11
You never know why she smelled bad. You never said what kind of odor, so everyone is assuming she is a nasty person. That may have been the first time in her life she smelled like that. If you are forced to us public transportation and there is an issue, you still have to be on that public transportation to get where you need to do to correct the situation. Maybe she was sick and had an accident. I would never tell someone in front of everyone else that they stink. That is downright ugly. Just hope you are never in that situation.
@XiaoLin (289)
• Italy
21 Mar 11
When it happens to me to be near someone stinking I just try to tolerate it and breath as less as I can, I feel ashamed evenm to move to seme other place because I am afraid the person who smells bad would feel uneasy about it... Maybe I'm a little bit too much, but I am always afraid I coul hurt the other person. I think they have the right to use the public transports and maybe it was not their fault if they stink. There was a girl working in the same office as me and she smelled so bad we had to open the windows of our room if she entered it, the smell wouldn't go away even after she left. And we didn't know how to confront her about it. It wasn't like she didn't bath at all or smoked or else, we couldn't find a way to solve it. I don't know what happened after I left, anyway.
• India
21 Mar 11
OMG,Friend you had shown a real courage and honesty.If I was standing at that place I can't gather that much courage to tell her that "You are stinking".You know being male it is very difficult to say this kinds of things to female. One of my coleige have very bad body odour and he is with me at workplace most of times.I had taken almost one weak told him about this.Fortunately he didn't reacted like that girl and now using a perfume to avoid the bad odour. Happy mylotting.
@flapiz (4151)
• Australia
21 Mar 11
Hi Mate! I sort of think that situation as funny. I hope you won't be offended. I sometimes find myself in the same situation, but I never get the courage to tell the concerned person directly. Lol, she should've been the one ashamed and not you. :)
@vannyt (344)
• Philippines
21 Mar 11
Wow can you give me some courage, I'd love to do that some day. I wish I've seen it happen but naahhh.....I'm happy not to. It was funny as if it's happening only on movies. I can't do the same thing cause most probably I would turn out rude.
@voldrox (7205)
• India
21 Mar 11
Wow, that was something. Maybe she wasn't in a good mood and so she didn't care. She was clearly offended when you remarked, just take it light my friend. Maybe you did the right thing when you got off the next station and surely she must have felt something but she tried to conceal it. She simply didn't care about it. That was a bold statement you made to her, i don't know if i could have done that but i am sure i would not have been able to bear the stinky smell and i would have probably dropped with telling her anything. Anyways, you gave something to think about, at least.