My best friend stopped talking to me.
By violann
@violann (436)
United States
March 24, 2011 4:35pm CST
My best friend (or at least I thought she was) no longer talks to me. Why??? I don't know. I've called and texted her a few times with no responce. I guress in her opinion I am now one of those people to be avoided. The homeless, beggers, vagabonds, etc.
Here's the short version of the story: I've been out of work for quite sometime, no longer able to pay bills or rent so I was evicted, became one of the homeless (sort of). Fortunatelly for me I have family nearby and they took me in, so I didn't end up in a shelter or on the streets. (She knows that I'm staying with family, and doesn't have to worry about me imposing on her)
I guess in her mind I am to be avoided like the plague. I am not back to work (only 2 wks. but working, Yeah), still living with my sister till I can get back on my feet and caught up on a few things.
Mayber if I told my friend (?) that I'm back to work she might start talking to me again. Well if she can't talk to me during my tuff times, then she doesn't need to talk to me at all.
That really hurt, there were times when I really could've used a friend to talk to. Well that's another story sometime.
Would you stop talking to your best friend just because they lost their home or apartment? Not a good ideal, sometimes they just need an ear to listen, not a handout from you.
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9 responses
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
24 Mar 11
Hi and a warm welcome to you to myLot.
What is this the plague, lol.. I say this because I had the same similar situation. I lost my job for sometime now and it seems that I am not worthy to be friended by what I though were good friends. It appears that since I no longer have the wonderful job I use to I am no longer worthy of even be checked on to say hello or how are you.
It is a tough situation and one I would not wish on my own enemies. Someone told me yesterday, never let them know how well you are doing in the future. Which got me to think it is time we stop using the term friend too loosely and concentrate more on sincere people.
I would not recommend you call your friend, your friend knows what a hard time you have had and it is totally unfair to be forgotten. I think it is time to make new friends and for a while maybe not get too close. Best of luck to you and I wish you a blessed future and happy life.
@GardenGerty (157551)
• United States
25 Mar 11
You will find that MyLot is a great place to make some online friends. I hope you decide to stay around. I really value my connections here.
@GardenGerty (157551)
• United States
24 Mar 11
If that indeed is why she does not speak to you she had better be careful. The economy is so bad that one person after another is going down the tubes. I am out of work for quite a while, but we have some ways we are making ends meet.
@violann (436)
• United States
24 Mar 11
I've been wracking my brain trying to figure out if I've said anything to upset her, haven't come up with anything, besides if I had of she would have told me, she's done so in the past. Oh well, guess it's time to meet new friends. Enjoy the day what ever day it is. :)
@purplehaze (661)
• Philippines
26 Mar 11
if that is really the reason why your best friend stopped talking to you and avoiding you, then i guess she's not really a true friend to you after all. a true friend would have done the other way around and should have supported you during the time when you were experiencing a difficult time of your life. you are right that she doesnt need to provide you financial assistance or should have taken you in her house, but the least she could do as a friend was to show her support and care for you. she could have helped you find a job or motivate you.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
13 Apr 11
A real friend would be there when you need them. I don't mean she Should have taken you in if she couldn't . I mean she Should have been there to talk to. What happened to you could happen to anyone these days! being down on your luck Does not make you a second classed citizen! You are the same person inside. If she were a true friend she would have seen this. So She Wasn't a true best friend and now that you are getting on your feet, do you really need her in your life at all?
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
25 Mar 11
Maybe you're just thinking about this way too much. Well, there are those that chooses their friends. It's not necessarily bad if you choose your friends. It only gets bad when you abandon a friend in need. You can't really blame her, though. If she bails out knowing you're broke then she's not worth hanging out with anyway, right?
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
25 Mar 11
Maybe you're just thinking about this way too much. Well, there are those that chooses their friends. It's not necessarily bad if you choose your friends. It only gets bad when you abandon a friend in need. You can't really blame her, though. If she bails out knowing you're broke then she's not worth hanging out with anyway, right?
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
25 Mar 11
You have rightly psyched her up. She has avoided you because she didn't want you to bother her when you were out of work. Ergo, she can never be a friend to anybody. I am glad to hear that you now have work. That's good. Try to elevate yourself and show her that you are not who she thinks you are.
@sweetthing38 (9)
•
25 Mar 11
I am a firm believer that a true friend will be there through the thick and the thin. A true friend sticks closer than a sister or brother. He or she will be there during the good times, and especially when times get bad!!!! I hope things get better for you. Be thankful that you have your sister.
