how do you choose between two people you love and who love you?

@misc11 (384)
United States
April 23, 2011 9:35pm CST
I think this is one of the hardest decisions you make....choosing between two people you love and two people who love you back. It is hard when you don't expect it to happen at one time and you don't know which way to go because you can't be with both people. I have a boyfriend I love very much and we are happy but I also have an ex who recently came back in my life who I also love very much. Both relationships are very different and I love different things about each one...but how do you decide which one is better and which one will work out? what is your opinion? have you been in this situation? if so, what did you do and how did it turn out?
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11 responses
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
25 Apr 11
This is really a tough choice. I think trust is a very big issue. Which can you trust more?? You could also do lists of pros and cons. I wish you all the best..let us know what happens.
@youless (90127)
• Guangzhou, China
25 Apr 11
I am not quite sure, if he is already your ex-boyfriend, namely you broke up due to some reasons. And therefore later you meet your current boyfriend and you are in love and happy with each other. So I can't see there is a reason to give up the current relationship. Let the begones be begone. I love China
• Philippines
25 Apr 11
I always choose the one I cannot live without, the one who never gave me less heartache, and the one who cherishes me the most.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
24 Apr 11
Love i a hard choice to make. Let your heaert be your guide and it ill never fail you.
• India
24 Apr 11
I will choose the person who loves me over the person I love simply for the fact that i will be more happy with the later but a lot more satisfied with the previous one.But your problem does not involve this dilemna infact I feel that both you and your ex are in love with each other,however you are attracted to your current and do not want to hurt him.So you must go for the relationship which is two sided instead of a one sided one.Aside just give it a thought why you and your ex went apart in the first place,can you guarantee that it wont be repeated?
@toniganzon (48524)
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
I chose the one who could love me indefinitely and unconditionally. Before I married my husband I was in such a dilemma but God helped me choose the best one. Weeks ago a friend told me there's a big difference being in love and just love. Try to assess your emotion if who between the two are you in love with. Hope that you'll soon realize it before you make a mistake and regret anything. Good luck.
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
Halu misc11, for my own opinion,if im in your situation,i should choose and stay with my boyfriend who i loved so much and loves me truly.the important now is who is with you and loves you whoever you are,cares you much,understand you every time,and of course we can't avoid quarrels sometimes,but if you loves each other faithfully ,you can handle and manage this kind of situation.why can i go for another relationship if im contented and happy with whose beside me. thanks and GOD BLESS
@jbrooks0127 (2327)
• United States
24 Apr 11
In very simple terms try to remember back to why your ex is your ex. Things must have gone bad for you for some reason or you still would be together. One thing is absolute you can't have both. Ask yourself why your ex is all of a sudden back in your life. Did he leave you or did you leave him? Make sure that love you now feel for him is not something you always hoped would be there but you lost. If you don't get straight about how you really feel then you need to back away from both until you get your mind right. If they both love you then you are going to hurt someone so it had better be the one that is good for you in the long haul. You must do this because being in the middle of a love triangle will get you no where but lost. What ever you do make sure that you don't loose both. It can happen if you can't make up your mind. It will be hard but you must pick the one that is good for you and go for it. If you don't you will regret it.
• Argentina
24 Apr 11
It is harder, really. I used to be with someone for who I felt something really intense, I guess that was the first and unique time I felt in love, until now. But because of a serie of problems we end up. He was my professor and I was too young, actually. After that I met many people but I never felt in love with nobody. A year and a half ago I moved to London to live with my aunt because I wanted study there, and I met the son of one of my aunt's best friend. I stayed there for almost 9 months and during that time we were really good friends, but some other things happened too. This is the second time I feel something intense for somebody, and I know I love him, but I'm still loving my professor. I still having contact with both, and sincerely, I don't know what to do. Both are very different and I feel different yet interesting things for both. Anyway, I guess I would choose my friend, he's my age, not older, and right now, I'm feeling stronger things for him, he just turns me crazy like nobody else. But it still being harder... :(
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
hello misc, If you really love your EX boyfriend you should still in a relationship with him right now and if you think you really love your Current boyfriend you will not feel what you feel with your Ex boyfriend our feelings can be tricky sometimes but you must remember if you break one heart you should face the consequences, you also need to be wise which one you should choose. If you are happy and in love with the current one stick with him have a great sunday!
@albert911 (169)
• Thailand
24 Apr 11
I would choose the one I can trust more, the one I see myself in a 10 years from now, the one I might start a family with, they one I could depend on more, the one I have more faith in will never let me down,...... Trust me, only time will/can tell whether you've bet on the right horse. For now let your instincts decide.