I'm CONFUSED if he still love me or not!

Cebu, Philippines
April 13, 2011 6:05am CST
I am bored and I have no friend where I can confide how I feel right now. I just got home from the hospital because i got sick "fever" due to tonsillitis and was rushed in the hospital since I had 40 degree Celsius fever that night when I went to the company clinic where I used to work. So basically, I do not have my mobile phone with as it is strictly prohibited in the office. So when I was in the hospital, I was thinking of my boyfriend every single day and night of how he was, also worried that he might be wondering where I was and why I am no longer sending him a text message where I used to do that everyday. When I get back home yesterday afternoon, I checked my phone and only received a miscall from him last Sunday evening where I was run to the hospital. At that time, he didn't know that I was sick. I felt disappointed because I thought he will be sending me a lot of text messages and wondering where I was, what happened to me but just a missed call. Now, it made me think if he still love me or really care for me in that manner? The way he acted upon, I felt neglected. I was in the hospital alone and no one bother to visit me where I was because I'm far from my family so I also live alone. My boyfriend is currently out of the country, he live and work there. Sad to say, until now I didn't received any other call, missed calls, text nor e-mail from him after I texted him what happened to me since two days ago. I felt bad, really bad because of that. I e-mailed him 2 hours ago and still received nothing. Do you think he is still in love with me or not? What do you think of his actions? Or he is just a shy type of person, not showy that he's worried about me? Please enlighten me with this. I need help. Thank you my lotters.
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10 responses
@edsss17 (4398)
• Philippines
13 Apr 11
Hi ccarabuena, Maybe you should just think the positive way! Maybe he is just busy with his works or he is having tons of meetings or something like that and that's why he haven't contacted you! Hope everything will be fine with you and your boyfriend soon! :)
@kquiming (2999)
• Philippines
13 Apr 11
even if he's that busy, he should at least find 5 minutes of his free time to be able to send a single text message or make a 5-minute call... i just don't think being busy is a good excuse. being fatally ill is though...so it would be better to just think that he might be sick with the flu or whatever...
• Cebu, Philippines
13 Apr 11
Woaahhh I was reading your comment and my boyfriend just called me up! He's on his way to work now, we'll yeah were in a different time zone. He's checking on me if i'm okay already. I'm soooo happy that made me smile ^_^
• United States
13 Apr 11
From your comments sounds like a little misunderstanding. Do explain to your boyfriend what happened and how you felt about that situation. Reason why I am saying is that some men/people do not always react negatively when their loved one for instance has somehow disappeared for a few days. There could have been a number of reasons he did not worry and it could have been a simple misunderstanding. Do keep in mind that simple misunderstanding lead to greater later. Only reason why I am saying to calmly explain how you felt is that if you do not tell him how you feel then how will he know the hopefully not, next time. Best of luck it sounds like all is okay and you want the relationship to grow and the only way it can grow is if we as people discuss our feelings. Good luck and hope continues well.
• Cebu, Philippines
16 Apr 11
I thank you so much for advise. Yes, you are correct. I think girls are just to sensitive and want to be recognized every time we confide our feelings. Even though he's not a showy type of person, I know that deep in his heart he loves me.
@myn3wlif3 (139)
13 Apr 11
When i read your message i think my boyfriend while reading your message, Its like your boyfriend don't love you too much because he doesn't give you even a little time.. time is really important to one relationship. This time are making us connected even if we are far each other with our boyfriends. My boyfriend is like that also He doesn't send me email anymore so i just consider it, he found a new girl. At first its not easy to accept but time come that i already forget about him and move on. But still its not easy to forget the happy memories we have, He is the first man who make my heart beat faster. But no im happy with my single life. I hope that you and your boyfriend well be okay. I hope that he is just busy with his works and be patient if you really love him, but i know there's a time that patient is already gone. But you just follow your heat. I hope that everything will be okay.
• Cebu, Philippines
13 Apr 11
I'm sorry to know about that since you are single now. I hope that you are happy and stay happy of course! That one day you'll find someone who will love you for the rest of your life. Yeah, I'm okay now! Thanks to God! ^_^
@lyamsitiy (104)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
In your situation i don't think that the guy is just shy type one because after what had happened to you he should have done something or even showed an effort that he cared. But i don't know the whole story between the two of you. Has he always been that cold at since your relationship started? You should ask him straight about the feelings he has for you, just be prepared for the possible answer he would give. Girls have great instinct and if you feel that somethings not right in your relationship then you should talk about it, and if you feel that he doesn't love you back and its time to end that relationship because it will only gets worse as time passes.
@thaMARKER (3096)
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
i feel you and that's sad. i also feel sad when i wake up and no text message from my partner. but i always receive a message from him everyday though. if i dont get one a day, i get sad because i'm used to it. then i would act as if im mad or something then he would try to explain. hehehe.. women or shall i say girls. but in your case, i would surely get mad and wont text or call him for days or weeks hehehe.. i cant tell if he loves you or not cause i dont know how your relationship works or his personality. but initial reaction, he could have leave at least one message a day. just relax and talk about it once you both have time and you're calm [if not] already.
@junrapmian (2170)
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
I'm sorry to hear what had happened to you, I just hope that you're okay now, without the fever and the tonsillitis swelling. As to your boyfriend, you said he's working abroad and there could be time difference. Or he could be busy with his work at the moment. I understand how it feels to be alone especially in this times when you do not have your parents with you. But please, wait till your boyfriend explains his side and talk things over. You can also ask him if he still wants the relationship to continue. It is better to open the communication lines so you two can clear up the matter.
@jemilane (176)
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
There are really reasons why things happened and with this, we need ample time to realize the meaning of things. I guess, based on my judgment, sad to say, he may care for you but his actions were not enough to convince yourself that he really do. He might want to tell you something through his actions or giving him the benefit of the doubt, what if something also happened to him that made him not able to txt you anymore or even answer your e-mails. Just compose yourself and don't jump into conclusions with your emotions. Try to search more answers to this mystery.
@jaiho2009 (39079)
• Philippines
13 Apr 11
Don't think negative first. Who knows he also got sick and also confined at the hospital right now. Don't jump into conclusions at this moment. Why don't you call him and confirm about his situation. And if he is alright,then,you can make a wild guess. have a great day
@aerous (13475)
• Philippines
13 Apr 11
That really upsetting, my friend. Because your boyfriend didn't care about you. If he really love you. He should react being worried what happen to you. Even if he a shy type person if he loves you. He must be worried, right?
@kquiming (2999)
• Philippines
13 Apr 11
i can only make a wild guess alright? well it's not that wild actually..umm... my guess is no?? now why would i say that...simply because if i were in your shoes, i wouldn't feel that i'm loved. especially if he's been doing that for a while by now, or has done it a couple of times... but if this is the first time he hasn't texted or called or emailed you for like 2 days, then maybe he has a very valid reason for not doing so , like, he might be in the hospital too himself and is actually expecting you to do the calling or texting. well you're the one who knows this person better and not any of us here at mylot... you don't have trust anyone's gut feeling, but if you ask me, my answer's a negative one. anyway always be reminded that you deserve to be treated better...