My best friends uncle died. What should I say to him?

April 11, 2011 3:25pm CST
I just heart that my friends uncle died today and I don't know what to say to him. He and his uncle liked each other very much so you can imagine that it's very hard for him but I really don't know how to encourage him. I know that he needs some time to mourn but how long is ok? Should I try to encourage him now or in 4 weeks? And which words could help him? I really don't know what to do... I know that time can heal and wound but my friend is someone who accuses oneself. Thanks for any tips or opinions!
1 response
• Philippines
11 Apr 11
It is really during these times of grief that I am lost for words to say. I remember when my bestfriend lost her mom, I was overseas then. I couldn't personally be with her so I just gave her a call. When she picked up, It took time before I could say something. I just said I heard what happened. I'm really sorry for your loss and my condolences. I know her mom since childhood so I told her that she will be missed. After that, she started to cry and I wept with her on the other end of the line. But that's it. I just said to her that I pray that she be strong and then we said goodbyes and hang up. No amount of words could really bring back what they've loss or significantly alleviate their feelings, but if you could just be there for your bestfriend to support her or him in his time of grief then I guess it would be enough.
• Germany
12 Apr 11
You are right. Words can't bring anything back but I'm afraid to say something wrong. That's why I'm asking here. So thanks for your answer. I do my best to be with him.