I am Late...

@thesids (22358)
Bhubaneswar, India
March 28, 2011 4:35am CST
Hi friends Many a times, we are all set to move out and reach our destination on time... but someone plans otherwise... be it the water supply (in this case) or even the traffic jam or any other thing... but we all face it at sometime or the other. How do you react to when you are late? For me, I always get delayed due to something or the other and I believe I am worst when it comes to being 100% punctual. A delay of at least 15-minutes or more is sure and certain... no matter how early I start
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
28 Mar 11
hello sids, I hate to be late and i hate more people who are late I hope you won't be late to welcome me in your place once i visit you there ,or else you won't get the chance to see you didi (hahaha) See...i am out for 3 days,but i am never late to respond your topic
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@Sreekala (23718)
• India
28 Mar 11
Glad to see you back dear sister
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
28 Mar 11
you should and you must uhmn...will let you know when i am there
@Sreekala (23718)
• India
28 Mar 11
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@Sreekala (23718)
• India
28 Mar 11
Hello Sidhu, I feel really bad if I get late. If I am late then I may ask an apology first and explain the reason for being late. But these days I rarely become late. If we are going anywhere along with family then my hubby set a time which is prior to the actual time for getting ready. He knows that kids may play and I need time to fight with them. So keeping this in mind he tells everyone in advance, at what time we supposed to leave. By listening this I may smile in my mind ask him (that also in mind), you better be ready in time, we can manage ourselves before your fixed time. He needs more time to get ready than us.. if he helps me to make kids ready then I know he will be late….
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• India
28 Mar 11
Everyone in our family tries to be advanced, to be on safe side. My father more so... And as a result when ALL of us are going somewhere, we'll reach the place up to half an hour in advance! Waiting long for our train at midnight is not that much fun though...
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• United States
28 Mar 11
Hi! Sreekala and hora Same here most people I know do the same we always arrive at least 1/2 hour to all destinations. It must be a hereditary thing. lol.. We have a joke in our culture and we always say to one another don't forget that when we say 8am we do not mean our Hispanic timing but more like American time clock. It is a traditional joke we all say because in our culture many are accustomed to arrive at least an hour late if not more to parties. LOL.. So we always also joke and say when the party is at 3pm we will tell them it starts at 2pm, too funny this joke of ours amongst ourselves never gets old.
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
28 Mar 11
hello dear sis i just waited for your personal response to sids hehehe
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@zralte (4186)
• India
28 Mar 11
Hi thesids, I hope you tell whoever it is you are meeting about your delay. I hate when I am late, and I hate people who keep me waiting without informing me of the delay. I am getting much better tolerances - living in India, I have to be. Otherwise it is just full of disappointment about others being late. When I am going to be late, I make a point of calling the other person, letting him/her know how late I'm going to be and would they rather reschedule, etc. etc.
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@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
28 Mar 11
Hi zralte Of course, I would keep bothering or disturbing the people who are waiting about my delays. There is no reason for me not to do this because I know how bad and ugly it looks... someone waitng for you and just being unaware when you are going to reach or even you are reaching or not. Most of these people who I can keep waiting know about my illness, and so they kind of understand even if I do not call them... but on most cases, I consider 1. reaching late as bad manners and as I cannot help this, I always remember calling up and letting them know about my current location and status.
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@zralte (4186)
• India
28 Mar 11
At least I am now warned of your tardiness. I would schedule my time accordingly then, if I am to meet you. My roommate in college used to take a long time getting ready and she always made us late. I devised a plan in which I tell her 30 mins earlier than the actual time we need to get out. As in if we need to go out by 4:30, I'd tell her that we need to get out by 4:00...it worked until she finds out that none of us started to get ready for 4:00, therefore she didn't see the reason she needs to start getting ready. We even went as far as to turn her watch early, worked for one day. She found out by looking at other's watch.
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@yspmyl (3438)
• Malaysia
28 Mar 11
Hi thesids, I think being late is somehow a habit. I used to be late for almost all the function. But after I have make up my mind to change it so that I can be punctual . What I did was I adjusted my clock earlier by 15 minutes so that I will prepare myself earlier and that really help to stop me from being late. You can always set your time much earlier according to how many time you will need before you are late. This can really be done if you wanted it to happen.
@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
28 Mar 11
Hi yspmyl I did try that once... But as I was aware that it is 15 minutes before time... it made me more lazy But yes, I have seen many people do this and the trick works okay for them
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@yspmyl (3438)
• Malaysia
28 Mar 11
That's why I said that being late is just a habit, if you really want to do it, and you really work on that, you will be able to do it. In your case, I think it is best if your wife can help to adjust the clock for you without let you know how early she adjusted the time, I think you will be ready and will not be late anymore, just because you do not know the real time and psychologically you will be panic and prepare yourself earlier because you though that you are late.
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• Philippines
28 Mar 11
We're the same when it comes to that. I was also late most of the time in my classes. I mean, at first yeah, I can get at least 3 to 4 consecutive meetings being on time or earlier but as time goes by I come later and later. I think it also depends on your interest on what you're attending. If you're interested there might be a possibility you can perfect your attendance without any lates but if it's boring to you I won't expect you to be on time all the time. It's just me, though.
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@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
28 Mar 11
Hi frontvisions That is so very true, I can relate to what you mention - it also depends on your interest on what you're attending - I find that people started taking things for granted in due course of time and I have even heard people say - so what is going to happen if I am 10 minutes late. In my case, I attribute to my delays mostly to my illhealth and also the traffic jams - we are having some construction work going on or some other beautification of roads thing always since the past 4-5 years and that results in traffic jams somewhere or the other... 90% of the time. So you either start off quite early or wait and fix appointments during the mid day when the traffic on the roads is lesser.
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@SIMPLYD (83124)
• Philippines
28 Mar 11
I hate being late specially at the office. I am used to waking up early in the morning so i could prepare well for the office. I budget my time, giving them an allotted time only. I would always look at the clock if i am on time on each activity, until i would finally leave for the office. That way, i don't get late except when an inevitable accident will happen along the way.
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@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
28 Mar 11
Hi SimplyD That sounds like a good time manager. I can learn this one from you surely
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@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
28 Mar 11
Hi sweetie. I'm extremely set on punctuality. I hate being late for anything, no matter what goes wrong. And i hate it when i have to wait for others as well. Just one of my little mishaps in life.
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@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
28 Mar 11
Hi saphrina I understand the punctuality thing and am missing it these days. I am unhappy somewhere within that I am unable to stick to the timelines I decide for me and also for others... it is quite an unpleasant situation... Anyways, I think I will fight out and find a way that would help me get back to the right track again. But yes, there are a few people still around that I would never want to be delayed with... Any suggestions to get things back?
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
28 Mar 11
A very long holiday might help.
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@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
28 Mar 11
Oh that should be around soon... I am planning to visit my doctor and gift him some money for my checkups(poor him)... though only for a few days (5-7 I believe) but that should be help
@topffer (36099)
• Svalbard And Jan Mayen
28 Mar 11
I manage to be in the station before the train. For other things it is a matter of culture : to be 15 mn late in this area is something normal, and you will never see a meeting beginning without at least this delay ; it would even be impolite to be early for a party. In the Eastern part of the country a meeting begins always at the said hour, and one minute is one minute. So you are already adapted if you want to live in this part of France.
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• United States
28 Mar 11
Hi topffer That to me sounds like the celebrities that say they are fashionably late sort of like making a grand entrance.
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@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
28 Mar 11
hi topffer At last I found a place that would welcome me and I would feel at home But that is not what I think I want... I am getting sick of being almost branded as a late comer these days. Yes, there is something about the culture too as I can feel... our government, our society (at Orissa) all seems to be moving at snails' pace... we all are feeling lazy and that is I think taking over me too... when I find many dont turn up on time, eventually I think I too started getting into this
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@topffer (36099)
• Svalbard And Jan Mayen
28 Mar 11
Celebrities are always at least one hour late here. As I hate to wait, I generally eat the petit four before their speech : do not say anything, I know that my stomach is not polite.
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@shibham (17025)
• India
29 Mar 11
Hi mamu... I am almost advance and in 90% cases i get my destination on proper time. hahaha. The better way not to be delayed again is set your watches and clocks 15 minutes advance. Is not it a nice idea???
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@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
29 Mar 11
Hmmm so mamu is online... doesnt call me or doesnt chat with me... Sister around so mamu is busy and occupied and forgets me... okok. Enjoy your time with dear sister... I will have my share later. Now, the response. I did set the clock 15 minutes faster. And guess what I arrived more late because I thought there are 15 more minutes and I have the time...lol But yes, the idea seems to be right and I will ask someone to change the time of all the clocks and forward them to some time unknown to me... Only issue - what if they set is slow
@shibham (17025)
• India
29 Mar 11
No mamu, i have some other issues and thats why i was busy. Some big issues. Okay, i need to set the time faster on GMT.....
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@thanks1961 (7046)
• India
28 Mar 11
In most times, if it is not so critical or extreme urgent, we won't pay much attention to such situations. I think it is our mind set which make us to do so. In fact I was about to start a similar discussion today, and good you start with. In most cases, we may have the pure intention to reach in time or have pre plans to reach in time whatever we meant for. But as you said, the traffic jams, incidental other issues are few obstacles to reach late to our destinations. Mostly, people those who are particular in time limits, they will start things early and with a foresight on the incidents they cover up the timing by experienced calculations and would try to reach in time. One of my friend who are so particular in such things. If he need to take a flight of 4:00 pm, normally if we leave by 1:00 from home is good enough to reach the airport and easily reach in time. But he would leave home atleast by 11:30 or 12, so as to in any circumstances, he should not miss the flight. People are having such mentality can be more close to the point and in our country, it is a mandatory fact that we should move early to reach in our places in time or to get done things without delay. Thank-s
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@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
29 Mar 11
Hi Thanks I was about to start a similar discussion today - telepathy dear I think I did not steal your idea Yes dear, I believe it is a kind of mentaility that many people of our country have. But yes, we should be careful and always try to reach on time when it comes to the travel by flights or trains... otherwise it is a loos of not only money but also many things.
• India
30 Mar 11
Hi Sid, Some times it happens - in fact I was think the discussion in such a way that - our time constrains. Mostly we used to get exact timings with regard to marriage, inauguration, office timing, train timings etc. Eg. I make a commitment to one of my friend that I will meet him for some work at 6:00 in the evening, and I will come 6:45 some times without even having a mention. That is what I want to know how strict on timing for all, and how much importance we give for it. Some time we may purposely get delayed for some function even if we know the exact time. Basically, reach late and we won't feel any bad on that. Mostly I will do it, Sunday also I had some function which was scheduled at 6:00 in the evening and I reached there by 6:50. If I planned, I could have reach there by 6 and I didn't much importance from my side. This is a trend and we won't keep the importance of the timings and I was thinking what people want to tell about it. However, some time we may be late, or the other party may be late, but I found only few people give preference to it, even if the function get delayed or not. My wife is so particular in this case, and she want to be there within the mentioned time and we always have some talk on this issue. In most times, she make me angry by saying this and would tell me that being punctual with the timing shows how discipline we are in life and don't look at other how they are. It is true and it seems she is somewhat right. How is everything from your side [it is out of myLot and hope you are alright and your health and all are in good condition]. Regards, Thank-s
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@hora_fugit (5435)
• India
28 Mar 11
I hate to be late. That's why I always try to be early. Most of the times I succeed, sometimes I fail. In later case, I make an innocent face most possible at the time and say sorry to whomever it concerns... Does it work? The exception is some cases where I get late because of my laziness, like when I have to go meet my sister(s). I just take extra sleep and always end up late. They are furious, and what can I do besides trying to make up for my goofs.
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• India
28 Mar 11
Stupid net! Made me loose my chance, by far distance....
@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
28 Mar 11
Hi Hora_fugit Innocent face I would love to learn making that kind of a face... maybe my innocence is too shy or I am a born non-actor - the right expression rarely comes to my face Great to know a secret - you are late though on some occasions and with select people. This is true, meet with relatives or close freinds, well they all have a charm when waiting anxiously - though they at times may be furious when we arrive late
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• China
29 Mar 11
I don't blow my own trumpet,I am hardly late.Not that I have the knack of it but that I do my best to start early.Just as the proverb says ,clumsy birds have to start flying early.On the other hand,I am a quick-tempered one ,that I am not late perhaps has much to do with it.
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@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
30 Mar 11
Hi changjiangzhibin clumsy birds have to start flying early That is quite appropriate and I should learn from this one for sure.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
29 Mar 11
I am always punctual. i even arrive an hour early during office hours, office hours is at 9 in the morning and i am here at 7:30..so that is even more than an hour early lol and i also dont like people who are late. I value time and the productivity i could get in those times. when i know i am being late i get jittery and uncomfortable that i think i will cry if you think you iwll be late wake up earlier..
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@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
30 Mar 11
Hi jazel_juan Whoa So Early I hope that someday soon, I can get back reaching on time... But hey what do you do so early? I mean, does you office hours start early and end early too? I tried this once when I was in a different city (in 1999-2000) but the bosses and seniors said that I was not allowed so early... Hence I asked True that those who value time, ensure that they reach at least on time (if not always before or much before time)
• Philippines
29 Mar 11
hello thedis, I am not that punctual person also but i am bit shy every time i am late even how much i get up early or will go there ahead of time sometimes i am late but not by hour only by minutes and i am worth waiting for . In some instances we cannot avoid to be late an excuse from a late comer . happy mylotting
@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
30 Mar 11
Hi bhaby A dear person is always worth waiting for But yes, the timing and not reaching on time at the place or appointment is quite an indication that we are unorganized... kind of reflects bad shade of us to many I am facing this problem of late and maybe it has something to do with me staying mostly at home btw, you got a new avatar and it is a pretty one
@Kalyni2011 (3503)
• India
28 Mar 11
Hello sids Living with Professor since 1968, has made me very punctual in all respects, our kids have acquired this quality too. He travels frequently and most of the time i am with him Suppose we have to move by train and schduled departure of train is 9.00 AM, we are in the platform by 8.45 AM Believe me we never missed any train or flight due to late arrival. Thanks for this post. Happy posting Kalyani
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@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
29 Mar 11
Dear Kalyani mam Yes, I can understand what it takes when you are a part of a family of a Teacher. The punctuality, a sense of discipline all I think automatically gets induced and the entire family benefits. I can say this because I too worked as a Teacher for most part of my career and always realized the importance of time. Regards theSids.
• India
28 Mar 11
Hi sids I always try to reach places in time, you know my profession well, suppose i have a class at 9.45am, i am at the door of the class room at 9.40am I tell you , i was in a college in 1988, i had to pass through a level crossing gate, this gate remains closed for maximum time, so for 8.15am class i used to leave home at 7am, if the gate remained closed say till 8am, i had to pass by raising the gate with others to reach college in time. For maximum part of my service I was the H.O.D., if H.O.D. is late, how can he ask others to be punctual? Thanks for this nice discussion however Cheers. God bless you, have a nice day ahead. Professor ‘Bhuwan’. .
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@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
29 Mar 11
Dear Sir When I was working away from home (I mean at local computer Institutes as a Teacher) I was quite a punctual person and believed that time must be respected and Time always has a value. Today, I think, my being confined to the house has made me go back and it seems that I have forgotton or even started neglecting the importance of time... I think I need to work out on some solution to this for sure. Regards, theSids.
• Philippines
28 Mar 11
Hello Thesids, I haven't told every one here though but one thing i hate really is being late in mylotting. Though, it is understandable because i got off line things to do. but that's exactly what i hate, being so much active out side and have limited time to mylot, I've always been SAD all day doing other things and depressed more being mylot when I am really really tired. it's a bit beneficial if a take a nap for an hour or two but that's it, after a few hours, i could get to sleepy mode. I hate being late, that's one thing for sure.
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@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
29 Mar 11
Hi LetranKnight Can I be honest here - I kind of knew this - going by your discussions of late where you keep informingus about your daily chores at hand and the reasons why you are not able to respond to all the responses.
@toniganzon (53346)
• Philippines
28 Mar 11
When I was working before, I never had issues with being late. I always went to work early, at least 30 minutes before. I woke up early to avoid traffic jam. I am the kind of person who really hates being late especially on the job because i want to make a good impression. However, when i'm just meeting friends, i tend to be late because i know they would be too and i don't want to be the one waiting for them. Good thing that punctuality is never an issue among friends. But that is only when we go out to have a party. But when the meeting is for business purposes or a more urgent one, i'm never late.
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@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
29 Mar 11
Hi toni That was me a few years back. When I was working at office(s) I always used to arrive on time and I think this was like normal for me. Even with friends, there were a few who lost my friendship because they were mostly late and I believed if you dont respect time, be punctual, you are not going to be better or even eligible for trying to succeed. Today, the scenario is a bit different and I find myself late on most of occasions.
@SimpleBB (1332)
• Philippines
28 Mar 11
Hello Sids. In my case, I really don't want to be late, but you're right, being late is sometimes inevitable, but I think there are always solution to it. I usually hate to prolong the wait, that's my ultimate reason to avoid being late. And having this in mind,I can always find ways to be punctual. Although, if it's really Someone's will, and yes, such incidents usually saves us from something that could have been harm us, and that's how being late benefits us. Just hopeful, that being late would not be a habit and oftenly of disadvantage on our part. Happy mylotting.
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@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
29 Mar 11
Hi SimpleBB That is the point dear. When people do not like something happening/beingdone to them, they should take care to ensure that they do not end up doing the same to others. I think I need to re-evaluwate and work out some method that suits me and avoids me getting late
@megamatt (14327)
• United States
28 Mar 11
That is really a problem I think. Sadly, there are many times where I have arrived late to somewhere that I am going and I really feel bad. Due to the fact that I really do know deep down, that it is extremely poor planning on my part. I can just imagine what these people are thinking. Most likely the same thing that I would be thinking if the situation was reversed. They wanted to get on with their day, to get to business and the fact I am late throws everything off. I plan to give myself a rather sizeable cushion of time these days and while that can help a lot of the time, that is not always the case. The big problem is that we can have this grand plan, where we are going to arrive on time to our destination but unfortunately, just because something is planned, it does not mean that it is going to go as planned. That is why I hope for the best, but really try and plan for the worst. The worst possible delays happen at the worst possible times.
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@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
28 Mar 11
Hi megamatt Yes, it is a grave problem though I wanted to keep it on the lighter side but I cannotrun away from the facts. I relate much to your response here when you say - it reflects the poor planning and many people take it otherwise.