How to survive a personal tragedy

Philippines
April 3, 2011 3:16pm CST
whether it be a death in the family, an act of nature or financial loss, we as individuals have to transcend the loss and move on. It won't be easy. But, you can do it. My family has gone through the death of my mother, bankruptcy, flood (several times, most notable would be the Ondoy) and fire (March 19th, 2011) and we've soldiered on. My Dad has been a very strong person through all these tragedies and we as his children have followed his example and sucked it up and stayed strong. He doesn't complain, he doesn't gripe, he just accepts fate and moves on. So if ever you are in situations like these, my advice to you would be: regain normalcy as soon as possible. If you have a job or a routine, go ahead and do it again. It's normal to cry. But don't cry everyday. Dwelling on these things will just stop you from moving on. Memories are best kept in the mind. Remember all the good things and try not to think too much of the bad things. Survival, emotionally, is moving on as soon as possible.
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@dainy1313 (2354)
• Leon, Mexico
13 Apr 11
Hello Chipesterkhan. Thanks you so much. You gave me a very valuable gift: courage and faith. We have faced very hard moments since my father ran away with a woman younger than I, they had a hidden baby of three. I´ve faced too many troubles since then. So you have made me a real valuable gift: you have encouraged me, as a big brother. Thanks you so much! Blessings!... Dainy
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• Philippines
13 Apr 11
glad to be of service ma'am this is how i deal with pain, by doubling my efforts to help others :D everything'll turn out ok as long as you believe and make it happen :D
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@dainy1313 (2354)
• Leon, Mexico
13 Apr 11
I´ve already talked about you to me husband. We were both so pampered for many years =(. That a little flu, in other time, would make us feel miserable. We should size life, and troubles. Don´t you think so? I love your attitude. Thanks you for adding me as a friend. Blessings!... Dainy
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• Philippines
13 Apr 11
yep life and its troubles ain't really too big if you put things into a different perspective all you really got to have is the attitude of a pitbull no matter how much life tries to shake you down or shove you to the ground, you just gotta get back up and bite down hard and never, ever let go this attitude wasn't developed overnight though it took years and a lot of experiences so i hope you guys get back up immediately it's nice to have friends from everywhere in the world :D
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• United States
3 Apr 11
This is very good advice. My son was in a tragic car wreck 2.5 years ago and sustained a traumatic brain injury. I now care for him in our home. It's been a tough journey - and there is no "return to normal" as my world completely changed from that time on...I lived at the hospital with him, in a nursing home with him until I finally got an apartment and brought him home...it's not going to just be "normal" again. I have good days and bad days but I'm finding that I can live each day the best I can with whatever is handed me...and just keep putting one foot in front of another.
• Philippines
4 Apr 11
you are one brave and strong woman your son is lucky that he has you as his mom and you are taking good care of him
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• United States
4 Apr 11
Thank you for your kind words. But I feel neither brave nor strong - just a mom doing what is supposed to be done when they love their son!
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• Philippines
4 Apr 11
a mother's love is definitely something in this world i can not begin to understand how this bond is so strong... such things are perplexing and wonderful at the same time
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@kheydia (883)
• Philippines
13 Apr 11
Tragedies in life i don't know how to survive if i am in your situation seems like you were thrown down a world, that is very too much to handle, but i think God doesn't give us trials that we cannot handle, and i know everything that are happening to us has a purpose. And you are right we should not dwell on these things that are happening to us, it will just make us miserable and unhappy, i agree with you that we should move ASAP.
• Philippines
13 Apr 11
yep or Daddy God will be angry if you don't take up his challenge you know what, i think he's just looking from above and checking to see what we'll all do next given a couple of situations in life maybe he's checking how we handle them and if we pass we become very capable angels
@kheydia (883)
• Philippines
15 Apr 11
Well, God is really looking at us, He is looking at us, 24/7 to see how we are doing and ready to extend His help when we ask of it.
@hexeduser22 (5853)
• Philippines
5 Apr 11
If I may just add if things get rough and you have no one to turn to then grab a piece of paper and write all the pain in it. After that crumple it and throw it away. It helps in lightening ones load or burden. If you are gifted in writing then turn those pain into a beautiful creation like poems and stories that other people could learn a thing or two. We decide what to do with our lives so let's not waste it doing nothing or just sulking around because it seemed that world has fallen on you. Thanks for this reminder, I'm in a slump right now and upon reading this made me remember that life goes on and I my future depends on what I do today and not what I did not do in the past.
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• Philippines
5 Apr 11
or instead of paper... mylot the pain away and share a learning experience or two hehehe the paper thing, i used to do it with my trainees back when i was training people in a call center