Is love really blind?

Bahrain
April 13, 2011 2:56pm CST
Why do some people choose to love a cheater rather than a serious one? Why do we always believe that they are good even they're not? Probably because were in love. You can't see the bad reality of things unless you get hurt by them. That's the pathetic part of being in lobe., that sometimes the worst person in this world can be the best person for your own perception. Is love really blind of what it sees or it's just that love doesn't mind at all?
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@mydah18 (13)
14 Apr 11
if u look at it logically women dont love cheating men; they move on or atleast in 90 percent cases.because they have a whole life at stake and choose to go easy after crying their hearts out in some days or weeks. but on the contrary if men are cheated by women 1) they cant accept the rejection. men take rejection real serious.weather u put him down sexually or in terms of their physical fitness or in a love affair 2) their instinct of hunting and reaching to their goal is heated. well men have this in born instinct to hunt down what they like.they like to pursue what they want.and whats more great than a hot pursuit. so besides love being blind these are also factors that count. and yes if there is true love around then it is blind.the bad part of ur other best is not apparent to u.even if it is that bad part endears him or her more to u.thats the beauty of love.
• Philippines
13 Apr 11
Well, that's the question that I've been asking to my self so many times.. In my own experience I've cheated not just once nor twice but many times, for me it was fun because it you broke up with the other one you'll not feel sad.. but if you love only one the tendency is that you'll be hurt not just once but 100times. Just like me, I stop from being playful when it comes to love then the Carma comes in.. May be you can said love is really blind when it comes in the physical(looks) but what most important is that the inner one..
• Bahrain
14 Apr 11
I don't know what to say regarding you situation, but don't give if you love someone, prove to him/her that you really changed. It is very difficult to regain the trust, but believing the power of love, you will still end up happy.
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
The word "PROVE" in action is very difficult.. but i guess even how hard you'll make the PROVE to your partner if she/he doesn't love you anymore it is just useless.. and you will end up with tears... but if you really love him/her then go.. if you fail it is a lesson but it hurts... what's the best thing to start in a relationship is that you need to know each other, know your limitations to each other and make some research on how you could make them happy..
@elaidha (95)
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
I have read a book about 5 love languages by gary chapman, it said that being in love is not really what you call "true love". It is just a feeling of obsession and the feeling of "in love" do not last.
14 Apr 11
yeahn true..when u get each other and have seen the highest peaks of love together the so called true love wears off and reality steps in.which is more often then not verry ugly.
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• Philippines
14 Apr 11
i look at love in an optimistic view by saying that love is not blind, rather, love is patient, considerate and is forgiving. in the point of loving, a person who loves tends to be uncomplaining, kind and forbearing. when his partner commits mistake,he chooses to understand. since man isn't perfect, he tends to be wronged sometimes and in this point, someone who is loving genuinely, understands. it is not by understanding someone you love who'd done you wrong that makes love blind, but it is the person who loves, who chooses to always forgive, that makes him sympathetic.
• Bahrain
26 Apr 11
So love is really not blind. Maybe love just forgives and forgets. =) Thanks for the response.
@Starr311 (72)
• United States
14 Apr 11
I ask myself this all the time although I know that love is really blind. I dont know why though. When we are in love we never want to see the bad or the truth of what is going on we tend to turn a blind eye because we are in love. Its crazy and sad. I wish that everyone would just be honest with eachother and if you dont love someone dont be with them and if you love someone dont hurt them!!
• Bahrain
26 Apr 11
I think that is the irony of being inlove. We are being blinded by the good things of the person we love, forgetting the things that will make us hurt but we don't see that they were already doing something that will not help the realtionship to go through. Well, that's life, complicated and happy sometimes. Thanks for the response. =)
@gelayagui98 (1337)
• Australia
13 Apr 11
Yes I do believe that love make us blind, because of our being blind the love we feel falls to marriage.
• Bahrain
26 Apr 11
In my opinion, not all love that is blind falls to marriage. Because some relationship tear apart for being blind. I have a friend that is deeply in love with her guy but her guy cheats on her many times. She already knew that but she give him chances to the point that my friend is already tired of her love to him. They broke up and now my friend is scared of entering a relationship again. Thanks for the response. =)
• Philippines
13 Apr 11
Love is not blind. It sees but it doesn't mind. It is very selective. It magnifies the other person's good points and junks the bad ones. Think of it as a weighing scale that is not properly calibrated. It always counts the good points as heavy and the bad ones as weightless. If there's no good point, love will surely devise a way to make a person believe that there are some.
• Bahrain
14 Apr 11
Love is life...COMPLICATED. =)
@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
13 Apr 11
You are right. When you love someone,he is the most handsome guy and the best guy in the world. It's not love that is blind...it is the person that is blindly loving a man/woman who is not worth loving for. It's normal when we are in love that we can not see all the bad things about the person that we love so much. It takes a great pain or bad experience before we can see all the bad things about that person. I know it's not easy to accept that we love someone who is not worthy. That is why LOVE is mysterious and LOVE is unconditional. Love is being defined a million definition...but no one can really give the right meaning of it...but the heart that knows how great LOVE is. have a great day
• Bahrain
14 Apr 11
Very well said, thank you. We really can't teach our hearts whom to love, once you truly love that person you provide everything for him/her to let him/her feel the sincerity that you felt.
@Margajoe (4720)
• Germany
24 Apr 11
I believe love is blind, yes indeed. 4 years ago, I feel in love with a guy that everyone warned me about. Telling me he was a good for nothing... The more they talked bad about him, the more interesting he became for me. I let him live with me for 3 and a half years. I finally kicked him out and am left with a lot of bills still to pay. I don't believe he ever loved me, he just found it easy. Took my money and had the rent paid. He had an easy life with me. Stupid thing is, I sometimes still don't want to see that. I am still in love with him. Fortunately I don't see him anymore.