Second child in the family is always the most successfull

Singapore
April 5, 2011 4:25am CST
have read on some research journals that say, the second child in the family is always the best in the family or the worst. there are the most daring and stubborn headed in the family. they either excell in life or they would end up in jail, drug, gangs. How true is this remarks, anybody out there can comment and relate from their own experience. Is definitely true in the families that I know.
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@maean_19 (4663)
• Philippines
5 Apr 11
The second child syndrome or also known as middle child syndrome. For some, that is applicable and to others are not depending on the upbringing. I am a middle child, but not the second child. I am hard headed and stubborn in the sense that I am assertive with what I think is right. I am independent and antagonist in the sense that I fight for my right and others' rights. But I am not delinquent or not into addiction of many sorts. I am a goal oriented. So I guess, it is sort of true.
• Singapore
5 Apr 11
hi maean_19, glad that u agree to a certain extend that the second child is stubbon in fighting for his rights. thanks for the commends.
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@maean_19 (4663)
• Philippines
6 Apr 11
Because I belong in some extent.
• Philippines
5 Apr 11
Based on my own personal statistics, there's no truth in this. There's this one family i know wherein i'd say the second child indeed was the most daring and stubborn. These qualities led that child not to success but to giving the parents more problems. That child wasn't able to finish school and in turn, is not able to get any job, not because there is no available job, but because the child simply doesn't want to work. There might be some truth in this theory if you study collectively across culture, race and generation. Child order must be correlated to the child's success rate. As for me, i wouldn't say second children are the most successful or the most problematic. For the families that i've known, it really do vary.
• Singapore
5 Apr 11
hi, thanks for the comment, as I say they are either the best or the worst in the family, it may not be true to all families but as from my experience is usually true, thanks and have a nice day
• Philippines
6 Apr 11
Really? I'm the second child in the family. I'm still a student though so my future is still unclear. I have to say I'm stubborn compare to my older sister I'm milder. But I want my siblings and I to be successful in the future.
@annierose (17406)
• Philippines
6 Apr 11
hi redrose88, I remember what my teacher said when I was in high school that if ever there will only be 3 children in the family, the second one is most likely to be successful. When we asked her why, she said that it is because the second child always strive hard for the attention of his parents. The eldest one receives very much love from his parents since the latter are very excited for a child. So, when the first child arrives, they give all the love they can give to it. The youngest is also treated like the eldest since there will be no more child after the last one.Usually, the youngest is the one whom we called treated so special that is why many of them are spoiled by their parents. The second child do not receive much attention and because of that, the second child strives hard for the attention of his parents. I am not the second child in the family. We are four and i am the third one. The second is already married. She was the bread winner in our family. I can say that she has a happy life now but not that lucky when it comes with education. She was not able to continue her studies in college because she wants to help us in financial matters.
• India
6 Apr 11
From personal experience I can say in a familly of three or more siblings the second child is usually most practical and shrewd.One reason could be they are slightly neglected and therefore well prepared to defend or protect themselves.
• Philippines
6 Apr 11
It depends, nature vs nurture will always play a vital role worst or the best it is really not the issue there's still freewill in each person.
@stanley777 (7177)
• Philippines
5 Apr 11
For me,I wouldn't agree on that.I have some friends who was a 2nd child but were not successful especially in finding the right partner.He is my best friend and I treat him like my own brother but up to this time he is still single.And there are others too who lives in low profile but can not be considered successful.I guess it's the upbringing of our parents that we strive to be successful or have experienced hardships in life in our younger years which motivates us to make good for ourself and family not if you are the 1st, 2nd or the last.
• Oman
5 Apr 11
I don't want to sound subjective because I am the second in my family. But to be fair enough, my response is, IT DEPENDS! Everyone of us can be successful or otherwise depending upon his/her ability to persist and endure pressures and difficulties in life. A person may have graduated from college and graduate school with the highest of honors and may have worked abroad for greener pastures and more opportunities but he credits it all to his striving and commitment to achieve his goals and aspirations in life. Happy myLotting =)
@huidu76 (54)
• Germany
5 Apr 11
I think that every people have his personality and it's not importand if you are the firts or second child in family. Depends all about personality, about parents and what you want to do in your life. For the second child in family very importend it's also the personality for the first one.
@mohdromly (165)
• Malaysia
5 Apr 11
Hi rose ,about you question,what i know human can change if they want to change
• Philippines
5 Apr 11
Hi, for me second child in the family is different because after the dethronement or rejection of the first born experienced because of the arrival of the second child all the undivided love of the parents are now shared to the newly comers. Because the newly comers is totally dependent and parents most give time to it that's why second child are good handler situation because of parents taught.
@gelayagui98 (1337)
• Australia
5 Apr 11
Just old folks says it, although, I am also second in our family, I did not say that I am successful than my siblings, we, in general, successful in our own way. They say it because mostly of second child is more responsible than the eldest but, as saying goes....in every rules there is an exception.
@inu1711 (5288)
• Romania
5 Apr 11
Hello Redrose, For me, this statement is not true. I am the second child of the family (and also the last one) and I am neither a very successful person nor a criminal. (not yet? ) My elder brother is the most successful person in my family. I am only a happy person, satisfied with what life gives to me. I don't want laurels, I like to live un-noticed. I may be "stubborn headed" as I don't like to do what others say but I am definitely not a candidate for prison.