One reason...

By Toni
@toniganzon (72285)
Philippines
April 19, 2011 6:33pm CST
I have been a member of facebook for 3 or 4 years already and i used to enjoy it a lot. 99% of my list of friends there are my real friends or relatives. I loved it at first because i can communicate with them, i can microblog or even blog about my emotion for the day and of course i was one of those addicted to the games. I was one of those people who would open facebook first thing in the morning. When the number of facebook users rapidly increased, my co-workers became all members of it and would sometimes throw hateful words at each other or gossip about someone on their walls for everybody to see. That's exactly one reason why i gave up using facebook. Yes i do check my messages once in a while but i don't log in everyday anymore. Sometimes i don't even log in for a month, so i wouldn't be able to see anything that would make me feel bad.
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
21 Apr 11
Hi. toniganzon. I am sorry that it is this way for you. I really am! I have seen some behavior that was negative on Facebook. I just don't see it so much though. Their are certain people that will just air all of their problems all out on Facebook. They will also, say mean things about other people too. Or they may make nasty statements about themselves. I only go on Facebook if I get an email notification that says that I should. Other than that, I don't like logging onto this site because, I don't care to hear about what is going in with other peoples personal lives.
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• Philippines
21 Apr 11
hello! I understand what you feel. I hate to see wall posts targeted at someone for everyone to see. There really is no justificiation for that kind of behavior except to get attention from everyone's friends. I saw one girl posting on my friend's wall apologizing for a thing that she had done wrong. It resulted in her being attacked by my friend's friends. It's like she was asking for it. She could have just made it into a PM. It really is annoying and I just log in to facebook to see who's online, so I can chat my friends, but most of the time I don't bother reading their statuses.
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• Philippines
20 Apr 11
Hi Toniganzon! It will be very difficult to remove gossips in a social networking site like facebook. Gossiping will always be there unless all people will be able to understand that gossiping is a sin and should not be tolerated (in a christian perspective). We can't keep other people from voicing out their opinion, whether that opinion is good or bad or may harm other people-- and that is a fact, we're already living in a liberal world. But, you can opt yourself from seeing other people's gossips if they are no longer helping you. I'm pretty sure you know them so you can help yourself by deleting them from your friend's list. That may sound harsh but there's nothing wrong if you'll choose the people you want to be included in your facebook. If their gossips already disturb you, then get them out of your account, not you avoiding them. :)
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
I understand your point but not all people has the same thinking and attitudes like what you have. Good to know that yo're not like them; honestly, I find those type of people as uneducated. Sorry for the word, I know that they are your friends but with what you've just said, there's no point of letting the whole world knows if you hate a certain person or not. How I wish those gossipers will just confront their enemies in private not in public. Who wants to see two people or more quarrelling at each other? Even me, I hate seeing people back stabbing someone but there's nothing I can do but become apathetic with the situation so I can enjoy the benefits of facebook :D Quarrelling in facebook has become a "norm" to some people, that is why, I am no longer affected by it, as long as they won't stabbed me at by back LOL. If you don't want to delete them, that's fine; I understand that you're just keeping your connection with these people. If you don't want to open your facebook because, that's your decision as well. We have our own ways of getting rid of things that are not helping us. Happy lotting :)
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
22 Apr 11
I see no point in deleting them as they are really my friends and not just online friends. The only way i won't be affected is if i don't open my facebook and that's totally my right as they are practicing their right of freedom of expression. Liberality doesn't mean though that you have to be rude. I am not merely referring to gossips but i am more specifically referring to backstabbing one another in public. Which is not even a good behavior online or offline. And why would you choose to make it known to the whole world how much you hate each other by writing cruel worlds to each other on your facebook wall? Why don't you just call each other and settle your differences there. In that case people reading it won't judge you and won't see how bad your attitude is.
@Rite17 (773)
• United Kingdom
20 Apr 11
Hi Luv, I dont believe that Facebook should be used for such things... I go on about how i Hate having ot go to work... but i am not friends with people i work with... and they all feel the same as wel all talk about how we dont want to be at work... want to enjoy the sunshine or be in the pub etc. But I am not like that at all... Shame there are some who end up spoiling it fro all really... I love to be on FB but at times i get rubbed up the wrong way getting loads of notifications from posts on status' or pics etc. But we all have pet hates!! LOL xxx
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
20 Apr 11
You're right! I couldn't delete my facebook account because my relatives from other countries update me with their pics and everything else in their lives. That'd the reason I'm thankful for facebook because it makes the world smaller for us somehow.
• Philippines
20 Apr 11
hello toniganzon :) I would understand how you feel. I myself am a member for about 2 years now and I loved it at first. Eventually, the same thing happened, co-workers gossiping against each other. It is just sad. I wish i could log myself out of the system, however my family had already become members and its one of the ways i could check on them. With gossiping colleagues, I did find a solution for them--I deleted them on my friends list. I know its a bit mean but its the only way I could keep me and my account sane and positive all throughout :)
• United States
20 Apr 11
My main use for facebook is to keep in touch with friends and family that you rally dont get to see on an regular basis. Its easier to just message them on there then it is to call them on the phone. Especially since they might want to talk way too much for me. I love facebook.
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@BlueGoblin (1829)
• United States
19 Apr 11
Facebook was suppose to make us closer to friends and family but it does the opposite. Facebook actually makes you hate your friends. People get on the internet and just want to gossip and make fun of people. I don't get why so many people think it is okay to be cruel to others. I really don't get why they do it to their friends. It's crazy if you ask me.
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
20 Apr 11
Yes i agree with you. I think someone should make a social networking site etiquette or proper decorum but then we would be curtailing the right to self-expression and it would be subjected to a lot of criticisms by those who like to have verbal fights over the internet. So sad.
@sajeevking (5073)
• Mumbai, India
20 Apr 11
Yes you are right as all of our real friends are on fb they know that we would not mind well we pull some one leg there but here we don't know many people and that's why we are more polite and kind to others fb is just to have fun with friends and family and i don't take any thing said there seriously but like you i have too hardly visit fb now as i think sometimes it just a waste of time