DEALING with negativity - H O W..??

@busybee10 (3191)
India
March 30, 2011 6:21am CST
Most of our energy is taken up by negaticity - which I am facing by all the happennings in the vicinity. To deal with people has become very dificult as many are acting in a negative way. Share your comments please....
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14 responses
• United States
30 Mar 11
Thinking negatively can be a person's worst enemy! We must try as hard as we can to overcome and not allow anyone bring down our way of thinking. It is not an easy task by no means but when people feel this way they must find within themselves to get out of the momentum of the negative moments. I would suggests to perhaps surround yourself specifically with positive type people for a while and distance yourself from any negative type people. By not doing so it will deteriorate your health which in the end you will be on the loosing end and the negative people will still be who they are. One thing I live by in life busybee is that I will never no matter what allow anyone to change my character. So by buying to negative behavior to a sense it will change your character because rage and out bursts will occur causing you to perhaps be someone you are not. I wish you well and hope that you can somehow try as hard as you can try and think of more positive ways to make a few changes in your life.
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@vandana7 (65091)
• India
30 Mar 11
Sweetie when the person who brings in the negativity into your life is a loved one.. do you distance yourself from loved one as well?
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@vandana7 (65091)
• India
30 Mar 11
What if it is not possible?
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• United States
30 Mar 11
I don't want to call it lucky for me but I really do not have any family. Just my two kids and boyfriend, so for me no family worries. Now if it were different and I had family who was bringing me negativity, I wouldn't exactly say completed distance, but not as much togetherness as expected. If I have to have interaction I would avoid as much as I could and only really answer to what was necessary. Oh I don't know vandy, I have become numb in my life. No hate, no cares simply nice. lol
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
31 Mar 11
Hi busybee10 , I love your avatar .. true there are many negativity around the world , but those who plummet into so and do not want to be helped , there's nothing much which can be done. I believe when someone is filled with positivity it can mean two things. Positive with a bright mindset and facing life with good strides or being positive but stepping on others. The latter part should be avoided at all times , I myself don't want to become like that. Good topic.
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• United States
31 Mar 11
I have to admit that I am quite the positive person, not a perfect one but always looking for the positive sides. I will always try to turn any negative aspect into a positive one. Too much negativity will certainly turn into depression, and I don't like that feeling at all.
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@vandana7 (65091)
• India
31 Mar 11
Zed sweetie... circumstances differ.. unless we are in it, we cant really say it is possible to surface. I try and try, and something in me just gives in periodically. I cant understand my own swinging self..wonder if I am a split personality. All I can say is, it is tougher than it sounds and it is necessary to accept that sometimes we will fail, and we will fail many times, and we will fail badly. That shouldn't stop us from trying to get up again and try to come out of it all. Who knows, the world might forgive us once they understand our perspective..
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@busybee10 (3191)
• India
1 Apr 11
Thanks you for your good compliments dear zed_k4,for my avatar.I really appreciate your transparent thoughts. I am trying to keep myself positive in many aspects ,still on the path.
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@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
31 Mar 11
Just be positive and smile. And you can scream later when you are alone and say aarrrrgggghhh to release your disappointment. Then you can go back in a positive way and smile.
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@vandana7 (65091)
• India
31 Mar 11
Now this is the best, and honest way if I may say so...
@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
1 Apr 11
Thanks Vandy, but it's not easy. Lots of practice will do it.
@busybee10 (3191)
• India
1 Apr 11
hi jennyze,this is real positiveness. But it needs a strong will and determination to be so sporty. Glad you have this attitude.....
@vandana7 (65091)
• India
31 Mar 11
Nice topic..:) Holy books and holy men say walk away. It is easier said than done, especially when family is involved, and so are obligations and responsibilities. Of course, walking away is the most desirable version..but when it is not possible... I am not here to advise. I have failed many times to surface from the negativity. I keep trying, and trying, and trying. I see no way out of this dungeon. I try to keep my mind away from it all finding alternate ways to be happy so that this dungeon is not being explored. But every now and then, I am dragged by the loved ones into this dungeon to explore, and I do then react from deep seated fears. Hope somebody will come up with solutions.
@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
1 Apr 11
Ah Vandy, we are all human. As long as you tried, does not matter the result, it's okay. Me, too.
@busybee10 (3191)
• India
1 Apr 11
Hi vandana7... thanks for your compliments. If the world followed the golden words of the Holy Men - this topic would have not arised as every one would have a positive set of mind. But that is not the case...non of them do not want to retify themselves or get changed. And this will not happen at all becuse every one have seasoned themselves.If one wishes he can get changed.... [b] The only thing which can take place to change -is having a association with positive attitude people.[/b]
@ajk111 (2527)
30 Mar 11
busybee10, always believe in yourself and walk away from negativity. if it is part of a conversation then steer it round to a positive direction. every cloud has a silver lining is a very true saying but also for some 'every silver lining has a cloud' and it is these people you need to be more positive with. Negative people are not negative because they are bad but more likely they are sad.
@vandana7 (65091)
• India
30 Mar 11
Ajk.. I have a few negative folks in my life... and by negative I mean bad and not sad... I want to get away from them for good, but people around me especially loved ones and good friends wont let me.. because they believe it is "nice" to be forgiving, and "forgeting". I think some crimes can be forgiven. Murder is not one of them. So.. I want to walk away, but I am trapped. This makes me also sad, and angry, and negative. Tell me another way.
@busybee10 (3191)
• India
1 Apr 11
HI ajk111, good and helpful suggestions. Yes,there is a catagory of negaive people every where and I feel discomfort to move on with these stuff.
@kheydia (883)
• Philippines
31 Mar 11
Being nega makes me weak, and makes me miserable, there are a lot of reason why i would ne negative, but why would i deal with such feeling it would only make me feel loser and feel miserable,the antidote is just being positive!
@busybee10 (3191)
• India
1 Apr 11
OK - this has to be changed slowly and it is not a difficult one. For,if you strive to rectify yourself surely you cn do that. Many have achieved and you too can - provided it is followed sincerely.
@Metatronik (5911)
• Pasay, Philippines
31 Mar 11
This is actually my problem right now I think the solution here is I really have to hurry in applying for my job so that I won't be alone inside my bedroom. Right now I am lazy in doing my graphic stuff but then I am also doing some exercises to help me get rid of my negativities that are toxin to my mind and body.
@busybee10 (3191)
• India
1 Apr 11
Once we take up something we have to be at the back of that. And should keenly observe its development - going through which we have to see success of that.Apply the formula DIN - Do It Now as told by a great Master.....in almost all walks of life.
@nj_1022 (251)
31 Mar 11
First you have to accept yourself and you should encourage a positive mind. You should look in every situation positively. YOu should not get affected by people around you who display their negativity.
@busybee10 (3191)
• India
1 Apr 11
OK - what you say about positive out look is fine,nut some people are so rude in their approach that they create such an atmosphere wherein we get disturbed with their negative attitude.
• India
31 Mar 11
Most of the person doesn't get success due to their attitude towards goal which he try achieve. And a major part is in that is self confidence. If you have to grow just positive thinking then you must achieve at least short goals to gain some self confidence and you will see th changes in negativity... Thanks..
@busybee10 (3191)
• India
1 Apr 11
Many people are not planned in any of the things in life. They just aim and do not work for that sincerelyh. Yes,as you say one must try himself to achieve something polsitive in their attitudes to improve one,self....
• Philippines
31 Mar 11
Being Positive is a blessing you can always be with other people but negativity is another thing in mind you should focus first on positive people first.
@busybee10 (3191)
• India
1 Apr 11
OK - this our range of thinking. But,in society there are some instances which makes us to react with people whom we do not know.They may be positive or negative.Only on conversing with them we will know their nature...... But being polsitive is always advangeous..
• Philippines
31 Mar 11
You have to be with people who are positive in their outlook in life before you can be with people whom you feel negative, partly because your so positive that you tend to absorb their negativity that for sure may be your case some days that are relatively you're not just into is a problem with people I bet a lot of days when you were on your mood you dont' feel the same way.It's very nice to accept that we feel negative about things and the same time the reverse of it.
@busybee10 (3191)
• India
1 Apr 11
Good thoughts maunesrockford92078. My experience says some positive people also change their thoughts towards negativity and suddenly this happens which realy makes us upset.And I am unable to understand why this happens.........
@poohgal (6848)
• Singapore
30 Mar 11
Usually, I'll avoid talking to them if I'm not close to them in the first place. If they are my good friends, then I'll just be direct and ask them to stop being so negative as negativity is contagious. I'm not the most positive person in the world so I don't like it when I have to deal with another person's complaints and negativity. People should really think more about what's happening around them and stop thinking only for themselves. When they do that, they will realize how small and insignificant their problems are.
@busybee10 (3191)
• India
1 Apr 11
Yes,but many people do not have time to think about their flaws and try to rectify them instead gpo on with their own negativity.... It is good to note that you avoid talking to negative people at times.
@EdnaReyes (2628)
• Philippines
30 Mar 11
It is easy to say be positive but when fears set in, negativity follows. I think we need first to conquer our fear before we can have a positive outlook of life. We need to be assure that we have someone besides us, as human we need to belong, we need companion and this the plain reason why a woman was created, to be with the first man. To make him feel he is with somebody he can trust and depend on. Once we have this assurance, I think we can be brave enough to say that everything will be alright, the first step in being positive!
@busybee10 (3191)
• India
1 Apr 11
You are correct.Yes,to say it is esy but in the right circumstances only one can experience. Good and effective thoughts - I like them.
• India
6 Apr 11
Hello busybee10, you are right that when you have to face a lot of negativity from people around you, it saps your energy and happiness and it becomes very depressing for you. We all have to deal with such issues at one time or other. What you can do is first give it a thought why they are behaving in such a manner. You may try confronting them directly, most often it is something very trivial that is nagging these people about you but are somehow unwilling to speak it out with you. And just because they are thinking about it all the time, it just comes out as a negative action or negative speech against you. So give it a thought whether you can do this. 50% times it helps. Another way is to simply ignore it and eventually it will go away as these people realise that the negativity is not affecting you and continuing with it is a futile effort on their part. Keeping cheerful and maintaining positive attitude around them will eventually make them feel good about you. If none of this works, WALK AWAY! Just do not let any kindof negativity prey on your happiness and wellbeing. No matter who the person is, its just not worth it.