Being frustrated for no reason

United States
April 24, 2011 2:27am CST
As a child I was always angry for no reason. I had a big temper, and my family's friends would look at me like I was either crazy or stupid. This was at a very young age. I know this because I saw home videos of myself and I was very shocked at my behavior. I was uncontrollably distressed and angry. I think this lasted for a long time, even until today, because although I'm not always crying or screaming, I am always annoyed by things. Right now, I have come to think of this symbolically, as a problem of society. People would look at me like I was crazy, but why? This was the main thing that has hurt me growing up. People not understanding. I know right now, people would legitimately say I am immature if I scream for no reason. But I couldn't help myself when I was younger. Even my own father seemed to be ashamed of me, and I didn't understand why. I was being myself, and yet everyone thought I was terrible. I have written some discussions about understanding so I'm sorry if this is redundant. Basically, I want to know what you think - is this a problem of society? How do you think this problem can be approached?
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9 responses
@lyzabelle (1669)
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
I don't want to sound sarcastic but definitely you have attitude problem and it's not quite normal. Instead if complaining that people don't understand you, maybe it's about time for you to understand why people reacted to you in negative manner. It's abnormal when you always feel annoyed and irritated with people especially with no particular reason. You can changed your behavior slowly by seeing how some people react and feel. You should know that too much negativity around or inside you will only make you an outcast or will push people away from you. About time you have to work out with your attitude, it's the only way to fit with the crowd. Please don't feel bad about what I say here it's for your own good.
• United States
24 Apr 11
don't want to sound sarcastic either but it isn't everyone's goal to fit in with the crowd. maybe some people have other things in mind besides pleasing everyone else?
• China
24 Apr 11
It reminds me of what i do is i shouted at my mother when i was upset in the school.And after,i was very ashamed.i hurt my mother that i shouldn't had done.As far as i am concerned,we would control our temper instead of angrying with other people which can hurt them.
• United States
24 Apr 11
yes society has the role of making people feel ashamed for doing nothing. People should feel free to shout, not be silenced for the sake of the classroom.
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
hi there. i cant seem to point out a problem with society as a whole since it is composed of different people. so in my opinion its a matter of how people coincide with the presence of each other. and of course it all comes down to how you react with people around you. but then again i understand what it feels like on your part getting annoyed all the time as i know someone of the same condition as yours. this person easily gets annoyed as well but then its how you cope with that. if you cant control this, this might be some inner problem of yours and you need to see someone. but if you think this is just something that bugs you, you can try and control it if you are able to and at least keep it to a minimum. i do believe that you are a good person and all of us deserve a chance of happiness. so try and be happy. dont mind those other people that annoy you. they just cant understand what you are going through thats why they think you are crazy or something. happy easter and enjoy the day.
• United States
24 Apr 11
happy easter to you too, and well, I think one thing about society is that there are expectations we each have of others due to what we were taught growing up. Some times I wish I was a wild animal so I could roam free. How about you?
@edsss17 (4398)
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
I am like you too! I am always angry for no reasons and I have a big temper too.. But I keep on controlling it until I know the technique! I think its really up to you how you hold you it.. Its only you how to control yourself.
• United States
24 Apr 11
Yes, self control is important when it comes to dealing with innocent people. It is no one's fault that I get angry.
@ivane07 (76)
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
I think you should seek medical intervention. I suggest that you go to a psychologist to advice you on what you should do. You probably have some events in your life that might have contributed to what you are acting right now. Being angry is a normal response to stress but going beyond extremes is also not good. Try to consider the feelings of other people, you might not noticed but you might gave hurt them in a way.
• United States
24 Apr 11
I don't think i have gone to any extremes.. I always hold in my anger, I don't physically hurt anyone and I don't argue with people very much. Still, I think you are right that a psychologist could offer some therapy.
• Southend-On-Sea, England
30 Apr 11
It sounds like you have a lot of repressed anger that gets bottled up and as it has to come out at some time, it flares up out of you with possibly little or no provocation. Have you thought of having some therapy or anger management to help you find out what your trigger points are so they can be dealt with?
@cream97 (29175)
• United States
28 Apr 11
Hi. sashakiddo. Instead of your father being frustrated with you, I think that he should have sat down and talked to you instead. He should have supported you when you were going through your temper tantrums. Could it be that you were angry about how you was feeling inside? I mean you were so outrage that you didn't know it. I think that the reason that you were frustrated is because you was not shown the love and the attention that a child is supposed to feel. Your father should never be ashamed of you. He should have gotten you some mental help so that you could maintain your anger and frustration issues.
• United States
28 Apr 11
I had a really tough upbringing and had always learned to suppress my feelings which always appeared to make look and feel irritated and angry all the time. Later in life I realized I was only hurting me more so then hurting others for the damage instilled in me so I have learned not to hold in and be more relaxed with my self and able to tackle life.
@LeonHo (34)
• United States
25 Apr 11
I totally feel you. I get mad over little things, but it's just those little things that add up to create that huge mass of stress. Not only that, but I don't want others to worry, so I don't tell them, but the problem is that they are oblivious, so they just keep adding it. I've got to the point where sometimes I feel like cutting myself. One of the ways I try to escape from this is through music, it helps, loud or soft, anime seems to help too. Parents just don't understand our problems because we(I) just don't want them to worry about me too much as they have enough stress and other stuff to worry about work and etc. You feel me?