Feeling sad tonight
@lindaharding627 (1442)
United States
March 22, 2011 11:23pm CST
I am home now, but it has been a rough night. My eight year old son had a seizure earlier and smacked his head off the safety rail. There was blood all over his face and heads when I went to check on him and he was saying that his head hurt so we took him in to the emergency room. They just observed him for a little bit and gave him some pain medicines then sent us home with instructions for him to rest tomorrow. He started crying because he doesn't want to miss school but it is 11 pm here and he just now got to bed. I feel sad that my son has to go through things like this. I love him so much and it hurts when he is sick or hurt. To make things harder, his grandma makes comments like "Are you sure that is what happened?" last time he fell out of bed like she doubts us. She has never believed that he has epilepsy because it is not grand mal seizures that he has but a lot of them happen when he is sleeping. He had an EEG where he had two strong seizures while they were testing when he was younger. She constantly questions whether he needs to be on the meds he is on because "Doctors will prescribe medicines just for the extra money." Trust me, I would rather my son not have epilepsy but the fact is he does and she needs to wake up and face the music. We can't even tell her what really happened tonight because she won't believe us. I also can't let my other friends and family know because some of the people on facebook run to her and tell her what was posted.
10 responses
@marguicha (215886)
• Chile
23 Mar 11
Dear linda,
Epilepsy is no big deal now and there are many new meds that are helping. If his granma doesn´t face your son´s condition (mind you, it´s a condition, not an illness) she won´t be able to help at all so cut her from any decisions you take and never mind what she says. I think that if your friends and family have a reasonable approach to epilepsy, they should be informed even if it´s just so they can hug YOU. And if granma comes to say things, just cut her OUT!
Head aches after seizures. Probably his head ached because of the seizure and not because he smakcked his head. Make sure your son has enough and good sleep after them , for forget his meds and if he wants to go to school let him. You can always pick him up earlier or make other arrangements like that.
Don´t feel sad. Being "normal" is just a curve. Noone in the world is perfect
@GardenGerty (157674)
• United States
23 Mar 11
I am sorry you are sad. We really hurt for our kids at times. I guess it is good that you can come here and talk. I hope they eventually help him stop having the seizures that make him get hurt in his sleep. What on earth does that woman think is happening?
@lindaharding627 (1442)
• United States
23 Mar 11
I really don't think she is all there in the head sometimes. I too am glad that I can come to mylot and talk. It helps a lot.
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
23 Mar 11
Hello Linda, I am very sorry to hear that your son has had a seizure because he suffers from epilepsy. His grandpa needs to understand what is going on. My son has spina bifida and hydrocephalus. He goes to a playgroup for disabled children. A family's children used to go there and sometimes can be seen there in the holidays stay and play. All four of their children suffer from epilepsy. Luckily in my home country we have the National Health Scheme. So the doctors prove medication because it is necessary. Your son needs medication to help control his epilepsy and I am sure that is helping him. I am sorry that whilst he was the seizer he banged his head on a safety rail. Good luck to him. Today my disabled son was in hospital having both his legs put in plaster.
@dreamsharmin (2281)
• China
23 Mar 11
I am sorry to hear your story. Don't feel sad my dear friend.try to concentrate your mind to some other things in your life that will help you to don't be sad. because if you become sad then you can't handle your son he will feel more sad. So my suggestion to don't be sad and put concentration in some other things in your life.
Have a good time!
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
25 Mar 11
I am sorry to hear that your son fell and hurt his head and I am also sorry that his grandma does not understand that he is not well and instead nit picks like she does. I am glad you can at least express your feelings here.
I do hope you son can have his seizures controlled. I wish you well linda and sad to read how sad all of this makes you feel. It is way too stressful to deal with the fact of being scared your son was hurt and to top his grandma behaving they way she does.
@jeffreyallen (298)
• United States
23 Mar 11
I`m sorry about your son. And it sucks that he wont able to go to school tomorrow, but if the doctor said for him to rest, I think that`s the best thing to do. Missing a day of school shouldnt be an issue. Especially if you tell them what happened and let them know that he has epilepsy. The grandmother doesnt have to believe you. He`s your son. Let her wake up on her own. If she wont believe you, what can you do? Hope everything works well. Godbless.
@dheng30 (88)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
I'm so sorry for what happened and believe me i know how u feel... I'm also a mom of 2 girls, it is so hard if something was not right...if they get sick or wounded. I wanted to cry if i see them like that but i have to be strong.
Its was so hard also when we have to hide something to protect someone we love...or that someone doesn't want to listen and wants to believe what they wanted to...
Just hold on...everything will be alright, in HIS time...talk to HIM and he'll give you the answer...
