Finally, he returned me my money!

Singapore
April 4, 2011 4:56am CST
Hi there, mylotters, good day! Alright, well, I don't know how should I start but yea, it's been such a long time since I last posted here. Months ago? Yea, maybe. Sorry man, for the time that I wasn't here. So many things happened and if I posted them here, it'll be really long. Maybe I just tell you guys some of the things which happened in my life when I wasn't here. The start of a new decade and year, 2011, everything's quite smooth and my studies still quite ok but I partially lost a friend, who had been quite close with me for some months before this. Ok, this is what happened. we were supposed to do a powerpoint slide together but the problem was that I had to study for another test which I was due to take next week. By the way, this happened months ago. So, I told him this and he agreed. The day of our presentation came but the slide hasn't been done and he told me he would do it but I could sense some upset in him already. When we were finished with our presentation, he started to distance himself away from me. I asked him if he was upset with me and he said no. Obviously it was the opposite. Since then, our relationship began to fade and he was cold to me. I don't know the reason but I think there's just that little bit of fate between the two of us. Another friend of mine also told me that different people have different preferences so on and so forth. I then began to accept it so once again, I began alone again. I have two happy events lately and the first one is that, I passed my exams! It's enough that I repeated two modules in the past semesters and I decided to buck it really UP, LOL. The second thing is, maybe some of the mylotters will want to know, which is, my lending money problem, which happened last year. There are two discussions about this for those who don't know and for those who know, let me kind of, recall the initial problem for you once again. This guy, borrowed money from me last September and I agreed to lend him. He told me that his electricity bills were going to be cut off soon and wanted to borrow $231 from me and so I agreed. He then promised to return me on the 12th of that month. However, he flew overseas for a study trip without even telling me, which angered me a lot. When he came back, I reminded him and he promised to return the money to me and gave me a 'bogus' date. There were quite a lot of empty promises made to me and I was really fed up with him. There were at least 10 empty promises. He was uncontactable for a while until one day, I was in the same class as him and I was angry with him already. I reminded him but still, empty promises. He even skipped classes so as to avoid me. I found his facebook and added him as a friend but he refused the offer. That made me real mad and I began sending stressing messages to him in view of the '$231'. I kept sending and sending and reminding him of this amount. I even contacted a government agency to help me with this but all they can do is to tell me to meet up with that fella, which I DIDN'T WANT TO! I then threatened him that if he still doesn't return my money, I'll call the police. He still showed no sign of returning me the money. Finally, I pressured him further by calling him even when he's working. At least once a week. Now, here's the miracle. On the 18th March, I was in China for a community service project organized by my school. On that day itself, that fella messaged me and said :"Bro full amount sent to you, 231." I can tell you, that day, I felt like a big burden was off my mind. This really taught me a big big lesson. Never lend any money to anyone. Never ever! I had to stress him so much to get my money back. What a waste of my energy. Alright, I'll stop here for now.
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4 responses
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
9 Apr 11
hi, nice for you,because he finally returned your money,at last for how many times you reminding him about the money. its really a wasting of time to remind and remind them about on what they borrowed to us, but we have no choice is to do that to get that money back again.
• Singapore
11 Apr 11
Precisely! This's the point that I kept emphasizing but that fella just didn't take it to heart. If he still has that little bit of conscience, then he should feel guilty.
@Sanitary (3968)
• Singapore
8 Apr 11
There will always be good and bad friends. No matter what they do, how they treat u, it's for your own good because that's where u start learning more about them. In the case of your project mate, I've encountered many people like him til I given up. I'll concentrate in doing my part well and that's it. I won't bother if I fail the project because I want my project to learn. I'm willing to fail along with them when they think they can just take me for granted. In the case of money lending, if I can't get it back. I will treat it as bad debts and there won't be a next time for them. I will tell friends around me about him or her, so that I can save them the trouble of getting back the money. If it takes one sacrifice to make more friends, I don't see why not.
• Singapore
11 Apr 11
I agree. Wise advice
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@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
4 Apr 11
I'm happy for you that you finally got your money back. I lent my brother 2000 dollars back in February of 2010. He said he would pay me back by December 2010. I never received the money or even a word about it. I then went to visit my girls in the same state that he lives. He came to visit and all due to my daughter having a baby. He did not say a word about the money that he owed me. In fact I felt he was acting very cold and distant towards me. So while there I sent him an email because I did not want to embrass him in front of others due to us never being alone. I explained how December came and went and I haven't received the money or a word from him concerning the money.I told him I think he should just start paying a little each month, because he will never have 2000 dollars in one shot. His reply was I am working three jobs and trying to keep a roof over my head. He says you will get my money when I have it and don't forget all the things I have done for you in the past. WHAT???? The money was not lent on things that you have done for me in the past. I have done plenty for him too. Taking him in when he needed a place to stay. He lived with me for four months not paying rent, just half of the utilies. So I have now decided that since I'm back home again I will just send him and email to forget about the money because I can't waste my time or energy on this. With that I just know he will never be able to ask me for a dime again.
• Singapore
5 Apr 11
Oh that's sad. You see, money really spoils the relationship between people. It can even severe it and some people are even willing to risk their lives on it.
@tiffnkeat (1673)
• Singapore
4 Apr 11
Congrats on getting your money back. You probably also lost a friend. Maybe it is better to never lend so you won't get into the situation again. And congrats on your exam too. I wonder how your friend felt all this while. Maybe he felt guilty too?
• Singapore
4 Apr 11
Argh, I won't even want to think about how he feels, for one more second even. He has been blacklisted in my list of enemies already so what for, should I think about him any second longer?