would you stay with someone who hits you??

That is good for you- I don't like to be with people who hurt me physically or emotionally too. but what about your children? If you already have any... Who would take care of them, or are you bringing them with you?

Of course, I will take my child. Actually, now I live with someone who makes me depressed. But I still survive, because there was never any physical violence. If until there is physical violence, of course I'll go.

Yes, you should really take your child with you- I am sure they'd go with you willingly. If i may ask, why does he make you feel depressed? Fortunately he doesn't harm you physically, but does he harm you emotionally?

I am against abuse too- not just to people but even animals. When a person is abused, it is really helpful to ask advice from close friends and family, to know that the person still has someone to go to. If one of my close friends was abused I'd help her too.

Can we just ask for government assistance, or nongovernment assistance who are for women? We have those here and they are really dedicated in protecting women and children's rights..

take this from someone who knows you can guide a friend, you need to stay in the sidelines you interfer to much and you lose that friend,these men have a hold i cant even begin to explain.In most cases your friend will pick her man over friend anyday.its easier that way

Yes, I have seen some people in the news that really get killed by their abusive spouses.. which is why people need to get away from those who hurt them there is no love anymore when couples start hurting each other.

Yes, before doing anything the rash the couple should first have a talk abut it.. maybe it wasn't intentional. But if it was, then there is no reason t put up with it at all.

I hope that your sons lives a happy and normal life too, all of you. All you can do is just hang on to each other and love each other to make up for your husbands love. I hope all of you can recover from this..

Well, I congratulate you for leaving him now. What happened after all those good years? It must have been really hard for you to live with him for 10 more years. But it is never too late to love someones else. Do you have kids already?

he was just very good at how he went about it all biding his time until we had a child and house.he thought that i wouldnt leave ,and started the beatings.This is all about control and pocession,i thought he loved me,every time he hit me im the one that felt guilty,the more i tried to please him the worse it got.These men do not change.it took a long time to realise it.The only reason i pluck up the courage to leave was because i was afraid i was going to kill him.These men dont care or love you no matter how much you delude yourself into thinking they do.Nobody deserves to be treated like that,the longer you stay in a relationship like that the worse you think about youself until you become a shell.Life is so much better for us now,but my children and i are dammaged.Staying in a violent relationship hurts children more than you think.they see more and hear more,what my children are going through now is heartbreaking and dealing with the hurt in them is so hard.I am doing everything i can to stop my ten year old son from being like his dad through councilling i hope he wont repeat his fathers behavior

Yes, a person tends to be abusive when he or she also came from an abusive family. But sometimes saying no doesn't do anything, it can even worsen the abuse. The best thing is just go to court and tell your family about it.

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es, no one deserves to be abused... Even if how much the couple loves each other, if they start to hurt each other then I doubt that the love is real at all.. They should see if they are really for each other, if they continue to hurt each other they should just separate.

YEs, unless we really experience it now, we can't really be sure with our decision.. And i do agree that it's hard to change an attitude of a person especially if he r she also comes from a violent family..All we can do is be there for the abused person..and convince them to leave.

I agree with you, no one will continue to be an abuser if no one will agree to be abused... But there are lots of reasons too why the abused can't fight back, it's just so sad..

yes, which is why the spouse is also hesitant in leaving the one who hits becasue he or she sweet talks or gives gifts and try to make up for the abuse... Thanks for your response.

My parents are like that too- they fight almost every day, just little fights but it never came to physical violence, I'm really fortunate to have them as parents. And you're lucky to have that kind of husband too.

Yes, people can do scary things when they are angry or drunk... And i do agree hat if he or she only did that once or twice, then the couple should talk since there is still a chance to save the relationship.

yes, women are supposed to be respected and cared for. Good thing you allowed your parents to separate you from him, all they want is what's best for you. I hoe would find some guy who is nice.

I think so too... Especially if the person intentionally hit you, he or she won't stop. The best way is to talk first though, but if he or she hits again, the person should ask for help already.

I have seen some situations on tv about abusive spouses and there are some reasons why they choose to stay, but some of them ask help from NGOs like Gabriela and Women's Desk. I am also very thankful because I have a great father.

There are lots of reasons why some people stay with their partners, I have mentioned some and some users here also mentioned other reasons.. And yes, people should respect their rights, and other's rights too- by nor harming them.

Yes, I also think it is more likely for men to hurt women though. Yes, the children is really the glue of the family, and sometimes the only reason why the parents still stay together.

Yes, it would be almost impossible to love someone who hurts you, and instead of love all the person will feel is hatred- so before the abused person feels so much hatred and wants to hurt the abuser, he or she should just leave.

Yes, there is no reason at all to try and hurt someone- either physically or emotionally. It is disrespectful and inhuman. Let's just hope no one ever does that anymore- they usually do it when they're drunk.

Yeah, it would definitely be frightening, because you never know when you're going to get hit again. I also hope to find a nice guy like my father that would never hit me.