How do you tell him- her that you don't love him-her anymore

Hello dear friend, You are so right, the situation gets so bad ! That is what my girlfriend kept away from me. She didn't want to hurt me by not telling me ? It would have been better if she had told me she doesn't love me anymore. I loved her so much. One day she suddenly said she can't live with me. She probably felt guilty that i loved her so much and she wasn't able to tell me her feelings for me. It's so sad.. Even after we broke up, we met one last time and i said i still love her...... .. I don't expect her to come back to me, and she had better never show up. I am so weak for her. I just can't stand her anymore, how am i supposed to know if she really wants me after all this happened ? I am going to make it hard for her to convince me if she is going to come back to me. But i am going to keep my heart open for no one else this matter is completely settled.. It might take months but i am going to see if she is going to say anything after the next year when i finally pass out from my college. I hope she misses me. I am doing everything to keep my mind off of her. You are right starsailover, if you fear you are beginning to lose your feelings for your girlfriend then you better admit.. It is definitely going to make things worse later, like in my case. Felt like i was hit with a flash flood.

I'm so in love with my guy , I can;t imagine a time when I wuld have to say this but ... this is how I woud do it. I would sit him down, hold his hand , look him straight in the eye and say, I don't love you anymore. We should part. Any other way isn't going to work. But then again we have Always been honest about things. We were friends Way before lovers. I assume with other couples it would have to be subtle or they woud make sur to get caught in an affair or something like it. It is sad. A reason they don't love anymore is the connection is lost . And because the coonection is lost, they can't just Say it straight out.

by being very honest. staying in a loveless relationship is a soul killer. it's a spirit killer! if your feelings have changed for your spouse or partner you need to be honest with them and let them know.

Pain has always been part of any relationship. I guess if you've come to a point wherein you felt that you don't love him/her anymore, just tell the person the truth. I know it's easier said than done but prolonging a relationship that doesn't work anymore is worst than anything. You just have to say it in a nice way and if you're breaking with that person, I guess the best option is be ready for the consequences. You might miss him/her in the first few months but you will surely overcome it. =)

The truth is everything. This is why i strongly discourage young marriages or couples getting married only after a few month to a few years of dating. Its always better to get to know youself and your spouse better before rushing into a marriage. Because i don't believe divorce is an option. Not for me and my family at least. For couple just dating and those who are not married, i would tell them the truth is everything, and its better to end a loveless relationship before its too late. Plain and simple, might be harsh but a little pain for a short period of time, is better than a life time of pain, heartache and being loveless.

I think the best way is to just come out and say it. Do not beat around the bush and whatever you do, do not lie, always tell the truth. It will be a painful experience for both but we as humans do get over things. Time is a great healer of pain and heartache. Hey these things happen, there is nothing we can do about it sometimes. After all we are only humans. Do not be cruel doing it, be nice and stay calm but be to the point and do not make it sound like a joke. Things will be alright.

I say just tell them what you feel and dont make anymore other unnecessary statements. Start by saying you need to reak up and re assess how you feel about each other at this point because you are feeling less loving of him or her already.

Hi starsailover, i have seen a movie few days back , in it the only way of telling a lover that you don't love him/her is telling them truth by frankly saying that you don't love them anymore, then finally they'l leave you one day, if not if its a girl then stop buying her gifts and stop telling 'i luv u' or praising her then its enough, if its a guy then stop talking to him and stop telling' i luv u'

Why do I have this feeling that I am actually in the same situation. It's very hard telling someone that you don't loved that person anymore. That the feeling is totally gone and what remains is just pity or friendship kind of feelings that sometimes not pleasant at all. And the worst thing is when you happened to fall in loved with somebody else. The reason that I could not tell it to my boyfriend is because he is very good and kind to me. There is really nothing wrong with him...it is just that my feelings and affection for him start to fade away, not really my intention. It just happened that way. I felt confused.

I don't think there is a good, clean way of telling the person you have been for the longest time that you don't love them anymore. I honestly thought of it and I literally do not know how to but I think when the time comes when you are in that moment of saying how you feel, I think that is when you would tell the person of how you feel such as you don't love them anymore. For me, I don't think there is that point that you do not love the person anymore. I think other reasons are to be considered when somebody say quits on you but nowadays I rarely hear that. But it is a mind boggling question that I have yet to figure out the answer to.

For me if you are frank then you said to her if not they are shown in you ways and the care you done.

You know I never told this, I say it's not working and tell problems that if he fixes is good for him, like for example because of this guy never stand up for his mother and I had to do it and became preatty messed up for me, so I know his next girlfriends will suffer so I said the main reason is that, I can't stand he didn't defend me, he has to stand up and no girl will accept that, that way he is already feeling rejected enough right? I don't wanna put no one in a hole so I say this is the main reason and in a way it's true, that's when I really begin to not stand him anymore, I wasn't in love for that, I was even sick for he don't having the guts you know, so I said this as my excuse. And it is great for him cause I know he wake up and now his mother respects him more, he has a nice good person girlfriend that adores him in a way I could never do and I never traumatized him, he never knew I reallllly didn't love him anymore. I was like 0% attracted to him, I saw him like a girl in the end of the relationship, I could never show that, what is horrible to me it's appealing to many other girls, and the right one for him.

hey,there.this is indeed tough job for all .if i were that person,i would tell him/her directly.becasue this is the best way to solve.if there has no any relationship between you and him/her.i think,you will be weird when you are still living with some you dislike.let us come to the point,and say:'i wish we could be the friends.not for couple.becasue this is not what i wanted...dont beat around the bush... i wish it would be helpful for you.good luck jack....

Just tell him/her that you don't him/her love anymore, it better this way straight and forward, or if your moron just go pretending and lead him/her to kill him/her self on the process

I prefer to people hurt little bit for short period than hurting them too much in long run.

hello Alvaro, This is not easy ,how to tell that word,to someone whom we have loved for many years. But,if it happens,better tell the truth than hurting that someone with lies. Sooner or later he/she will noticed the changes,which could not be hide. Better say the word than keep pretending. It will be a painful situation for the one we hurt,but then again,i would rather hurt him with the truth than with lies. Living together without love is like living in a world without air to breath

It is always best to discuss our feelings with a partner and not let them hang on with false hope. Certainly not an easy task but much more easier to get over if the person were honest. It is bad enough to deal with the break-up but to not be told with sincerity makes it much more harder to deal with.

It is a difficult one, but it is something that you need to do , and do it for goodness sakes. Other wise it will bother you for so long that will be a nerve killer.

Simple. Tell them. Straight up. Yes, it`ll hurt them. Yes, they`ll cry or get angry. It`s better than pretending to love them just for their sake. It`ll hurt more if you were pretending and not being truthful. This type of things, you have to tell them straight up, no beating around the bush. Do it. No excuses.

honestly to say.since you don't love hime / her anymore, stalemate .it will be under your impression!let other people have the chance to love him or her.if you insist on denying say something ,in the future,from long time you can't have a good life becaue under the band impression.so just open your month honestly.that will be better