who could be unhappier?

@jpaxxx21 (170)
Singapore
April 7, 2011 8:59am CST
the mistress who knows the guy has a wife to go home to or the wife who knows her husband has a mistress to cling on to when everything is all messed up. sometimes, the burden is on the part of the mistress. she has to respect the guy's situation because she knows where she stands. knowing that fact, could only hurt her so much. but then, the wife too could feel more pain knowing that the guy she married, the guy who promised to be loyal, is having an affair with another woman. is that the reason why the guy cannot just divorce his wife nor break up with the mistress because of the pain both would feel? that must be so hard on the guy's part, too. sigh!
5 responses
@ada8may21 (2405)
• Philippines
7 Apr 11
Ohh this is a tough situation, that mostly common to our society. Martyr wife and womanize husband and a mistress. In the first place the husband wont be in this situation, if he did not enter into another affair. For me, he dont have any reason of blaming it to his wife why he went to out and have mistress. If he is no longer happy with his marriage life. Annulment is very much available or maybe divorce in some other countries. If his reason why he cant divorce or annul his wife because of the children. Then what he is doing now is just also the same, he is hurting his own children. Then secondly, the mistress knows that the guy is married why she still accepts him. Too bad, the girl is not that smart enough. She is a home wrecker and that is not a good start to have a family if that is what she is planning. I am sorry but the guy also is selfish, he should give up one and keep one only.
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@jpaxxx21 (170)
• Singapore
8 Apr 11
i still feel for the wife. if all the guys would give up their mistresses then go back to the wife, there won't be enough men for the mistresses. lol.
• Philippines
8 Apr 11
Lots of people encountered that way in the society. For me the one who could be feel unhappy is the wife knowing that his husband betrayed her. She may ask herself the reason why his husband had an affair to other girl and I know that she will feel depressed thinking the reason why. The guy must think first before he marry a girl and must do what he promise to God that through thick and thin he will love his wife. And in the part of the mistress I think before she enter in a relationship she must also think that the guy had already a responsibility not only to his wife but to God where he promised everything. Because for me she will never be happy forever being a mistress only because the guy is just easy to choose a mistress but a wife remain to be wife forever.
@jpaxxx21 (170)
• Singapore
8 Apr 11
that is true, the mistress will never be happy being in that situation forever. the mistress can be a wife if she intends to find another guy & marry, the wife now will always be a wife if the husband admits to his faults & change for the betterment of their marriage :)
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
8 Apr 11
Oh my God,it is indeed a very tough situation because the guy is torn between who is he going to choose in the end. But sometimes situation like this can be avoided but yet many guys are still doing it and I wonder why. On the side of the wife it's really hard knowing that the one you loved has found another happiness in the arms of someone else. On the other hand the mistress also have a very stressful life knowing her beloved belong to someone else and she could never have him no matter what she do. It's a miserable life after all. i just hope it wont happen to me. I guess both of them are unhappy.
@jpaxxx21 (170)
• Singapore
8 Apr 11
it is a tough situation but it depends on how u react to it. it won't happen to anyone if he/she knows the value of respect :)
• United States
7 Apr 11
I think the wife would be the most unhappy. She is the one who would most likely to become depressed. The husband knows what he is doing is wrong and if he isnt having bad feelings about it then he must be happy about it. As for the mistress she does know where she stands and she can most of the time find other men to keep her happy.
@jpaxxx21 (170)
• Singapore
8 Apr 11
the wife would be unhappy. in the first place, the mistress is ready for that unhappiness. but the wife expected a smooth marriage & her husband's affair with another could not be any more painful :( the mistress has a choice, the wife has no choice (not unless she resorts to divorce) & the husband will have to make a tough choice.
@myn3wlif3 (139)
15 Apr 11
well for me..all of them is unhappier because they hurt each other. but i know time will come that they can forgive to each other and live happily.