The expectations we have for other people to act.

@megamatt (14327)
United States
April 7, 2011 10:25am CST
There are times where I think that we have too high of standards for other people. Granted, we were raised a certain way, but I think that everyone was raised different. I'm not talking about the big things that most would find appalling but rather those small things that slightly irritate, but really in the end, its not the end of the world. That might be considered to be normal for some, even if they bother us. So remember, there are times where we cannot hold people to a moral high standard, or we're going to be setting ourselves up for disappointment time and time again. That's just the way things go.
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• Philippines
8 Apr 11
Expecting high from people can more often result to disappointment. Even in other things. If you expect things to go out smoothly, you'll be disappointed most of the time. What I tend to do is whenever I'm entitled to expect someone, I always assume partial failure coming from that someone's end. That way, I won't be disappointed and I get to compensate for their fault.
@megamatt (14327)
• United States
10 Apr 11
That is a healthy way to get through life. If we lower our expectations, it might seem unfair, but we will be pleased when someone does exceed our expectations and it will be a great thing. Then if someone does fail, we cannot say that we expected it. There are a lot of times where we are going to have some grand expectations in life. Therefore, we just got to really adjust them, and not be unfair. Thanks for responding. Its appreciated. Have a nice day.
@didi13 (2927)
• Romania
7 Apr 11
A delicate balance I noticed much, and my experience confirms permanent, that people are of two types: those who give and those who ask. Do not talk about individual acts but that there is a perfectly coherent and in both cases, amazingly balanced. The man who gives he whose existence appears to have received an initial boost from birth, an energy reservoir which continuously consumes, whether it's making fun, of willingness to help someone or an acute sense of duty. The man who asks seems to have been born with a huge goal. He needs something permanent: for one thing, attention, support, admiration, encouragement, consolation. Always has a list of essential purchases, and there is marked out his plans to achieve them. Might imply that the first category are people, and the other are bad people. Completely false. Make sure that people compared with those who ask, are generally seen as more "work", but that does not translate immediately into "goodness" as the eternally dissatisfied not automatically convert the state into "evil . The man who has given him a filled their emptiness. At first he thinks he can fill with his inexhaustible energy. Then he begins to understand that every time they work deepens, the gap is becoming deeper and deeper. And then choose to forget it exists. It takes a great deal of realism to accept that life will end in the red. The man who knows he requires in turn a debt to life. The needs are just a way of standing to ensure that in the unfortunate event that such debt will not be extinguished itself, the effort to achieve them have been paid in advance. It takes a great deal of idealism to believe that you can still profit complete life. In fact between the two categories there is a certain balance, which causes them to constantly seek each other out. People who give need to be asked, as those who demand need someone available to help. But balance is becoming more fragile, because I see around me more and more people who ask. They are the engine of progress and progress and teach others to ask. An avalanche reaction that created the civilization of consumption and consume us all now. Who has one more stopping?
@megamatt (14327)
• United States
7 Apr 11
Yeah this is most certainly changing a lot in life. It is going to be a lot of times where what could be expected five years ago is rather different than what is being expected from a year ago. Therefore, we are going to have to adapt and change our expectations. That is really a part of the evolution of the world when you think about it. Everything is forever changing. Thanks for responding. Its appreciated. Have a nice day.
@cream97 (29166)
• United States
7 Apr 11
Hi, megamatt. You are right. As I live my life, I expect people to respect me just as I respect them. I expect so many things from people that I feel like they should do. But I have realized the hard way, that they won't do it as I have figured. People have disappointed me greatly. When I am nice and polite to someone, I figure that they are going to be nice and polite back to me. But they may not be. I have learned to stop being surprised at peoples attitudes, because they are not always going to what I do, just because I feel that it is right. I do have high expectations of people when it comes to being thoughtful and compassionate to others. I just don't have a high expectation on how people should live their life or be like I am.
@megamatt (14327)
• United States
7 Apr 11
Things like respect and being polite, one would think that would not really be too much to expect. Sadly though we are very wrong, as that might be a bit too much to expect. Just because we have some standards that need to be met, because we were brought up doing those things, its not exactly going to be something that other people are going to find as natural. So don't be too shocked when people act a certain way. Life will be much easier. Thanks for responding. Its appreciated. Have a nice day.
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