My elder brother got married months ago,and i have mixed feelings

China
April 18, 2011 10:34am CST
I have a elder brother he is almost the same age with me,i love my brother very much.i have accustomed following him and imitate his manner,being protected by him,playing with his friend group,crazy but full of joy.we have telepathy sometimes and i think it's amazing.although we quarrel even fight a lot ,after that we will cry on each other.but now my brother married and have his family,i gave him my sicere blessing and hope he will happy all life,but at the same time i feel i have lose him again just like 14 years ago when he suffered from a serious illness,especially when i saw he has intimate behavior with his wife....
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5 responses
• Mexico
18 Apr 11
Hi della happy: When we love we have to let go sometimes. People are not objects so they are with us but at some point they have to go. Think about this: you haven't lost him, you have won a sister in law and probably some beautiful children. Your friendship with your brother don't need to change through the years. I hope everything will be ok. ALVARO
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• China
19 Apr 11
yes,thanks,starsaiover ,i have become much better now.i shoulk thank my sister in law cause i find my brother become more mature and know more of the responsibilities and care our family.and i attribute this to her,i can tell that my brother had never been happier than now,they love each other so much and i feel happy for him.at the same time i hope all shall be well and jack shall have jill,good day.
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• Mexico
19 Apr 11
Hi della happy: This sounds so much better. If your brother is really happy now and she is the one for him I think everything will be ok. It's normal that to have these bittersweet feelings. Thanks for sharing with us how you feel. ALVARO
• Mexico
3 May 11
By the way, thanks for the best response
• Philippines
18 Apr 11
yes, i know it's hard to accept that your brother has a new life now. Because i know all these years he is with you all along. But now you're all grown ups, and you'll need to find a way how to accept things, nothings permanent they constantly change. He's not gone, he's still there for you, except that he has his own family now. Be friends with his wife.
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• China
19 Apr 11
thanks too much merylle,i agree with you,i'm a strong girl and i know that the love can not be forcibly occupied,or belong to somebody alone,and i also hope i could have a good relationship with my sister in law,and i know i will...
@la_chique (1499)
18 Apr 11
its always a strange feeling when our loved ones drastically alter their lives. You need to find a way of spending time with him and his wife as a couple now, rather than just focussing on your brother. You will eventually marry someone and that will probably help you understand your brothers new life a bit better.
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• China
19 Apr 11
yes,thanks for your suggestion and i need to grow up quickly and treat my sister in law as my family,besides my sister in law has a good ability of trying things new,and she is charming...
@dreamy1 (3815)
• United States
18 Apr 11
Don't look at it as losing your brother he's not gone from your life completely but now he is in a different stage of his life and that has changed. He will always be your big brother but now your family has changed and this can be a good thing. Get close to your sister in law and she may be your best friend also.
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• China
19 Apr 11
thank you dreamy1 for your sincerely comment.you are right,i should not focus only on my brother but lose so good an girl,she is not much older than me,and we have a lot in common,she is attractive and sometimes can regulate my brother,i hope we can get along well....
@misterMR (797)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
I guess we have to accept the fact that he was able to find the girl of his dreams and he has to live with it. Actually, you should be happy. Your brother got married to a girl he loved and he wants you to be happy for him too. Don't worry. Whenever he has problems, he would surely go to you and in the end, you'll find yourself comfortable with your brother again. It's just the way how life goes.
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