Words sting more from family members.

@megamatt (14331)
United States
April 5, 2011 8:49am CST
We take a lot of criticism, some of it warranted, some of it very unfair, but never the less we take it each and every day. Yet if it comes from a family member, it just seems to hurt a little more and makes us think just a little bit more. We are going to think a little more when our family members. They obviously know us better and know really when we are going on a bad path in life. So the words dig a little deeper, criticisms hit a bit harder and perhaps we are able to understand that we need to think about this a little bit more.
2 responses
• United States
5 Apr 11
Somehow I feel that if we look at it as constructive criticism we would actually learn something from it. Some family can be a bit harsh however if we really think hard as to was said there may be something there that we can learn from. It is always my thinking that if we are told by someone who cares about us our flaws it is best as opposed to some outsider where as we then take it as criticism and not really constructive.
@megamatt (14331)
• United States
5 Apr 11
Yeah we tend to take people we know at a better face value. Yet there are times where family members do not want to take the necessary step, because of the simple fact that there could be a divide within the family and no one wants that. Of course, it gets some sense beaten into the head of a family member, then so much the better. Sure they are going to stew for a little bit but perhaps that will give them time to think. I think that we can learn so much from criticism. No matter how much there will be times that we think it is the last thing we need. No trust me, a lot of the time, it is exactly the thing that you need. Sometimes you need someone to point out the fault of your actions, someone to tell you that what you are doing is not for the best. Thanks for responding. Its appreciated. Have a nice day.
5 Apr 11
Yes, I certainly agree with this. It's better that we establish open communication with our loved ones. From there we could discuss what hurt us and eventually our loved one will be careful to what they are saying. I, myself is practicing thinking first before speaking. I guess it really helps not to speak when we are angry or not to speak if we will not say any good things at all.
@megamatt (14331)
• United States
5 Apr 11
Yes, not speaking when angry. That is really the truth when one thinks about it. We might need to get through a person's thick skull, but if tensions are high, we might come across as a bit strong. There is constructive criticism and then there is just then being unfairly critical. Distinguishing between the two will help smooth things over. The thing is, things that happen in families, arguments, will really stick a lot longer. We will obviously forgive and try to forget, but really, are we going to forget at all. Thanks for responding. Its appreciated. Have a nice day.