Expiration dates make me squeamish!!
By celticeagle
@celticeagle (159887)
Boise, Idaho
April 1, 2011 6:18pm CST
I have lived a long and interesting life. I recently had a long talk with my grand daughter about death. Yes, Yes, I know what a downer subject.( But believing in cycles and all I had to go there.)
My best friend in all this world recently had another loss in her family. Her younger sister(of three including herself)passed suddenly of CANCER. She had just lost her son the year before of CANCER.(Do you see a theme starting here?
)I had called several times to talk to them. THey are all like family to me. They call me Sis and/or Auntie.
My concern when people are at this stage and only a matter of time till the end comes is are they ready? Are they afraid? Have they made things right if need be? With her younger sister she was definitely ready. A person of great faith. My friend told me that in the last hours she would smile off in space as if looking at some wonderful thing. They would ask her: "What do you see?" SHe said she had just talked to Jeseus and she was so ready to go be with him. WOW! Isn't that lovely? SHe passed mid month and I have been in constant contact with my friend and talking to her about family, life, death, regrets, etc.
It isn't alittle funny how times like this really bring it all home. And I wonder if we died tomorrow (We never know when our time is up) would we have regrets? Would we wish we had done anything differently? Would we wonder what if I had done this or that differently?DO our kids and family know how you feel? I think I have some regrets. WIsh that some things had gone better or that I had handled things alittle differently. For the most part I am good to go. How about you?
)I had called several times to talk to them. THey are all like family to me. They call me Sis and/or Auntie.
My concern when people are at this stage and only a matter of time till the end comes is are they ready? Are they afraid? Have they made things right if need be? With her younger sister she was definitely ready. A person of great faith. My friend told me that in the last hours she would smile off in space as if looking at some wonderful thing. They would ask her: "What do you see?" SHe said she had just talked to Jeseus and she was so ready to go be with him. WOW! Isn't that lovely? SHe passed mid month and I have been in constant contact with my friend and talking to her about family, life, death, regrets, etc.
It isn't alittle funny how times like this really bring it all home. And I wonder if we died tomorrow (We never know when our time is up) would we have regrets? Would we wish we had done anything differently? Would we wonder what if I had done this or that differently?DO our kids and family know how you feel? I think I have some regrets. WIsh that some things had gone better or that I had handled things alittle differently. For the most part I am good to go. How about you?2 people like this
5 responses
@bobbinbeck (27)
• United States
2 Apr 11
I think that I am good most of the time. I have 5 kids 10 and under right now. So, I think that I would wish I took more time to enjoy them and spent less time trying to get everything done. I also think that since I'm often tired (kids waking me when they have nightmares, growing pains, illness, and teething) that I am also not as patient as I'd hoped I could be.
I sometimes think that since I'm so involved in my family life that I don't take the time to get to know the people around me as well as I could. That makes it harder to do good deeds for them. A lot of people remind me that there is a season for everything, but what if I'm taken before I really serve those around me. As they say in a movie I recently watched (I probably won't get the quote correct, so bare with me), "what and if are two very simple words. But when you put them together...."
@celticeagle (159887)
• Boise, Idaho
2 Apr 11
I do alot of what iffing. It could drive me crazy! I try to make sure my kids know how I feel and what is important and that is what is important in the long and short of it. I think it is normal to wish we had done better with our kids no matter how good we were.
@bobbinbeck (27)
• United States
2 Apr 11
Based on my experiences thus far, I agree with your comment. Lately, I've been so busy I've had very little time to what-if. So that's good. I pray for patience with my kids and work hard to have patience. I think it makes a big difference :)
@melvelasco (356)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
I could say I am good to go.... But yet I don't want to either. I've also had think about passing this world, but when I got to think about dying, I am afraid, not for myself but for my kids, they still young and afraid that they never grow up with me. But when my expiration date come...I am good but hoping its not soon, I had many dreams and hopes for my kids.
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@celticeagle (159887)
• Boise, Idaho
2 Apr 11
I think your feelings are normal. Alot of people feel this way. I hope its not soon too. I have a new great grandbaby to see grow up!
@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
1 Apr 11
For the most part I am good too. Of course I do have some regrets, nothing big though. I don't want to die, have so much more living that I want to do. I do my best to not be a nasty, hollarin type of person. I do my best to treat people properly and respectfully. Thats sad for you friend. I know a very sweet lady who is battling terminal cancer. Its such a sad sad thing. When I talk to her she is always upbeat and says she is fine. Brave lady.
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@celticeagle (159887)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Apr 11
I feel the same as you. I hope I have never affended anyone with my humor and such as that. Perhaps your friends has realized it is her time and is okay with it. I hope I am that way when I am ready to go. If I am not ready and get hurt or something I know I fight to the last breath in me. I want to see my great grandson grown and I have alot of living to do yet too. And alot of harrassing my kids left to do. lol
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
2 Apr 11
I hope i'm good to go but not ready to go yet. Don't guess we are ever ready. So sweet of u for keeping in close contact w/your friend. I know she appreciates it. U really need people more after everything is all over with.
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@celticeagle (159887)
• Boise, Idaho
2 Apr 11
Well, thank you! I wish I could do more. Wish I was closer and could travel. She is such a dear person.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
2 Apr 11
I don't know. It would depend. I think that it is lovely and I do think there comes a certain peace when that time comes. Acceptance maybe would be a better word. There are those that fight it but I think it is because there are things left undone. I want to be ready when the time comes.
My grandmother swore she saw an angel that was telling her it was time before she passed. She got better in the hospital and wanted her hair brushed. I was young..like 10 or 11 years old young and I thought she was getting better. She passed the day after she was up talking and wanting to be groomed. The doctor said she was hallucinating because of the poison that was in her blood. She talked about the man that come to her that day she was up and about and passed that night. She had said there were more "spirits" in the hall. I was reading on the bed when it happened at my cousins house and I saw something out of the corner of my eye in the doorway. It was her when I looked up and I thought she had come home. She stepped out of the doorway but when I went to the door and looked down the hall there was no one...but the phone had started to ring. I knew..I just knew. They were calling to tell us she had gone.
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@celticeagle (159887)
• Boise, Idaho
2 Apr 11
I think that ghosts could be those who had things left undone in their lives. It makes sense to me.
Quite often people that are sick or even in the last stages of Cancer will have a sudden surge of energy and are very lucid for a period.
WOw! What a odd occurence. Maybe she was thinking of you right at the last.
Thank you for sharing.
