A discussion about people growing old

@xannex (254)
Philippines
March 22, 2011 6:33am CST
Living with my parents for my 20 years of existence made me see the effects of 'growing old' to my father. As he grows old he tends to become more sensitive over things that happen in our family. He becomes hot tempered over little things and spoils a great moment in a really bad disappointing way. An example of what I'm trying to say: my mom was prepairing what she'll wear for tomorrow because she's gonna visit her sister together with my younger sister. She made her preparations the whole evening even packed things they'll be giving to her sister. As she is fixing her clothes all troughout the night, she made a commentary about the window that is still open until 10. Suddenly, my father stood up and closed the windows, turned off the tv even though my mom was still watching, then went out straight to bed without a single word. Ifelt sorry for my mom that time. The next day, he suddenly decided not to go and postpone their trip to my aunt. He really was pissed off over that window comment. I can do nothing for my mom. She's showing that it's okay when I know that it really hurts her after all the preparations she made. That's just one example of what I mean of 'becoming more sensitive' My elder sister even confirmed this. She said that people growing old really becomes more sensitive. From this acknowledgements, why is my father being like that? Why isn't my mother?
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11 responses
• United States
22 Mar 11
As people grow older they begin to get more agitated about even the small things in life. Sometimes routines get a bit tiring too. So perhaps he is bored, stressed and tired. Maybe he has a few issues and not making mention and does not know how to open up. Maybe talk to your mom to be sure that all is okay with your father.
@eileenleyva (27562)
• Philippines
1 Apr 11
Talk to your dad about it. He might be having some issues, not just about the window, but it might be that he did not want to go. As a child, it is your duty too, to be sensitive about your dad's feelings. Ask him. He might open up to you.
@aprilsong (1884)
• China
23 Mar 11
Hi,it is true that some elders become sensitive and short tempered. Some of them even act like a kid, easy to angry with small things. I can understand your feelings. You can try to talk with your father, to let him know that your mother is not easy and don't act that way any more. The most important is to console your mother with right words. To let her know some elders change their temper sometimes.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
22 Mar 11
This is really true. People get's matured when they grow older,and mellowed at the same time. But,when they reaches the senior age,they become so sensitive. I've observed this with mom too. So,we always try to adjust with things when she's around not to hurt her or make her upset. We think (me and my siblings) that ,people become sensitive as they gets older because they thought that we are treating them as old.
• Philippines
22 Mar 11
I think old people get grumpy because they fear they'll just end up in a retirement home or something. Also, feeling useless is a bad feeling so it could be one of their reasons.
@adnileb (5256)
• Philippines
22 Mar 11
I think men are more sensitive when it comes to emotions. When they're still young, fathers seem to be strong in all aspects as well as emotions. Maybe as they grow old, they change and women become stronger in handling situations that involves emotions. My father was sensitive too and my mom always understands. She always tell me, "that's the sign of aging, people get easily irritated".
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
22 Mar 11
I guess we all get into moods maybe it was simply he didn't really have a place in the excitement of the moment, he may have just felt out of it, in a lot of people it goes the other way as they get older, it is sad your mother had her day spoilt...Hopefully she will get to do it soon.
• Philippines
22 Mar 11
I think old people get grumpy because they fear they'll just end up in a retirement home or something. Also, feeling useless is a bad feeling so it could be one of their reasons.
• Philippines
22 Mar 11
I think old people get grumpy because they fear they'll just end up in a retirement home or something. Also, feeling useless is a bad feeling so it could be one of their reasons.
• Philippines
22 Mar 11
I think old people get grumpy because they fear they'll just end up in a retirement home or something. Also, feeling useless is a bad feeling so it could be one of their reasons.
@yopyyop (187)
• Romania
22 Mar 11
I think it has something to do with experience. Getting old means you have lived almost a life. Learned a lot and spend a lot of time thinking at what you have done or what you could do. This is why people are more sensitive when they get older and they fear all the time of something new or something that heart them in the past.