Will you still love me...even if you can not love me ?

@jaiho2009 (39034)
Philippines
April 21, 2011 4:39am CST
Few love stories are forbidden...with different reasons. Few lovers were able to struggle and fight for their love to come true. Love has no religion/race /color/ tradition /culture/ beliefs/caste/social status/education/age ...etc. But why are those written above becomes a factor /hindrance sometimes or how often? Let's not talk elicit or adultery/bigamy...it's not my subject. Now,for those who has same experience or lost their love due to those reasons written above. How did you deal with it? How did you mend a broken heart ? Or..did you fight for it? For those who never had any experience with such situation,what is your view/opinion ? or do you have any suggestion? [b]"cannot touch,cannot hold-cannot be together cannot love,cannot kiss-cannot have each other must be strong and we must let go cannot say what our hearts must know how can i not love you-what do i tell my heart when do i not want you here in my arms how does one walks away from all of the memories how could i not miss you when you are gone.![/b] Enjoy mylotting and sharing your view dear mylotters Jaiho- keeping love alive.
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15 responses
@dpk262006 (55919)
• Delhi, India
21 Apr 11
Hi Jai! I feel that you have written a very beautiful and touching poem. I loved it.. You see it is quite difficult to mend the so called broken heart. Life is like a river. As the water of river keeps flowing our days of life keeps moving. If someone has left has and gone away, we just cannot recall him/her. We need to adjust with the circumstances and sooner we do it the better. Keeping ourseleves immersed in the memories of our love, who has gone away from our life, is of no use. I know we cannot stop the flow of thoughts about him/her, yet we need to move ahead. best of luck to you. Have a great weekend!
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
21 Apr 11
hello dpk, It's not easy to mend a broken heart i know,i've been through it. But it's more difficult to love someone that you can't love... confused eh?... yes,it's too painful to love someone you cannot touch or you can't make him/her feel that love you want to offer. It's like loving someone who never exists. thanks for the wishes...luck is not mine this time. weekend would be as usual either...
@dpk262006 (55919)
• Delhi, India
22 Apr 11
You really confused me ....... Lol! Why would one love a person who does not exist, who even if exists does not know that someone loves him/her. I mean I fail to understand who one sided affair could succeed?
@dpk262006 (55919)
• Delhi, India
22 Apr 11
You really confused me ....... Lol! Why would one love a person who does not exist, who even if exists does not know that someone loves him/her. I mean I fail to understand who one sided affair could succeed?
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
21 Apr 11
I won't ever give up on the one i love, sweetie. We might be miles apart, but that won't stop me, ever. I don't give a flying fig for culture, religion and all that other crap. Love for me is more important than that. You have to fight for the one you love. Nothing should ever stand in your way. Love don't ask you what and who you want. Just go with your heart and forget all that other things that tend to upset you. Got me??
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
21 Apr 11
Oh yeah, i'm first.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
21 Apr 11
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
21 Apr 11
I think me and you will have a serious talk about this.
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@shibham (17025)
• India
21 Apr 11
well didi. I have no girl friend and love, hence i dont say anything here but i think once i fell in love ( i am not sure was it love?). I write that story on my series. Here i am able to understand your feelings. lady 15 is released. Have a nice day.
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@shibham (17025)
• India
21 Apr 11
done and read mine.
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
21 Apr 11
Shiby dear, I will visit lady number 15 tonight. Di needs to go attend a meeting before going to office...i just can't wait starting this topic... enjoy with other mylotters ...i'll be back soon
• Philippines
21 Apr 11
@ shiby No girlfriend and love? Now i understand what you are trying to say after the dinner
• Philippines
23 Apr 11
aawwww.. i'm still in trauma when it comes to that matter.. i guess "maybe sometimes love just ain't enough.." but i like that song, "how can i not love you" by joy enriquez..is she a filipina..?
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• Philippines
23 Apr 11
sorry, i'm not so interested 'bout her..maybe if she's "sis. YUAN" of the "play" band, i'll trace even her ancestors!ü hehehe.. don't you have a copy of that film..? can i just borrow it..? BD
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
23 Apr 11
i have an original copy of that movie... uhmnnn..you know my collections.... originals... not pirated!!!! it's for RENT now
• Philippines
23 Apr 11
i'll borrow it later..:D i'm paid anyway..(i'm your referral eh..?) haha..
@thesids (22448)
• Bhubaneswar, India
21 Apr 11
Hi di Never though there would be a discussion where I cannot participate "for those who has same experience or lost their love due to those reasons written above"
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@thesids (22448)
• Bhubaneswar, India
21 Apr 11
though = thought Sorry for the typo
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@Sreekala (19230)
• India
21 Apr 11
I support you here
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
21 Apr 11
sids dear never mind the topic... at least you still drop by ...and not confused
@Sreekala (19230)
• India
21 Apr 11
What you are asking dear? Better start some puzzles
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@shibham (17025)
• India
21 Apr 11
hahahahaha....
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
21 Apr 11
sree I am asking how to love someone who never exists puzzle...okay... let me try this one : "why do you think carrots is good for the eyes" (oh my...my poor vision) hehehe
@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
21 Apr 11
shiby... why are you laughing....do i look like a clown?
@voldrox (7205)
• India
21 Apr 11
Hello jaiho I guess my ex was in a fantasy world, feeling what all she wanted just by thinking that she is in love, she needed the feeling of being in love rather than me. And when she felt i was being too available and binding (as she says she felt at times) . It has now become obvious that she never understood the meaning of commitment. She is very immature and awesomely stubborn. I can hardly do anything but for her to hurt me like this and leave me in the end, just because she was not getting what she wanted from me. I gave her everything i could. My love story is bizarre and weird, because it had to end just like that, we were in for two years of relationship and then i felt something changing in her, she wasn't paying me much attention and one day she just says she was wanting to get away from me for months. I give up... I can't love someone like that, who doesn't know how much hurting they can get. Honestly, i am happy this ended because she never gave me that reassurance of our commitment and i always felt like i was the one who was bearing the burden of keeping this relationship working for both of us. She will however (i hope) understand what she did to me. No, i don't want her to feel guilty but i want her to know, how it feels to break someone's heart like that. Honestly, getting over my ex would have been a lot more harder had she been some understanding girl. But anyways, no break ups end without one of the hearts being broken, and in this case it was my heart and i don't even know if she felt the guilt somewhere inside her. Only one thing makes me keep going on. That i was true to myself and that i gave her true love. I feel good about myself for the person i am and i am sure God has someone better for me.
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
22 Apr 11
@voldrox (7205)
• India
25 Apr 11
Thanks for the best response Jaiho.
@Neel2011 (28)
• India
22 Apr 11
Without desire of getting Giving is LOve Without wish of returning Doing is LOVe Without feel of sadness Smiling is Love LOve is nt in you Nt depend on any particular Eternal peace eveif crowd or loud voice sorrounded you Rainbow's colour blinks whether day or night arround you Frealessly,independently,confidentaly Go ahead by you called Love !!! It's nt consistent in a person,on a thing or within a concept LOve is passion for which one can go across all baoundraies And cross beyond limit.
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
23 Apr 11
hello neel, Love really knows no boundaries...and i've done it in real life. I am a stubborn when it comes to love. But now i know my limitations...and i know love hurts...to better avoid love before getting hurt again (just my views) i know love will always be there...and i am always in love even thu it hurts (confused eh?..hehehe) thanks for this nice poem...love have a great weekend
• India
23 Apr 11
I felt Love very closely,in real,in practical way Whether it hurts many time bt for live it's d only way to win anything whatever it is May relation,may profession or may in own way Love is the ultimate truth of life Hope and beleif may include in this type Providing motivation,support & inspiration Sumtime frustration,upset or may God's creation I felt Love very closely,in real,in practical way whether it hurts many time bt for live it's d only way
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• India
22 Apr 11
Jai beta I get so emotional while reading the poem and the contents, you are ventilating your feelings in all your discussions, i am sure you feel light, i was married in 1966, she was 16 then, no love affaris, wish i could have some affairs before marriage, but there is no chance now, nor i want it.. Thanks for sharing Cheers. God bless you, have a nice day ahead. Professor ‘Bhuwan’. .
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
23 Apr 11
hello dada, Yes i am venting out what i feel inside,it helps me then. Your beta never get's tired of talking about love...it is what i am longing for "a love that's true and lasting one" oppps...dada,never wish for any affairs,it is harmful to your health
@albert911 (169)
• Thailand
22 Apr 11
Love and relationships should be build on trust, faith and committment. The physical "love" is just icing on the cake, which may melt, dissapear or change over time. As long as the underlying three (above) principles are still honoured, people are still "in love" in a relationship. Tine should be able to overcome your distress, yet your wounds remain for all the time to come. "Better to have lost love - than never to have loved at all! - the wise saying goes.
@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
23 Apr 11
hello albert, Nice words...don't forget "respect" That's what i always need in a relationship "respect" (aside from those 3 you've mention) And as the wise sayings...i already done that... so my saying changed...i've already experienced love and lost it...now,i rather lost love than being hurt again (just my opinion) it's always great to be in love...and love will always be a great feeling (thu it hurts in reality) thanks for your response and have a great day
@hiddenwing (3721)
• China
22 Apr 11
I am sort of coward for love. When there is some difficulty, I would like to let it go. My boyfriend and I are like some pathetic couples in shakespeare's novel. His mother sort of considered his son as his lover. Thus, she would rather die be together with his son for a whole life. I really did wanna leave him for this situation. However, so many things happened...I went to another country since I really couldn't stand his mother anymore. He was here beside me now. I don't know what will happen in the futuer..If things get worse, I will be brave and love my life anyway.
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
23 Apr 11
hello hw, Every story has an ending. No matter how we tried to make the best ending,yet some people will be there to interrupt and want to change the ending of our story. Yes,it is our own life...don't let other people interrupt. I know it's not kind of other person in your story since it is his mother... but,must be a mother be the one who make her son's life miserable? (this is ridiculous) sorry to hear you are facing this kind of situation... be brave,and be strong... i wish you all the best of everything. thanks for sharing your story and have a great weekend
@sunnycool (12737)
• India
22 Apr 11
I'm no love guru to utter sweet words round the clock ... all i need is someone who loves me for what i'm ... she gotta accept the good and bad in me! As of fighting for love ... i dont know about others but i would NEVER BACK DOWN no matter what. Cowards quit halfway ... i ain't one of them Great day.
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
23 Apr 11
hello sunny, Now i believe and understand why you are cool (yeah) you're a real cool,and i like your response. Cowards quit halfway I never quit halfway before,i did a great fight for my love. Unfortunately my best wasn't good enough,i did win,but later lost. I've learn a lot from that experience. Now i tend to end every relationship attempts before it could start. I don't want to be hurt,and i am tired of hoping and loving. I hope you will also win your battle and i wish you all the luck. Every fate is not the same...i am sure your destiny is far luckier than mine. have a great weekend
@katrinapaz (2438)
• Philippines
22 Apr 11
I dont want to give up on someone that I love but if ever my family is strongly disagreeing with me and does not like my lover, I would then think deeply if my lover is good for me. I believe my family will help me to whom to choose as my partner in life.
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
23 Apr 11
hello katrina, Good to see again. Our family can always suggest and can give advice,it is their obligation and that's their way of showing concern and love to us. But still,they're not the one who's going to choose who we are going to love to. This is my opinion,i respect others who always follow their parents and loved ones even with choosing their lifetime partner. Me,i have gone to disobeying my parents to follow my heart. And so unlucky my choice is wrong...(sighs) Okay better listen to your parents then
• Mexico
21 Apr 11
Hi jaiho: I believe in the power of love and I tyhink that all these obstacles can be overcome so my answer will be yes. If we both love each other I think that we can fight against the circumstances. I know this sounds too idealistic but I don't find a good reason to stop loving a person that maybe is the one for you just because society consider that you shouldn't love him/her. ALVARO
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
21 Apr 11
hello Alvaro, It's not idealistic...but it's realistic. In the name of love,some people really break rules,of culture/tradition/beliefs and others. I admire people who really knows what they want and have the courage to fight for their love. It sounds like being disobedient or disrespectful...but still for me it is freedom. I believed that,everyone has the right to choose when it comes to love. thanks again for your share of response and for always dropping by... have a great day always my friend
• Philippines
21 Apr 11
hi jaiho, In love we will always encounter hindrance and will struggle a lot only true love can survive You know why i hate arrange marriage because once i almost fall in love to an Indian Guy (Shiby i can explain this LOL)i know the feelings are mutual but sad to say they have this hundred year old tradition (no offense meant) that he cannot break so i just throw all my feelings for him Anyway i just hope Shiby can break this tradition for me have a nice day!
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@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
21 Apr 11
Ok...if Shiby cannot break this tradition.. i am sure he can't find my prince either ... then... i have to posts a new requirement Man and Human should be a Tiger... and can break Tradition